Refuseniks ... Enye yeengxaki ezidabukisayo zentlalo yanamhlanje. Amehlo abantwana abashiyiweyo bayadabuka kakhulu, emva koko, abazali babecinga ukuba ukuphakamisa nokunyamekela kwabo bekuya kuba ngumthwalo omkhulu ebomini.
Kutheni abantwana belahliwe?
Kukholelwa ukuba abantwana bayintyatyambo yobomi. Kodwa imbono yabanye abantu ngokuphambene ngqo: kuba banakekela umntwana uba ngumthwalo ongenakubekezeleka. Kutheni kuvela ngale ndlela? Yintoni eyenza abazali benze isenzo esingenakunyanisekileyo kwaye bashiye umntwana ekunyamekeleni kwimeko? Ngokuqhelekileyo, umntwana ongazifunayo uzalwe kwintsapho engathandekiyo, apho indoda nomfazi benza izinto ezimbi, oko kukuthi, basele okanye basebenzise iziyobisi. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abanalo ixesha elaneleyo lokubambisana nabantwana babo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, oomama bayeke abantwana xa befumanisa ukukhubazeka okukhulu ngokomzimba, kwengqondo okanye ukungafihli. Ezi ntsana zidinga ukunakekelwa okhethekileyo, unyango olubi, lonke ixesha lokukhulula. Akuyena onke amabhinqa aya kuthatha isigqibo malunga nokuzinikezela ngobomi bakhe ukunyamekela umntwana okhubazekileyo okanye umntwana ongaphelelanga, izigulane ezinokukhubazeka kwengqondo, i-Down's syndrome, isifo senhliziyo esibi, njl njl.
Ngoko akuqhelekanga ukuba ibhinqa libele kwaye lishiye intsana kwintandane ngenxa yokungaqiniseki ukuba uya kukwazi ukuqinisekisa ubukho obuqhelekileyo kubo bobabini. Ngokukodwa ukuba ekuqaleni uyise wayiphosa umntwana kunye nenkxaso kuye ukuba angalindeli. Ukuxhaswa koomama abatsha abangenayo.
Ixesha eliqhelekileyo abantwana abashiyiweyo kwikhaya lokubeleka bavela kwiimfesane ngenxa yokuba abanamkeli kwaye baphazamise nonina. Ngoko, abantwana besikolo banqabile abantwana ngokunyanzeliswa kwabazali babo, abanabo bonke ubomi babo phambi kwabo, ngokugqithiseleyo "bahamba" abangabhinqa abangatshatanga abafuna ukulungiselela ubomi bobuqu. Ngamanye amaxesha oomama abanako ukukhulisa abantwana ngenxa yokugula kwabo.
Isiphumo sabantwana abashiyiweyo
Akunakwenzeka ukuba kuya kuba nomntu kwilizwe lethu ofuna ukufunda ngaphandle kwedwa, kodwa kwikhaya labantwana. Uluntu luyazi izimo ezinzima zokuphila zabantwana abashiywa ngabazali: ubomi kwishedyuli kwindawo yokukhusela, ukuphathwa kakubi kunye nokuqhutyelwa kootitshala, ngokuqhelekileyo ukungondleki kunye neempahla ezimbi. Ezi zintsana zikhula zihlaselwa kwihlabathi lonke. Kwaye isizathu salokhu asikho nje kwiimeko ezinzima zenkedama. Aba bantwana bacaphukile, okokuqala, unina, ongenakufunwa.
Akunabo bonke abantwana abaye bathumela inhlanhla ngendlela yokwamkela okanye ukuthotyelwa ngabazali abaneleyo abanokuqhaqhazela icebo entliziyweni yomntwana. Ngelishwa, baninzi bazama ukuthatha iintsana ezilahliwe ukuba zikhule kwaye zifundise ekuzalweni.
Kwixesha elizayo, isimo esinjalo sengqondo sivimbela intandane ekhulile ekwakheni intsapho. Ngaphezu koko, abantwana abashiya iintsana abazi ukuba yintoni, kuba abazange babone umzekelo.
Iintsholongwane ezishiyile intandane zinzima ukuguqula ubomi obuzimeleyo, ikakhulu ngenxa yokungabi nabakhuthazo, kuba bakhuthazwa ukuba benze (ukufunda, ukusebenza) phantsi kwe "intonga".
Ngokwezibalo, bambalwa bakwazi ukufumana umsebenzi ebomini. Uninzi lwabafuduki abavela kwiinkedama zeenkedama benza ulwaphulo-mthetho, baba izidakwa okanye bazibulale. Ukukhulisa abantwana abashiyiweyo bahlala bekhokela imfesane
Imifanekiso enzima ebomini yobomi babantwana abashiyiweyo, mhlawumbi, baya kukwenza ukuba wenze isenzo esihle. Ewe, oku akusikho umnxeba wokumkela umntwana. Kodwa unako ukunceda abantwana ukuba bangabi lukhuni ngomphefumlo. Akuyimfuneko ukugqoka ukutya okanye izambatho. Zinike nje ukufudumala kwakho!