Ukuzihlakulela yinto into, ngokungathandabuzekiyo kuyimfuneko, kuphela yintoni eyokuqala? Ngeendlela zokuqala, iindlela zokuzikhusela ezifana nokubonakalisa kunye nokuqinisekiswa akufanelekanga isizathu esilula - asisazi ukuba yintoni kanye esiyidingayo ukuyijonga, asinayo inkqubo ecacileyo yokuphuhliswa, kwaye ngoko ke zonke ezo zinto zingabalulekanga.
Indlela yokwenza ukuzithuhlisa?
Kutheni uqala inkqubo yokuzikhupha? Ngokuqhelekileyo ngokwenza isicwangciso sakho ngokwakho, ngokubeka iinjongo. Zisebenze ngokwakho, ungazi ukuba kufuneka kwenze ntoni ngenxa yoko, akunakwenzeka. Ngoko ke, ekuqaleni inkqubo yakho yokuphuhlisa iya kubheka into enje.
- Umnqweno wokuzihlakulela ngokwabo uphambili, kodwa umntu akanako ukuhamba ngokukhawuleza kuwo, kufuneka uhlolisise iimpumelelo zakho, iimfanelo zakho neempazamo. Amathuba angaphiliyo ahlala asisiphumo salo "msebenzi" weentsilelo zethu: ubuqili, ukugqithisa (ukungeneliseki) ukuzithemba, njl njl. Eyona nto iyinyani ebomini bakho - wenza into engalunganga (cinga ukuba xa uvalelwa iimvakalelo, ngoko akudingeki ukuba ubalawule, zama ukubala yonke into), ngoko akafuni ukuhlala phantsi. Okokuqala, kufuneka sikhulume ngecala elingokomoya leengxaki. Ewe, ngaphandle kwemali naphi na, kwaye sonke sifuna ukuba yinkwenkwezi yebhizinisi eliphumelelayo. Kodwa cinga, ukuba uya kwinjongo yakho "ngentloko", ukuzithengela abahlobo nokulibala ngokuthandayo kwaye, ekugqibeleni, ukufezekisa oko ufunayo, ngaba uya kuvuyisa? Ukuba ewe, kunye neyona ntloko yokutya ngokulingana kwamaphupha, kwaye awukhathaleli ngeemvakalelo kunye nemvakalelo, ngoko akudingeki ukuba ucinge ngaluphi na ukukhupha ngokomoya. Yiya ekuqeqesheni ishishini, ufunde ngokukhawuleza ukunqoba isithintelo kwaye ugqithise kalula. Kuzo zonke ezinye iimeko, ufuna isicwangciso sokuzikhusela, esiza kubandakanya iindlela zokuphumelela kwimpumelelo yecandelo lobugcisa, kunye neendlela zokwenza ukulinganiswa kwengqondo
- Ungaqala njani ukuzithuthukisa? Ngokunyamekelwa ngumthandayo. Usenayo ixesha lokujonga uluhlu lweempawu zakho ezilungileyo nezimbi, unokuqonda izizathu zokusilela kwakho. Ngoku yisikhathi sokusebenza kunye nesicatshulwa ngasinye, musa ukubamba yonke into ngokukhawuleza, vumela indlela eya phezulu ibe yinkqubela, ukufumana ngokukhawuleza ngokukhawuleza kuya kuba nzima kakhulu. Yintoni enyamekelayo? Ewe, uya kwenza konke. Ngaphandle koko, xelele, ngaba awuzange uqaphele ukukhathala nokubonakala okungabonakali kwizinto ezibangela ukungaphumeleli kwakho, kunye phakathi kweziphene - ukunyanzeliswa kwimpilo yakho kunye nomzimba? Ngaba loo nto? Emva koko kunje umntu ofuna ukuzinyamekela, oku kuza kuba yintetho yokuzihlakulela kwakho. Icandelo elingokomoya liyimfuneko, kodwa ukuba ungayithatha unonophelo olwaneleyo lomzimba wakho, ungayinyamekeli iimfuno zayo, ngoko malunga naluphi na intetho yokuzikhuphula, ayikwazi ukuba namandla okwaneleyo.
- Ngokuqhelekileyo asikwazi ukugxininisa nayiphi na inkqubo, iintloko zeengcamango zeengcamango, ukukhangela kwindlela engasebenziyo, ukwesaba okungenangqiqo kuphazamisa nombono wembono wale meko. Kukho konke oku kufuneka ulahlekelwe khona, funda ukugxila kwingxaki, ukubeka phambili phambili, uhlambulule iingcamango zakho. Ekugqibeleni, ukucamngca kuya kuba ngumncedisi omhle - kuya kusindisa insimu yakho yolwazi kwi "husks" kwaye kuya kukunika amandla okufuneka uqhube phambili. Kwiindlela zasempumalanga, ukucamngca kuyimfuneko ekamelweni elithulileyo, kusasa. Kodwa iimeko zanamhlanje azivumelekanga, ngoko ukhethe ixesha elifanelekileyo kuwe.
- Ukutya kwengqondo kufuneka kusebenze rhoqo, ungavumeli ukuba ubuchopho bulambile, kungenjalo buya kuba yindoda enesifo esinqabileyo, ephosakeleyo ukusuka kuncinci. Khetha inkcazo enomdla kuwe (ngaphandle kobugcisa bakho) kwaye uyifunde. Funda iincwadi, kungekhona imimiselo kwiintanethi zentlalo,
ubona iifilimu ezintle, kungabikho iisephaphu zokusebenza, khangela abadibanisa abanolwazi. - Ukuzihlakulela kwamabhinqa kufuneka kufake umsebenzi wokusebenza. Musa ukucwina kakhulu-kancinci, kodwa kuya kufuneka ujongane nayo. Okokuqala, kukuzimela, kwaye okwesibini, umphefumlo omhle udinga igobolondo enempilo nehle.
- Funda ukuthanda (wena, bahlobo, indoda, ephakathi kwakho, abantu ngokubanzi), uqonde ukuba ngaphandle kothando, ulonwabo noxolo lwengqondo akunakwenzeka. Uthando (ngomqondo ophezulu wegama) elilinganisa ukuqala kunye nomthombo wamandla okuphumelela kwintsha.