Thina, oomama banamhlanje, sivame ukuva kuvela kubameli belizukulwana esidala ukuba iminyaka engamashumi amabini anesithathu, kwiminyaka emashumi mane edlulileyo abantwana (oko kukuthi, thina kunye nawe) babengenakuxhatshazeka, banenkani, bengenangqondo njengamanje. Enyanisweni, kukho inyaniso enkulu kumazwi abo. Isizukulwana ngasinye sabantwana sinempawu zabo zokuphuhliswa ngokomzwelo. Kutheni oku kwenzekayo?
Abantwana banamhlanje bakhula ngokukhawuleza kweenkcukacha. Ukuba ufunda le nqaku ngoku, ithetha ukuba awukho u-ascetic oye waya kwidolophana ekude kwaye walahla inzuzo yempucuko. Ngoko, ungazicingela ubomi bakho ngaphandle kweTV, ikhomputha kunye nokufikelela kwi-intanethi, ifowuni. Ngako oko, umntwanakho, mhlawumbi, sele sele esazi kakuhle izi zipho kunye nezinye izipho zenkqubela yezobugcisa kwinqanaba elithile (unyana wombhali wale nqaku, umzekelo, wafunda ukusebenzisa ulawulo olude ukusuka kwi-TV ebekwe kwiinyanga ezi-7).
Ukuxilongwa ngokuphuhliswa kwengqondo nokuziphatha
Kwiminyaka embalwa edlulileyo kwakunokwenzeka ukuvumelana nesitatimende sokuba umsebenzi ophezulu wabazali kukunika umntwana uphuhliso lwengqondo, kwaye ummandla wemoya uza kuzinza ngokwawo. Ngoku sinokuthi yonke into iyafani. Omnye unokukholelwa okanye angakholelwa kwimfundiso yokuziphendukela kwemvelo, kodwa abaphandi bayavuma ukuba kubantwana bendalo banamhlanje banesidingo kunye nokukwazi ukuqonda nokuqhuba ukuhamba okukhulu kolwazi. Ngaba kwenzeke ukuba umntwana wakho ugxininise ekumboniseni i-cartoon. Ngaba enye enye, ke enye? .. Ukudlala kunye nefowuni yakho yeselula kunomdla ngakumbi kwaye unqweneleka kunokuba u-pobormanitsya okanye usebenze kunye nonyoko? Umntwana wakho ufuna ukutya okutsha kunye nokutsha kwengqondo, ngelixa uphuhliso lweemvakalelo lugcina emva. Kukho iimeko zokulibazisa ukuphuhliswa ngokomzwelo (uhlobo olubi lokulibaziseka ekuphuculweni kwengqondo, esiyisifo).
Ukuze ugweme le ngxaki, kuyimfuneko ukunyamekela ukuxilongwa okufike ngexesha lokuphuhliswa kwengqondo nokuziphatha komntwana kwaye, ukuba kuyimfuneko, ukunceda lo phuhliso. Xa ufuna ukwenza oku, kufike kuwe, kuba uyazi kakuhle umntwana wakho. Ngokuqinisekileyo, akukho mfuneko yokubonisa umntwana kwi-psychologist kwiinyanga zokuqala zokuphila, kuba ukukhula kwengqondo kwintsana kuxhomekeke ngakumbi kwiimeko zendalo kunokuba uzame. Kodwa isikolo sokufunda esikolweni asiphazamisi. Iingcali zengqondo ziye zenza iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokufumanisa ukuphuhliswa kwengqondo kunye nokuziphatha kwabantwana. Umzekelo, indlela "yeengcamango": umntwana uboniswa imifanekiso ebonisa izenzo ezintle kunye nezenzo ezingalunganga zontanga kwaye zicebise ukuba zidibaniswe zibe zimbini iipilisi ngokwemiqathango "emibi". Ezi ndlela zinceda ukuxilonga nokulungisa ukuphuhliswa kwengqondo yomntwana.
Yintoni abazali abangayenza yona?
Okokuqala, ukuhlakulela ingqiqo yengqondo yomntwana wakho, qalisa ngokukhawuleza ukuba ungene kwisigama esisigxina esichaza imvakalelo eyahlukeneyo: "Ndiyonwabile", "Ndiyabuhlungu", "uyathukuthela?", Njll.
Kukho nemidlalo yokuphuhliswa kwenkalo yemvakalelo: umzekelo, umdlalo odumile "ulwandle olulinganayo" kunye nokuhluka kwawo; umdlalo we "masks" (umntwana unikezwa ngumbonakalo wobuso ukumela le nto okanye ukuba imvakalelo, umvakalelwa, kunye nomnye umntwana okanye umntu omdala makaqikelele into eyenziwe ngumntwana). Ungamema umntwana ukuba atyele, adlale kumculo ofanelekileyo: "uvuyo", "ukumangaliswa", "ukudabuka", "usizi", "ukwesaba".
Abaninzi beengqondo basigxininisa umculo njengendlela yokuphuhlisa isimo sengqondo somntwana osemfundela. Umculo awusebenzi imifanekiso ethile, kwaye ngoko isebenza ngokuthe ngqo kwiimvakalelo, kungekhona ngengqondo. Unokuphulaphula umculo, udanisa kuwo, xubusha nomntwana iimvakalelo ezizalelwa xa ziphulaphule. Kubantwana abancinci abangakwazi ukuphulaphula ngokuthe ngqo umculo (baphazamiseka, abakwazi ukuhlala bemi), kukho i-movie ekhethekileyo yokuphuhlisa iifilimu (umzekelo, "Baby Einstein", uchungechunge lwe "Bhokisi leMculo"): umculo womculo uhamba kunye nembono ebonakalayo ebonakalayo .
Ukuba unqwenela ukuqala isilwanyana - kuya kuba negalelo ekuphuculeni ngokomzwelo wakho umntwana. Musa nje ukuyithengela kule njongo inyoka engenangqumbo kunye nezilwanyana. Yeka ukhetho kwizilwanyana zasemhlabeni: izinja zomzimba kunye nokuzinikela kunye neekati.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuphuhliswa kwentlalo kunye nomoya wabantwana basenkulanga. Ukuze umntwana alungelelanise kuluntu, wafunda ukuvakalisa, kunye nokulawula iimvakalelo zakhe phakathi koontanga, tyelela isikhungo sophuhliso lwabantwana, ungadluli indawo yokudlala. Ukongezelela, qwa lasele ukhetho lomntwana wakho engena kwi-kindergarten - akukho myalelo wendawo yonke kulo mbandela, kodwa isinconyiso esiqhelekileyo yile: akusekuseni kakhulu, kodwa kungekudala. Awudingi ukwesaba oku, kuba wena kuphela owaziyo umntwana wakho ukubona ukuba ukulungele le nyathelo ebalulekileyo.
Kwaye ekugqibeleni-umnqweno obaluleke kakhulu. Nika umntwana wakho iimvakalelo ezintle, kwaye uya kukuphendula ngokufanayo!