Umbuzo wokuba ubuhle kwaye ukhangele, uhlala ujabulisa isiqingatha esihle sabantu. Kwakhona kunomdla ukuba abesifazana, ababhekisiwe ukuba "ubuhle", ekuhloliseni okufutshane akuphelelwanga neziphene. Kutheni abanye banesihloko esithi "sihle kakhulu kwaye sinomtsalane", ngelixa abanye, malunga needata efanayo, baziwa njengeigundane ezimpunga?
Indlela yokuba yindle kwaye ikhangele: ukuzithemba
Ingxaki yabaninzi abasetyhini ayikho konke ukungapheleli kwedatha yabo, kodwa ngokuzithoba . Kwimininzi ithabathela ebuntwaneni: oomama bahlala bengayiqapheli ukubonakala kwamakhwenkwe abo "abazange bazikhukhumeze". Ngenxa yoko, intombazana ekhulile iyazibheka njengowona oqhelekileyo, kwaye oku kubonakaliswa kwintetho yakhe engeyintetho-ubuso, ubuso, ukunyameka. Ukuze intombazana yona iyakuthanda kunye nokubonakala kwayo, utshintsho olungcono alukwazi ukulinda.
Kwiklasi nganye kukho "ubuhle" obufana nabafana. Enyanisweni, ayikho into enhle kakhulu, kodwa i-100% iyona nto inokuzithemba. Ngaba ufuna ukuba mnandi? Khulisa ukuzithemba!
Thatha umgaqo ukuba ungagcini ingqalelo kwiimpazamo zakho, kodwa ucinge ngezinto ezintle kuwe. Njalo xa unquma ukuphawula ngokwengqondo yakho ingxaki, ukuguqulela iingcamango kwisitrato esakhayo: nokuba unqamle isiphako, ukuba kunokwenzeka, okanye ucinge ngamanye, izinto ezikholisa kakhulu.
Indlela yokuba ibe yindle ngakumbi kwaye ikhangele?
Amadoda ayithobeli ingqalelo kwiinkcukacha, kodwa kumfanekiso ngokubanzi. Akukho mntu uya kuphawula ukuba unempumlo encinane nje ukuba unxibe kakuhle kwaye udwebe kakuhle. Kufuneka ukhanye ngokupheleleyo, oku kuya kwandisa ukuzithemba kwakho. Zilinganise ngokuchanekileyo:
- Yima kwisibuko, zihlolisise uvela kumacala onke uze uphephe
amandla abo: umzekelo, ukukhula okuphezulu, ukunyamezela, amehlo amakhulu, imilenze ende, iimpawu zobuso ezihambelanayo. Xa ukhe ukhetha kubo, bhetele. - Qaphela kwakhona ukungalungi kwimeko yangaphandle, ozama ukuyifihla: umzekelo, okwaneleyo amabele abuza kulungisa i-bush-up, imilomo emihle-ukulungiswa okuchanekileyo, njl njl.
- Yenzele umfanekiso apho isigxina sakho sigxininiswe khona, kwaye iimpazamo zifihliwe. Khumbula oku.
Njalo qaphela imeko yesikhumba, iinwele, izipikili. Khetha izambatho kungekho kumgaqo "kwaye uza kuhla", kwaye udale umfanekiso opheleleyo. Nsuku zonke kufuneka ukhangele ukuze uzithande - kwaye wena ngokwakho ngeke uqaphele indlela abaye batyeleka ngayo.