Ukuncoma kumntu othandekayo

Bonke abesetyhini basebenziselwa ukuba iincoma zilungelo. Kodwa asifane sicinge ngento yokuba intombi ethandekayo kunye namagama athandekayo anjengoko mnandi ngathi. Indoda idinga ukuzaliswa ngokuzenzekelayo kokuzithemba kwayo, ngoko ke uthi ukuncoma kumntu ozithandayo rhoqo kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Emva kokuncoma okufanelekileyo, uya kuziphatha njengomntu oyinyaniso.

Ngoku ungacinga: "Hayi, ndiya kuhamba, ndiza kuhlamba indoda yam intanda, kwaye zonke iiminqweno zam ziya kuzaliseka ngokukhawuleza." Kodwa ukuba yonke into yayilula, ke le nqaku ayiyi kuvela, eya kukuxelela ukuba yeyiphi amagama afana namadoda kunye nendlela yokungena kwimiphumo emibi.

Akunakwenzeka ukuba ungene kwi-slump?

Simele sihlale sikhumbula ukuba sithethezela ummeli wesini esomeleleyo, ngoko kubalulekile ukuba amagama akhethiweyo agxininise ubukhulu bakhe kunye nobubi. Le mabinzana esoloko sithetha kubasetyhini, kulo mzekelo, unokukhubekisa isidima sonyulwa wakho.

Mhlawumbi, ngamnye wethu wayezibuza ukuba yintoni ukuncoma ukuba enze umntu. Siyaqaphela ngokukhawuleza ukuba amadoda asebenza kakuhle ngengqondo, kwaye ngoko ngoko uvakalelwa ngokukhawuleza kunye nemisebenzi emazwini akho. Ngoko ke, kufuneka ukwazi ukuncoma xa isenzo simele siyixhamle. Ukuba uqala ukuzithanda izinto ngokukhawuleza, unokuhlazisa indoda. Yingakho kubalulekile ukugcina lo mda.

Ukuba umntu uyakhonkotha isilumko okanye ahlaziye i-bulb, musa ukuqubuka ngokukhawuleza, ubuncinane, oku kuya kubangela ukuphazamiseka. Ngako oko, kuyimfuneko ukuba ugxininise izenzo ezenzakalisa ukunyaniseka kwakho, nangona loo ndoda ichithe ixesha elide kule nto okanye ukususela kwinqanaba lokuqala engazange iphelele, njengoko sifuna.

Amaqhinga amabhinqa, okanye "U-Darling, uhle!"

Kubalulekile ukukhetha intetho efanelekileyo, apho uya kukuncoma umyeni wakho okanye intombi. Akunakufaneka ukuba ahlasele, amazwi akho kufuneka ayenze. Kwakhona ukhumbule inkohliso encinane: amadoda anqwenela ukuthotywa kwezinto ezincinci, ngoko gweba intetho ephakamileyo, into ephambili - ungayidluli.

Ukongezelela, ungasebenzisa enye indlela: ubuntwana obuncinane kunye nombono ongenatyala lomntwana uya kuphakamisa isimo sengqondo sakho sithandwa. Ngokomzekelo, zama ukuza kwaye ngendlela enjengomntwana, uyibambe ngenyameko kuye uze uthi into elula, kodwa inyanisekileyo. Le ndoda ayiyi kuba nomdla kwizinto ozenzele kuye ngokukhawuleza, yena ngokwakhe uphupha isizathu sokuba umxelele njalo.

Ukuba uyibizile ngokumangalisayo, ngoko uya kuzama ukuphakama kuyo yonke into. Ngenxa yoko, ukuncoma kumntu kuyisityebi esinamandla. Kwakhona indlela efanelekileyo yokuvavanya umlingiswa wakhe. Ukuba uyancoma ngomoya ocolileyo, unokujonga ukuba unemvakalelo, nokuba uyacaphuka okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, uya kuvuya.

Ukuncoma kumntu othandekayo nako kunokuba yindlela yokwenza imfundo kwakhona. Ukuba unento engenakongeza okanye engenziyo ufuna ukwenza into ethile, ungaqali ukummangalela. Kungcono ukuzama ukumxhasa kwaye uthethe ibinzana eliya kumkhuthaza kwaye limkhuthaze ukuba athathe amanyathelo athile, umzekelo: "Mzalwana, ndiqinisekile ukuba akukho mntu ungakwenza oku kodwa" "Ndiqinisekile ukuba uya kuphumelela." Emva koko le ndoda iya kuzama ukuzityhila ngokusemandleni akho ukuze ilungele ukuba nethemba elibekiwe kuye.

Okona kubaluleke - ungalokothi ukhohlwe ukuba intombazo kufuneka ivela entliziyweni, ukusuka entliziyweni. Kumele ube nemvakalelo yomntu, ngaphandle koko yonke imizamo yakho iya kuba yinto engekho, kwaye ubuxoki buya kubonakala.