Kwimithetho yangoku kukho into ebizwa ngokuthi "inkolelo yokubambisana". Ngokutsho kwakhe, iqabane livuma ngokuzenzekelayo uyise wengane ukuba umntwana uzalelwe emtshatweni, kwaye nangaphambi kokuphela kweentsuku ezingama-300 ukususela kumhla wokuqhawula umtshato. Ngokweemithombo ezahlukahlukeneyo, malunga ne-30% yabantwana abazalwa emtshatweni bayakhulelwa kumadoda ahlukeneyo, ngoko ke umkhuba wobunzima obunzima sele usasazeke ngokubanzi.
Ngesiseko sesitatimende sesibango sokuba ngumngeni onomngeni, umntu ovunyelwe ngokusemthethweni unelungelo lokucela ukususwa kwedatha yakhe kumaphepha e-status status kwiimeko ezilandelayo:
- ukuba umntwana wazalelwa okanye wakhulelwa emtshatweni;
- ukuba umntwana uzalwe ngaphandle komtshato, kodwa ekubhaliseni lo mntu uqinisekisile inyaniso yokuba ngumntwana waza wamkela umntwana.
Akunakwenzeka ucelomngeni kwiimeko ezilandelayo:
- ukuba iqabane lizinike imvume yalo esemthethweni (edla ngokubhaliweyo) ekusebenziseni ubugcisa bokuzala bokuvelisa;
- ukuba ngethuba lokubhaliswa komntwana loo mntu wayesazi ukuba akayena uyise wezinto eziphilayo, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo uyaziqinisekisa ngokuqinisekileyo.
Ungayinceda njani inselele?
I-Contestation of fatherhood inokwenzeka kuphela kwinkqubo yomgwebo ukuba kukho izizathu ezifanelekileyo zokufaka ubungqina obukholisayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ingxabano yenzeka ukuba loo mfazi ulwalamano kunye nomnye umntu, ngokutshata ngokusemthethweni. Emva koko umntwana ozalelwe kwimicimbi engabikho komtshato uyaziwa ngokuzenzekelayo njengomntwana womyeni wakhe osemthethweni. Iingqinisiso, le ngxaki ingasombululwa ngexesha lokubhaliswa kwintsana, ukuba zombini "indoda" - zombini igosa kunye neyinyani-ibonakale kwi-RAGS kwaye iya kubhala ingxelo ehambelanayo. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha "iqabane lomthetho" alinakufumaneka, ngoko umntwana ubhala kuye kunye nemingeni yecala, kwakhona, mhlawumbi enkundleni kuphela.
Kukho neemeko xa iqabane elingenako kuba ngumntwana womntwana ngenxa yokugula emzimbeni okanye uhambo olude ngexesha lokukhulelwa. Emva koko uvavanyo lofuzo luya kumnceda, ngoncedo apho angabonisa khona ukungabikho kobudlelwane phakathi kwakhe nomntwana. Umthetho wethu awunikezeli imvume yomama womntwana ekuhlalutheni kwe-DNA yomntwana, njengamanye amazwe aseYurophu ngoko ke, ngaphambi kokuya enkundleni, indoda ingakwazi ukuzimela ngokuzimela ngokuqinisekileyo. Kuba uhlalutyo lwanele ukwenza isampuli elula yezinto eziphathekayo ngokuhambelana neemfuno zebhubhoratri, ngokuqhelekileyo iqela leenwele okanye intambo encinane. Kodwa mhlawumbi inkundla ayifumanga isiphelo sebhubhoratri yangasese njengobungqina obaneleyo kwaye iya kuqesha ukuhlolwa kwakhona. Ukongeza, ukuba umama womntwana wenqaba
Ngaba unina unomngeni?
Umncintiswano wokubambisana ngumama womntwana unokwenzeka ukuba umntwana uzalelwe emtshatweni. Kule meko, unokumangalela ukuba angabandakanyi irekhodi lomyeni njengoyise womntwana encwadini yezenzo zobume belizwe. Kwimeko apho indoda ibonwa ngokuba nguyise ongatshatanga kwintombi emtshatweni, ngenxa yesigwebo sakhe semthethweni, kunokwenzeka ukuba inselele ukuba ngumntwana kuphela xa uyise wakhe ophilayo ekulungele ukuqaphela uyise. Ukongezelela, loo mntu ngokwakhe unokuba ngumngeni kumbandela wokubandakanyeka kumntwana, ebonisa ukuba ngexesha lokuqatshelwa koonyana bakhe, wayengayazi ukuba akayena uyise wezinto eziphilayo.
Ukuba ukhuphiswano lomntwana luqaliswa ngumama womntwana, kodwa aluphikisana nobaba oseburhulumenteni, inkqubo yokukhipha irekhodi kwincwadi yezenzo inokwenzeka kuphela kuphela kwisigqibo senkundla.