Ukunyaniseka kuyimpawu yomntu, echazwa njengokungabikho kokuqeqeshwa, ukunyamezela ekuziphatheni, ukungcola nokuziphatha kakubi. Ngokuqhelekileyo eli gama lisetyenziswe ngentsingiselo "yobundlobongela obuphathelele ngokwesondo", kodwa ngokwenene intsingiselo yalo ibanzi kwaye ingabandakanya ukukhwabanisa, ukusela utywala kunye nokungahambi kakuhle kweziseko zokuziphatha kunye neentloni zokwenza izinto ezingaqhelekanga.
Ukuziphatha kakubi ngokwesini
Ukunyaniseka kwintlalo yesini kuthetha ukungakwazi ukulawula iimfuno zesondo kunye nokuzimisela ukubandakanyeka kwisondo ngesondo ngaphandle kokuziphatha kwimiba yokuziphatha. Ubundlobongela obubesilisa nabesifazane bungabonakalisa ukukrexeza, utshintsho oluqhelekileyo lwentsebenziswano yezesondo, ubudlelwane bezesondo nabantu abangabaziyo (ngokuqhelekileyo kwisimo sokuxila).
Ukuba ubuhlobo bezesondo zangaphambili babonwa njengento ehlazo phambi komtshato, ngoku isibini sihlala ndawonye ngokukhululekile ngaphambi komtshato, kwaye ubudlelwane bezesondo buqala ngokuqala ukususela kumhla wokuqala. Nangona kwakukholelwa ukuba ngomhla wokuqala bekungeke kulungile ukumanga umntu.
Ngokwemvelaphi yeemeko ezidabukisayo ngokuphathelele kulo mba, ukuziphatha kakubi komntwana kukhula kwakhona: bonke abantwana abaselula kunye nabaselula balala ngesondo. Ngoku intombazana eneminyaka eyi-14-16 eyenza ukukhipha isisu ayisekhoyo.
Oososayensi baseNew Zealand bafumanisa ukuba ukuziphatha kakubi ngokwesini kuvelisa ezinye iintlobo zokuziphatha kakubi, kukhulisa ukuthambekela kwabo. Ngokomzekelo, abasetyhini abahlala beshintsha amaqabane abo ngokwesini banako ukusela nokusebenzisa iziyobisi. Izifundo zamadoda afana neepateni ezicacileyo azivumelanga ukuba zityhile.
Utywala: isifo okanye ukungcola?
Oogqirha bakholelwa ukuba utywala ngumzimba, kwaye kufuna unyango. Nangona kunjalo, uluntu lujonge ngolu hlobo: abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba akuyona into yokugula, kodwa ukuziphatha kakubi kokuziphatha kakubi. Enyanisweni, zombini zilungile, zombini, yodwa kuphela ngendlela yayo: utywala buyingqungquthela.
Abantu abakholelwa ukuba utywala ngumntu ongenalo mva, akazange abone imiphumo enjengomkhuhlane omhlophe, ukuxhatshazwa kwesifo sokufa okanye ukufa. Ingxaki kukuba umntu uzibhokoxa ngoku ngokuzithandela - emva koko, akukho namnye owenza ukuba aphuze, kwaye wenza oko ngokwakhe. Ngoko ke, iglasi yokuqala - oku kukubonakalisa ukunyaniseka, emva koko nayiphi na imiphumo engayilandelayo. Abaninzi baqala ukusela kwaye abanako ukuyeka baze banxiliswe ngokupheleleyo, kwaye i-blame yeso sigxina. Andizange ndiqalise - akukho nto iyakunqanda.
Ukuxiliswa koxwala njengesifo kunokuthi kubangelwa yintambo, isifo sengqondo esinxilisayo, ukuxhatshazwa, ukusela. Kule meko kunzima ukuhlangabezana nayo ngaphandle kweyonyango, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha akunakwenzeka. Ngelo xesha, akumangalisi: umntu ukhetha, ugula naye okanye angagula.
Kukho into elula kodwa ecacileyo ethi: "Awukwazi ukusela - ungaphuzi!". Kuthetha ukuthini ukusela? Kuthetha ukuhlala kuloo nto
Ukuxiliswa koxilongo kubalulekile ekuhluphekeni ngokuzithandela. Le ngenye yeemeko xa isigulane sinoxanduva lokubonakala kwesifo, kunye nesiphumo sayo. Ukuba umntu utshintshe uxanduva kwiintsapho, iyeza, ubomi - kakhulu, ukuphela kuya kuba lusizi. Kwaye kuphela ukwamukela uxanduva lomntu lokusela kunye nokwenza isigqibo sokunciphisa isisombululo kuya kunceda ukuphepha ingxaki.