Ngokuqhelekileyo ingxaki yokuphuhliswa kweminyaka ivela ekuhlanganisweni kweendlela ezithile zokukhula komntu kwaye zihambelana nokutshintshwa kwendalo, ngokukodwa ukulungiswa kwenkqubo ye-hormonal, kunye neemeko zentlalo-zentlalo ezixhomekeke kwimeko kunye nokuma komntu kuluntu. Kwaye akunandaba nokuba ngumbuzo wengane yomntwana yobomi bomntu, okanye malunga neminyaka ekhulileyo.
Iimpawu eziphambili zeengxaki zokuphuhliswa kweminyaka zibaluleke kakhulu ukucinga kunye nokuhlaziywa kwakhona kwezikhokelo zobomi, ngokuqinisekileyo kubandakanya ukunciphisa ukusebenza kakuhle, ukungonakali ekusebenzeni kwezemfundo kunye nokuphulwa koqeqesho (ukuba ngumntwana oneminyaka esikolweni), kwaye, xa kukho imeko engabonakaliyo yentlalo, apho ekuqaleni kuya kudibaniswa nomnqweno wokubuyisela ihlabathi elikujikelezile, kwaye emva kokuqonda ukuba akunakwenzeka ukwenza oku, ngokuqhelekileyo kukho utshintsho lwezinto ezichaphazelekayo kwixinzelelo, enokuthi ibe namazinga ahlukeneyo obude.
Ndingumkani okanye akunkosi?
Phantse rhoqo iimeko zokukhula kwengqondo zenzeka kwiixesha lobomi xa sizama ukucacisa indawo yethu phantsi kwelanga, ukuvavanya umlinganiselo weyethu okanye enye intlalo "yentlalo", enqwenela ukubonakalisa kubo bonke abantu ukuba sinako ukubiza itrone " , kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni, nokuba yintoni isihloko sobuhle bokuqala besikolo okanye isihloko sozuko somqeshwa ogqwesileyo wenyanga. Into leyo kukuba ngexesha lonke lobunjwa bomntu, kukho ixesha elide, apho, ngenye indlela okanye enye, kufuneka silingeni thina kunye nehlabathi elisijikelezayo. Oku kuhambelana ngqo nokuziphendukela kwabantu. Kwimvelo, inamandla kakhulu isinda kwaye zonke iibhonasi ezinikezelwa ngobomi ziqokelelwa nguye.
Kwi-psyche yethu, kukho "ukhuseleko" olusuka ekuxinekeni, kodwa xa isalathisi siphukile, inkathazo enxulumene neminyaka ikhula kubuntu okanye, ukuba uthanda, umzuzu othile wokuqalisa. Kungatsholwa ukuba ngeli xesha, uhlobo luchaza ukuba lufanelekile ukukhuthaza ukuhlaziywa kwemfuza yomntu othile kwinqanaba lokuziphendukela kwemvelo, kwaye ukuba kunjalo, indlela yokumnceda ukuba aqonde amandla akhe kunye nobuthathaka ukuze aqonde indlela yakhe yophuhliso.
Ingaba kukho ipros?
Ngokudlulileyo, iingxaki ezinxulumene neminyaka ekuphuhlisweni komntu nazo zinegalelo elihle. Basifundisa injongo yokuzibona, esivumela ukuba sigweme ukuzingca ngokweqile kunye ne-megalomania kwixesha elizayo, ngaloo ndlela sikwazi ukuhlala sinoxolo kuluntu, ukuhlonipha nokubeka
Kwaye, ngendlela, ngokwemanani, ngaba ngababenokukwazi ukunika uvavanyo oluchanekileyo lwento yonke eyenzekayo ngexesha lexesha leengxaki zenkqubela, okwenza ngexesha elifanayo izigqibo ezifanelekileyo kwaye ziba ngamalungu amaninzi aphumeleleyo kuluntu, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni umgangatho wecandelo apho babandakanyekayo okanye ukuba yeyiphi inqanaba lentlalo. . Baya kuhlala bephakamileyo xa belingana ngokwezimo.