Ukungaqiniseki - into ebalulekileyo, ekuboneni kokuqala, engenakulimala kwaye ayibi. Kodwa unako ukuzisa umnini wawo ubuninzi bezinto eziphazamisayo kunye namathuba angaphoswa ukulungiselela ubomi bakhe. Abantu abangenakucacela xa belahlekelwa amandla abo ngaphakathi ukuze bafumane indlela yabo yobomi kwaye baqhubeke behamba kulo mzila baye kwiinjongo. Abalahlekelwa ukudibanisa neenjongo zabo zangaphakathi kunye neenjongo zabo kwaye abanako ukuzidela ekufezeni umsebenzi othile. Abantu abanjalo baxhomekeke kwimibono yabantu kunye neminqweno. Babuthathaka kwaye abakwazi ukubeka iinjongo zobungqina, njengoko zikhethwe ngamabomu ukuba zenzeke.
Izizathu zokungahambi kakuhle
Ukuze uqonde indlela yokulwa nokungahambi kakuhle, kubalulekile ukufumana izizathu zayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, isizathu salolu hlobo siyadumala. Iimpazamo zangaphambili kunye nokungafani kakuhle kwenza umntu abe mngcipheko. Ukulandelelana kweentsilelo kubulala ukuzithemba, kuphakamisa ukuba ulahlekile kwaye akufuneki ukuba ahlolisise isifo sakhe kwakhona, kufuneka nje ahlale engenzi lutho.
Ngamanye amaxesha, ukugxeka ingqalelo kubomi. Ukuba umntu wakhulela kwintsapho apho wonke umntu wagqiba yonke into, wayelawula zonke izenzo kwaye wayeka naluphi na ukubonakaliswa kweli nyathelo - unokuba ngumntu obuthathaka, umntu ongenakunyanisekileyo.
Ungakuphelisa njani ukunyaniseka?
- Ukuba inkulumo yakho isoloko ibinzana elithi "kungenzeka", "ukungathandabuzeki", "akuqinisekanga" kunye nezinto ezinjalo-eli lixesha lokubonisa. Ngokuqinisekileyo, eli binzana liqhelekile, kodwa balala kangaphi amaxesha ngosuku obabiza ngayo. Ukuba ngokuqhelekileyo - zilahla ngokukhawuleza. Thetha ngokunyanisekileyo, ngokuzithemba, thintela ingxoxo, ucebise ukuba awuzithembi kwaye ungaqiniseki.
- Nciphise ixesha lokuthatha izigqibo. Ukuba kukho imeko efuna isigqibo sakho, ungalibali ixesha elide, zama ukuhlalutya ngokukhawuleza oko kwenzekayo kwaye ucacise isicwangciso sokuphuma kuloo ntlekele. Ukucamngca okude akuqinisekisi ukuba umphumo ongcono. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ngokuchaseneyo, isisombululo sokuqala sibonisa ukuba sisona sichanekileyo, kuba sisamkelwa kwinqanaba elinobuchule.
- Ukuba ujongene nokukhetha okubalulekileyo: umyeni onokukhetha, ukuvumelana nesithuba esitsha okanye cha, bhala phantsi kwiphepha zonke iimigodi okanye iingenelo zaloo okanye eso sigqibo. Thelekisa iimbambano ezahlukeneyo kwaye ubhekisele kwingqiqo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, emva kokulinganisa zonke iingxaki kunye neengxaki, unokwenza isigqibo esifanelekileyo.
- Yiba nesibindi. Kububungqina obubangela ukuba kuvele ukuzithemba nokuzimisela. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba unesaba ukuthetha ngesidlangalaleni ngenxa yokwesaba kwakho, thetha kuqala ngaphandle kwababukeli, ngoko phambi kweentsapho zakho, uze ucele abahlobo bakho ukuba bakuphulaphule intetho yakho kwaye kuya kuba lula kuwe ukuba uthethe nabaphulaphuli abaninzi. Musa nje ukuzisela kwindawo yokungaqondi -
ukuxhuma ephahleni lendlu akuyi kunceda ukunqoba ukwesaba kweendawo eziphakamileyo.
Ukuba ngaba iingcebiso ezingentla zingakunceda - mhlawumbi isizathu sokuba unganyanzeleki kuzinzulu kwi-subconscious kwaye kunokukhishwa kuphela yingcali. Ukuphendukela kwi-psychologist onamava, uya kufunda indlela yokujongana nokuzikhethela kwakho kwaye ube ngumntu okhukhumeleyo nonenjongo. Yaye ukhumbule ukuba iimpazamo kunye nokungaphumeleli kufumaneka kwindlela yabantu bonke. Bonke abantu abadumileyo nabadumileyo bahamba ngayo, kodwa abazange bayeke, kodwa baqina ngakumbi. Yaye xa ukugqithiswa komlinge kwakhona kuzama ukumelana nokuphuhliswa kwakho, yixoshe. Sebenzisa wonke amathuba anikezelwe yintlekele kwaye qi ni sekise ukuba uya kuphumelela!