Ukukhulelwa kuyinqaba engayibalekiyo ebomini bonke abafazi. Ngoko umnqweno wokuwuzalisa ngeziganeko eziqaqambileyo nemvakalelo emihle. Kodwa, ngelishwa, kukho "imivalo" apha.
Iimpawu zokudakumba kokubeleka
Ukwenyuka kokunyanzeliswa kunye nokutshintsha kwemizwelo rhoqo kunokwenzeka ukuphendula kwangaphambili kwi-hormonal reorganization. Kodwa, ngaphezu koko, ngamnye umfazi wesibhozo unenkxwaleko yokubeleka, iimpawu zazo ezi:
- ukulahleka kwesidlo;
- ukukhathala rhoqo;
- ukungakhathaleli;
- ukulala okanye ukulala ukulala;
- ukwesaba okukhulu;
- uziva unesizungu;
- unetyala;
- iingcinga zokuzibulala.
Izizathu
Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukufumana izizathu zokudakumba kwabasetyhini abakhulelweyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo baninzi:
- imeko engalunganga kwintsapho;
- ukungaqiniseki kwinkxaso engaphezulu kweqabane;
- ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa yimisebenzi yabo, ngenxa yoko, ukungenwa kwabo;
- ukwesaba impilo nemeko yomntwana ongakazalwa;
- imfuza;
- ukwesaba ukubeleka;
- uxinzelelo (banokuba bakhonze ngisho nangokuhamba, ukulungisa okanye ukuthuthela kwenye indawo).
Musa ukulibala ukuba ukutshintsha indlela ophila ngayo kuhlala kuphazamisekile.
Imikhwa emibi nayo inokubangela ukudandatheka kokubeleka. Yaye, nangona ubenqabe ngexesha lokukhulelwa. Yingakho ukuyeka ukutshaya nokusela utywala kufuneka kube ngumnyaka omnye ngaphambi kokukhulelwa.
Xa ufumene isizathu, kuya kuba lula ukuba ulahleke.
Njani ukulahla?
- Into ephambili kukuba uphulaphule iimvakalelo zakho kwaye uqaphele intanda yakho. Unokuncedwa ngokuthenga kunye nabahlobo okanye izalamane, uhambo oluya kwendalo kunye nobusuku kunye nomlingane wakho.
- Kubalulekile ukuba ungabonakali isimo sakho kwiqabane, ukwabelana naye ngeengcamango neemvakalelo. Musa ukulibala ukuba ukuxinezeleka kokubeleka kwamadoda akuyona into eqhelekileyo kunabesifazane. Unokuhamba kunye nge-ultrasound nakwiikhosi kubafazi abakhulelweyo. Oku akuyi kunceda kuphela ukulungiselela ukuzala, kodwa kuya kukusondeza. Ukuba kunzima ukuba ufumane ulwimi olufanayo kunye neqabane lakho, kukufanelekile ukutyelela isazi sengqondo seentsapho esiza kunceda ukusombulula ingxaki yangoku kwaye iya kukuxelela indlela yokukhusela eli lizayo.
- Ungesabi ukubonisana, cela uncedo. Ukufumana inkxaso kunye nokuqonda kwezihlobo, uya kuziva ukhululekile kwaye ulahlekelwe isohlwayo.
- Khumbula ukuba yeyiphi ifilimu oyithandayo kakhulu ebuntwaneni. Ixesha lokuziqwalasela kwakhona. Yakha i-kid yakho iqoqo leengoma zakho zezithandwayo zeencwadi kunye neencwadi. Oku kuya kukuvumela ukuba ungene kwiindawo ezintle kunye nokukhanya ebuntwaneni.
- Ukufumba kunye nokucamngca kuya kukunceda ukhulule kwaye usombulule ingxaki
ukukhathala nokulala. Cinga ngezinto ozithandayo kunye neminqweno. Ukuba ubuqu bokubumba, kuya kuba mnandi ukugcina idayari, ukudala imidwebo, ukukrazula ilizwe lakho kwivesi okanye kumculo. Zama ukuthunga i-toy yokuqala yentsana, udibanise i-booties. Futhi ungakhohlwa ukuba nayiphi na into yokuzilibazisa inokukufumana ingeniso eyongezelelweyo, kokubili ngexesha lokukhulelwa nangemva kokuzalwa komntwana. - Yongeza imifuno, izithelo kunye nentlanzi ekudleni kwakho. I-Serotonin, equlethwe kuyo iya kukunceda ukuphephe uxinzelelo ngaphambi kokubeletha. Yaye ukhumbule, isimo sakho sengqondo sixhomekeke kwimeko yengane kunye nokuqonda kwakhe kwehlabathi, kuba umlingiswa ubeka kwisibeleko somama. Ukuzilolonga ngexesha lokukhulelwa kwehlabathi ezele imibala eqaqambileyo kunye nemimiselo emitsha, sele sele ujikelezwe ngunyameko womntwana wakho kwaye unike ukuvumelana nentsapho yakho.