Kwintsapho yakho, ummangaliso wenzeke-umntwana owakulindelwe ixesha elide kwaye othandekayo wabonakala. Indlalifa yakho isencinane kakhulu, kodwa ngoku, ukususela kwiintsuku zokuqala zobomi bakhe, kubalulekile ukubeka konke okulungileyo kuyo. Oku kungenziwa kuphela ngokukwazi impawu yemfundo yabafana.
Indlela yokufundisa kakuhle inkwenkwe?
Okokuqala, siya kujongana nempazamo eqhelekileyo eninzi abazali abaye bayakuvumela ekukhuliseni abaxhasi bexesha elizayo kunye namadoda okwenene. Ngoko, khumbula ukuba AKAZI ukuvelisa amakhwenkwe:
- Ukungaqondi kakuhle komzali kubandakanywa nokukhuliswa kumntwana 'wamandla' kunye nobukhulu bomntu. Ngesizathu esithile, abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba unzima ukuphatha amakhwenkwe kunye nokubahlwaya ngokuphindaphindiweyo, ngoko ke, umonde kunye nokukwazi ukuphila phantsi kweemeko ezinzima kuya kukhula ngokukhawuleza. Kodwa lo ngumntwana! Abafana banelungelo lokukhathazeka kunye nothando lwabazali babo. Kwaye ngokwengqondo, basengozini kakhulu kumantombazana. Ngaphantsi kancinci. Kungcono ukudumisa nokunyamekela rhoqo;
- enye into engafanelekanga idibene nokuvalwa kwezinyembezi. Ukusuka kwabanqwenqileyo abafana abavunyelwe ukukhala, ukuze "bangaziphathanga njengentombazana". Ngaba uye wakha wazibuza ukuba kutheni amadoda ehlala ngaphantsi kwabesetyhini? Ngenxa yokuba uxinzelelo luqokelele emzimbeni, kwaye umntu unyanzelekile ukuba awugcine ngokwakhe, kuba kwakungavunyelwe ukukhala ebuntwaneni. Ngenxa yoko, sinokuhlaselwa kweentliziyo ezininzi kunye neentlungu. Khumbula - wonke umntwana, kungakhathaliseki ukuba isini, unelungelo lokulila;
- Iyona nto inobungozi yekamva yendoda ngumama wengxube. Indlela yokukhulisa inkwenkwe kumntu ukuba akavumelekanga ukuba asebenze ngamagqabi, qiniseka ukuba akayi kuwa, enxibe kwiingubo ezili-100, kunye neebhayisikili emva kwakhe zigqwezele kwiimfene zezilwanyana ezibuthathaka? Uqhuba umngcipheko wokufumana umntu ongeyaneleyo, ojwayele ukulandelwa ngabazali bakhe. Izimo zeHhousehouse zonakalisa umntu kwinkwenkwe;
- ngokuchasene nomyalelo wokuthintelwa kwabazali abaninzi, le nkwenkwe kufuneka inikwe ithuba lokudlala nedonop. Oku akuyikuvumela kuphela umntwana ukuba aqonde kakuhle indima yabazali, kodwa unomphumo onokubaluleka ekuphuhlisweni kwenkqubo yakhe yesondo kunye nokukwazi ukukhulelwa umntwana wakhe. Kutheni amadoda amaninzi afumane umntwana wakhe afike ngokukhawuleza kwiimvakalelo zikayise? Abazange bavunyelwe ukuba badlale nedoli ebuntwaneni baze bahlaziye indima yobawo;
- i-psychology yemfundo yenkwenkwe isekelwe, okokuqala, kwendima umama ayidlala nayo. Ungabonisi umntwana ukuba unina ungumfazi onamandla ogunyazisileyo owenza yonke into ekhaya, kwaye ufumana imali emsebenzini, kwaye ngokubanzi ungumngxuma wezo zonke iimveliso. Ngomntwana wakho, kufuneka utyhafile kwaye ube mnene. Inkwenkwe kufuneka ibe nomnqweno wokukhusela kwaye uyanyamekele. Musa ukukhupha umntwana wakho ngegunya. Khumbula ukuba uya kufuna umfazi emfanekisweni nofana nomama.
Indlela yokufundisa inkwenkwana?
Xa umntwana ephendukela kwiminyaka eyi-12 ubudala, umbuzo onzima kunabo bonke abazali kuba indlela yokukhulisa umntwana. Ixazululwa ngokulula. Ukuba ebuntwaneni utyalole kumntwana zonke iimpawu ezibalulekileyo, ngoko ebusheni, iingxaki akufanele zivele. Ukuzikhethela kwenkwenkwe yenkwenkwe kwintsapho kunjalo ukuba bobabini abazali kufuneka benze konke okusemandleni abo ukuze bafumane inkxaso kwaye bangayifuni kwiontanga zabo kwisitalato. Ukuqinisekisa ukuba umfana wakho akayi phantsi kwefuthe elibi, sebenzisa umgaqo ophezulu wemfundo echanekileyo yenkwenkwe - zama ukudala ukususela kwiminyaka emncinci kuye umbuso othile wosuku. Oku kuya kunceda amacandelo ezemidlalo, atyhafisa uhlobo kunye nesimo sengqondo ebomini. Ukongeza, kunye nentlangano yemisebenzi efanelekileyo, umntwana wakho akayi kuba nexesha lokuzulazula ngapha kwesitalato kungekho msebenzi.
Imfundo yenkwenkwe kwintsapho engaphelelanga
Ngokukodwa ngokusandul 'umva kwakunombuzo wokuphakamisa inkwenkwe ngaphandle kobawo. Ngelishwa, oomama abangatshatanga bamangalanga nabani na. Imfundo yenkwenkwana kwintsapho engaphelelanga idinga iinzame ezinkulu kwinxalenye yomama. Kule meko, kubalulekile ukulandela imithetho ethile:
- Musa ukuzama ukwenza umntwana "indoda endlu." Yena, okokuqala, ngumntwana. Xa ushintshela imisebenzi yasekhaya kumagxa akhe, uyamnciphisa ubuntwaneni bakhe kwaye uphazamise intuthuko yakhe. Kodwa ekubeni kusenzima ukufundisa inkwenkwe yodwa, zama ukukhangela umntu kwiintsapho, ngokukhetha amadoda;
- zama ukunika umntwana ithuba lokuthetha noontanga rhoqo. Bhala phantsi kwicandelo lezemidlalo. Ukuvakalelwa ukuba yiyiphi na iqela kubalulekile ekuphuhliseni ukuzithemba;
- Musa ukuzikhathaza ngeengcamango ezingenabantwana umntwana wakho unqatshelwe into ethile. Jabulela
okwangoku, ochitha kunye kunye. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, gxininisa ukubaluleka kobudlelwane phakathi kwendoda nomfazi. Musa ngandlela-thile ukuthetha kakubi ngobawo kumntanakho; - ukuxhasa umsebenzi womntwana. Oku kubaluleke kakhulu kubo bonke abafana;
- kaninzi ukunika umntwana ithuba. Mamela uluvo lwakhe. Musa ukucaphukisa izikhalazo zonyana wakho kumadoda.
Kukho iindlela ezininzi, njani kunye kunye naziphi iimeko ekukhuliseni inkwenkwe. Wonke umntu unelungelo lokhetho olufanelekileyo. Kodwa musa ukulibala malunga nawo onke amacebiso owanike wona. Ngamanye amaxesha ukunakekelwa okongeziweyo kunobungozi ngaphezu kokusilela ngokupheleleyo kwemfundo. Into ephambili ayiyikulimaza.