Ukuhlukana ebomini bakhe, mhlawumbi, amava onke amabhinqa ngamanye amaxesha kunye nolwalamano oludlulileyo alulibalekanga ixesha elide, ukuqhuba ukuxinezeleka. Ukuze uncede ngeelahleko ezincinci ukuthetha ukuba ulahlekelwe ngaphambili, kufuneka ufumane iingcebiso malunga nendlela oyilibala ngayo uthando . Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukuqonda oko kwenzekayo kwaye ukuqonda ukuba lixesha elidlulileyo kunye nekamva elihle elizayo. Kubalulekile ukuhlalutya imeko, ukufumana izigqibo kwaye uqhubeke phambili.
Ungakulibala njani uthando oludlulileyo?
Intshaba ebalulekileyo yabasetyhini kwiimeko ezinjalo ziingcamango ezingavumeli ukuba umthandi wangaphambili akhohlwe. Ngexesha elifanayo, kufuneka kuthethwe ukuba ininzi iindumbulo ezilungileyo zivela kwintloko yam, kwaye, ngokombono weengqondo, le mpazamo. Kunconywa, ngokuchaseneyo, ukujonga ubudlelwane obuvela kwicala elingalunganga, eliza kucacisa ukuba i-gap yayiyinzuzo kuphela. Ziqhayisa ngokufuna ukubiza okanye ukubhala umntu owayengumthandi.
Ukufumanisa indlela yokulibala uthando olungathandabuzekiyo, kukufanelekile ukunika iingcebiso ezithandwa kakhulu kwizengqondo-zifumane umsebenzi oza kuvuya kwaye uthathe zonke iingcamango. Oku kungaba ngumsebenzi oyintandokazi, ukuzonwabisa, ukufunda iincwadi, njl. Ukuphazamisa, kucetyiswa ukuba utshintshe imeko uze uhambo. Ukuba uchitha ixesha wedwa, ngoko awukwazi ukulibala uthando oludala, kuba iingcamango ezibuhlungu ziya kuguquka njengebhola lebhola. Esinye isigaba esibalulekileyo 'sokuphucula' kunguqu lwangaphandle. Ungazichukumisi kwaye uhambe kumntu othethileyo, kwaye uya kuthatha umfanekiso omtsha oza kunika ukuzithemba kwaye akuvumele ukuba uqhube phambili ngokuphumelelayo. Ukuba ukudabuka kukukhawuleza, izazi zeengqondo zincoma ukuba zikholise ngokwabo, zenzele naziphi na iphupha. Oku kuya kukuvumela ukuba ufumane isicatshulwa semvakalelo efunekayo ukuze ubuyisele imali.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ingava njani, umncedisi ongcono kakhulu kule meko lixesha. Kubalulekile ukuvumela ukuhamba kwimeko kwaye uhambe kunye nomhla ngaphandle kokujonga emva.