Kukho izinto abafazi abakwaziyo ukuyiqonda. Sisebenzisekile ukwamukela amadoda ngenxa yobuntu obuqinileyo kunye nobunesibindi, kodwa umntu okhulile kunye nolwazi olunentombazana uba, ingakumbi inkolelo yesiguqa kwihashe elimhlophe lidalwa.
Ukongeza ukwesaba kwengqondo ngokuqinileyo, umntu oqhelekileyo uxhalabele malunga nokuba ngokubhekiselele kwingqungquthela yoluntu, ummeli wesimo esomeleleyo kufuneka abe yingqiqo, aqiniseke aze abe nesibindi.
Yintoni umntu oqinileyo oyikayo?
Indoda enezinga eliphezulu lemali engenayo lixhomekeka kakhulu kwaye lizithembele, ngoko kukho izinto ezininzi ezinokuthi zitshitshise.
- Shishini. Wonke umfana ocebile unzima ukulahlekelwa ishishini lakhe. Kule meko, indoda icinga ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba ihlabathi liya kuqubuka ukuba ishishini lakhe "lihlanganiswe".
- Ubume. Umfanekiso - le nto kufuneka idale ixesha elide, kodwa yonke into ingawa phantsi kwelinye iphuzu. Yiyo le ngcamango ekhokelela ekuphazameni kwamanzi kwanoma isiphi isityebi.
- Ukudumisa. Ubuthongo obunzima baluphi na umntu lulahlekelwa ngumtsalane emehlweni abo bafazi.
Kutheni abantu besaba ubudlelwane?
Xa kuziwa kulwalamano olunzulu, amaninzi abantu abatshatyalaliswa ngoloyiko. Amanye amadoda ayesaba ukukhangela amehlo. Ngamanye amaxesha ukubukeka kunokuba lunolwazi olunokuba lukhangele emehlweni akho othandekayo ungazifunda ngokusondeleyo, ngoko ke umbono wabo abafana bakhetha ukufihla, ukuze yonke imfihlakalo ihlale njalo.
Amadoda ayesaba ukuba nabantwana kunye noxanduva kuba ubomi bentsapho buninzi imisebenzi kunye noshintsho ebomini. Inkululeko yokulahlekelwa yinto ebaluleke kakhulu into enokucinga ngayo. Ukuhlala kunye nabahlobo kunye nokubukela ibhola okanye ukuphuka phakathi kobusuku kwaye uye kwibhar, yile nto ubomi besikhephelo abukwazi ukuyenza ngaphandle. Kwimeko yobomi be-conjugal, ulungelelwaniso oluqhelekileyo lunakho ukulungiswa. Iingcali zengqondo zithi ezininzi kwiimeko, ukwesaba ukuthatha uxanduva kwiintlalontle zentsapho kubangelwa ukuba le ndoda yakhuliswa kwintsapho engaphelelanga kwaye ayizange ibone imizekelo yokulingisa.
Emtshatweni, amadoda anqwenela ukudibanisa nabameli abanobuthathaka nabangenabanikazi besini esifanelekileyo, amadoda anamandla ayika abantu kwaye azame ukuwaphepha. Intombazana ephumelelayo nentle, njengomthetho, idinga indoda ehambelana nayo. Oku kubangela ukuba ukhuphiswano oluqhubekayo kulwalamano kwaye ukuze uhlale esitokisini abafana bafuna ukuzihlaziya rhoqo, apho baninzi abangakwaziyo.
Kutheni abantu besaba ngesondo?
Abangenabo abazithembekileyo bezondo zoqinileyo banxhala kakhulu ukungena ekusondeleyo kuba banqotshwa ukungakhuselekanga ngokwamandla abo kunye noloyiko lokudumala umgangatho wabo woqabane okanye ubude bobulili. Amadoda ayesaba iintombi, kuba zikholelwa ukuba emva kwesondo sokuqala intombazana iya kunyanzelwa ukuba ikhwebu, yikhale kwibhubhu kwaye ithethe ukuba ngoku uyimbole kakhulu, ekubeni wayemthintele "uzuko kunye nesazela" kwaye waxela ukuba aye kwiZAGs. Ewe, njengoko wena kwaye ndiyiqonda le ngongoma kakhulu kwaye iphethe inxalenye encinci ye nyaniso. Ngokungathandabuzekiyo, kukho intombazana leyo isini into ebaluleke kakhulu kwaye iyanzima, kodwa amaninzi amanamhlanje athathela kulo msebenzi ngokufanelekileyo kwaye akawubhekiseli kuye "intsingiselo" efana neyo "jikelele".
Kutheni abantu besaba umtshato?
Ngokuchasene nentsholongwane eyaziwayo ukuba ngabafazi besodwa bayesaba ukuqhawula umtshato, kwaye abantu abafuni ukuzikhawulela
Ukucaphula oku ngasentla kunokuphela nje ukuba umntu wokwenene akayikwesaba nantoni kwaye uyakwazi ukwenza nayiphi na indlela, ukuba uyithandayo. Ukuba udinga ukusika imithi, kwaye ukuba akukho mfuneko, unako ukupheka isidlo sokuthanda umfazi wakho, kwaye ngokubaluleke kakhulu, yenzani konke ngothando kwaye ungenaso izizathu okanye izizathu.