Abaninzi abanakuziqonda ngokwabo kwaye bafuna inkcazelo yentswelo yothando. Sinikela ingqalelo kwiinketho ezininzi eziza kukubonisa indlela yokwahlula uthando lokwenene oluvela othandweni, uthando kunye neminye imizwa efanayo ekwazi ukubopha abantu ababini.
Iimvakalelo zothando zibonakaliswa njani?
Umehluko omkhulu phakathi kothando kunye nezinye iimvakalelo kukungabikho kobugovu ngokupheleleyo ngokuphathelele kwintando yothando. Ngamanye amazwi, umntu uya kubaluleke ngaphezu ko lonwabo othandayo, kunokuba abe nethuba lokuba naye, ukuba ngokukhawuleza kuvela ukuba iimvakalelo azihambisani.
Xa umntu ethandana, unyanzelekile-ufuna ixesha, ingqalelo yomntu othandekayo. Umthandi unelisekile - ufuna kuphela ukwenza into ebalulekileyo kumntu obaluleke kakhulu ebomini bakhe, ukumnika uvuyo. Inqweno yolonwabo ithatha ifomu elingenanto, njengengoma: "Ndiyathanda ukuba unonwabo, mawungabi kunye nam, ngoko ke kwenye ..."
Imvakalelo enamandla yothando
Ukuba sicinga uthando njengengqondo ephezulu kakhulu, kubalulekile ukuba siqaphele ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuba sicinge ngothando umvakalelo apho ukwamkelwa komnye umntu akungeneli kuwo onke amanqanaba. Kwimeko yothando lokwenene, luya kubonakala ngendlela yokutsalana nazo zonke iinjongo kunye nezitho zokujonga:
- Umbono - othandekayo uyamnandi ebusweni, kubonakala ngathi uyona nto ibhetele, nangona engabonakaliyo ngemilinganiselo ephantsi;
- ukuva - ilizwi lomntu othandekayo lihlala lincomekayo kakhulu;
- Ukuvumba - ukuvumba komzimba omthandayo kufana;
- Ukuthintela - ngokukhawuleza kudonsa kuye ukuchukumisa, ukuphazamiseka, njl.;
- ukunambitha - ukumanga komntu othandekayo kuya kuhlala kulungele phambili kwihlabathi, nangona ingafezekanga ngokweteknoloji.
Kuphela ukuba kukho ukukhanga okupheleleyo, ukwamkelwa ngokupheleleyo komlinganiso kunye neziphene (kwaye kungekhona nje icala elihle, njengalo thando), ukuvakalelwa kungathiwa kuthandwa. Njengomthetho, yenziwa kwiminyaka embalwa, kwaye ekuqaleni, xa umntu efungela omnye nomnye ngothando, kuthethwa ngokuthandana.
Ukuva uthando kuqala
Kwakukho kanye uphando olunzulu oluye lwabonakalisa ukuba umntwana osemtsha, phantsi kwefuthe luthando ngqondweni wakhe, ukhangeleka ngokukodwa kumntu onokukhubazeka kwengqondo. Umntu onjalo uya kuba mnandi kakhulu, unomdla kuphela ebomini bakhe abucala, uyaqiniseka ukuba akukho mntu uthanda kakhulu, kwaye akukho mntu uhlupheke kakhulu, kwaye ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuba ngaphezu kweemvakalelo zalo, le nto ayisayi kuba.
Nangona kunjalo, kamva, xa ixesha lidlulayo, ngokukhawuleza kuvela ukuba le nto ayilona uthando - nangona kunjalo, wonke umntu uyamkhumbula konke ubomi bakhe.