Ngamanye amaxesha umfazi ucinga nje ukuba uvelwano lwakhe luhlobene njani naye. Phakathi komhla wokuqala kunye nesibhengezo sothando, njengomgaqo, ixesha elide kufuneka lidlule. Kuthekani ukuba umonde uphumelela kwaye umntu uyakuthanda njani ukuqonda, nini kubaluleke kangaka? Makhe siyihlele ngokulandelelana.
Ngqongqo ngamanqaku
Abanye ngamabhinqa maxa wambi babonisa isibindi kunye neqhinga kwimeko yokuqatshelwa kwiimvakalelo. Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba ndixelele indoda okanye indoda ngothando lwakhe, ndifuna ukuqonda ukuba uyayithanda. Emva kwakho konke, sonke, enye indlela okanye enye, sibalo kunye nethemba lokuphindaphinda.
Inyaniso yokuba indoda ithandwa kuwe kuphela ngokwemigqaliselo yesondo, iya kuthi le miqondiso ilandelayo:
- akaqhelekanga ngebhizinisi lakho kunye nomoya wakho, ukhetha ngokukhawuleza ukuba "wehla kwishishini";
- uyasuka ekuxazululeni iingxaki zakho, akaboneleli ngenkxaso kunye noncedo;
- unqabile ukuya khona, umzekelo, kwi-movie okanye kwiklabhu. Ngokwenene, usichitha ixesha okanye kwelinye lakho ekhaya, okanye kwigumbi lehotele;
- akafuni ukuthetha nawe ngezinto ezinzulu, izinto zakhe, intsapho yakhe kunye nabantwana;
- Intuition ikuxelela ukuba olu lwalamano lusekelwe kuphela kwisini.
Kwakhona kwenzeka ukuba indoda ikubona njengomhlobo, umhlobo, kodwa akukho nto. Akafuni ukucaphukisa inceba yakho ngokucacileyo kuye, ngoko uzama ukuziphatha kakuhle. Amantombazana amaninzi ayadibanisa oku phantse ngesiphakamiso sangaphambili sesandla nentliziyo. Akukho imfuneko yokutya izilwanyana, ukuba:
- akakuxeleli abanye njengentombi yakhe;
- kwingxoxo nawe, udla ngokuthetha ngendlela enenhlanhla ngayo kunye nomhlobo onjalo;
- Unika ngcebiso ngothando ngamanye amadoda, uzama ukukuqhelanisa nabahlobo bakhe;
- sichitha ixesha kunye xa usungumceli wale holide edibeneyo;
- wenza okuthile kwimeko apho athembisa ukuba uyakwenza.
Ulawulo jikelele
Indlela yokuqonda ukuba umntu uyakuthanda, nokuba ungumyeni wakho, umthandi, okanye umthandi wangaphambili. Kukho amaxesha athile anikezela nayiphi na ummeli wesigxina esinamandla, "osulelekileyo" ngesifo somkhuhlane. Ungathandabuzi iimvakalelo zakhe ukuba:
- Indoda ibonisa umdla okhethekileyo kuwe. Uhlala efumanisa indlela lakho ishishini, yintoni eyenzekayo emsebenzini, ekhaya, kwintsapho, njl.;
- Unika imiqondiso emnandi yokwazisa, uzama ukuqagela iimvakalelo kunye neminqweno yakho;
- Unentloni ebusweni bakho, ngamanye amaxesha amahlaya ayiphumelelanga, kodwa uhlala ephulaphule oko uthethayo;
- umntu uthatha inxaxheba ebomini bakho, unomdla. Inika uncedo lwayo ekuxazululeni iingxaki, kubandakanywa nemali;
- uhlonipha uluvo lwakho;
- indoda iphulaphule icebiso lakho;
- Musa ukugxekisa ngaphandle kwesizathu esibalulekileyo;
- soloko ezisa abantu abazaziyo, izihlobo kunye nabantu basekuhlaleni;
- Ungalibali ukubiza ubuncinane kanye ngosuku kwaye ubuze indlela impumelelo yakho ngayo;
- Uyabathanda abantwana bakho ngokufanayo naye;
- uyamthanda umntanakho, ngubani ongowasekhaya;
- Ukwakha izicwangciso zexesha elizayo, apho kukho indawo kuwe;
- kaninzi akuthi "mna", kodwa "thina";
- ebhedeni, uyayikhathalela umnqweno wokunikela ngokukhululeka kuwe;
- umntu onithandayo akayi kuphakamisa isandla sakhe ngokumelene nawe.
Ekugqibeleni
Iyintoni uthando lomntu? Ukunyamekela, umonde, ububele nokunye okuninzi, njengoko sele sichazile. Nangona kunjalo, kuyafaneleka ukuqwalasela enye into.
Ngokuphathelele amadoda, izinto zihlukile apha. Kuye, uthando lomfazi luyolonwabo, intlalo enxulumene nayo. Oku akusiyo kuphela inxalenye esondeleyo yolwalamano, kodwa kunye nokuvisisana ngokomoya, ukusondelana, uluntu lwabantu abanomdla. Ngokukhawuleza xa iqabane liyeka ukufumana oku kusuka kuwe, lilahlekelwa ngumdla, ngoko ke kunokwenzeka ukuba uya kuhamba.
Khumbula oku kwaye ungenzi iimpazamo zobuwula.