Nangona abanye abazali befunda iincwadi zezifundo zesondo ngoomntwana, ngelixa abanye behleka ukuba asikho ixesha 'lokucinga ngayo' kwiintloko zeentwana ezincinci zikhupha imibuzo ephakamileyo: "Ndaphi na?" Okanye "Kutheni ndinombhali kwaye umama akanalo ? ยป.
Xa uneminyaka emithathu ubudala, abantwana sele beqaphela ngokupheleleyo ngesondo abahlala kuzo. Ngokusekelwe kwinto awayeyibonayo kwaye ayiva, umntwana usenokugqiba ukuba le ntombazana injengomama, kwaye inkwenkwe nguyise. Ubudala beminyaka emithathu bubhekwa njengento efanelekileyo kakhulu ekuqalekeni kwengxoxo yabazali malunga nemfundo yokuziphatha kunye nezo zesondo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abantwana ngokwabo bahamba nabazali babo, bebancipha ngemibuzo yasekuqaleni. Ukuba awukulungele ukuphendula ngokukhawuleza, xelele umntwana ngokunyanisekileyo malunga naloo nto, kodwa kumbuzo wesibini - musa ukuphika umntwana ukuba afumane inkcazelo.
Ukuqala kwingxoxo malunga nemfundo yesondo, ziphathe ngendlela engokwemvelo, njengengxoxo kwingoma yimuphi umbandela, akudingeki ukuba wenze le "mcimbi" okhethekileyo. Xa uthetha nomntwana, bizela zonke izinto ngamagama abo afanelekileyo, ukhuphe isangqa kunye nolwimi lwesiqhelo. Zama ukulibazisa incoko kakhulu - kuqala, uphendule imibuzo efunwa yingane. Zama ukuthetha ulwimi oluqondakalayo kumntwana kwaye unike imizekelo ebomini, kuquka amava akho kunye nokuthatha inxaxheba. Qinisekisa ukuba impendulo yakho kumbuzo iyanelisekile umntwana.
Ubungqingili bemfundo yesondo yomntwana oseminyakeni yobudala isifundo sokuthetha kunye nesini esahlukileyo. Imfundo yabasetyhini ifaka iintetho ngeengcinga malunga neentombazana kunye nokuziphatha ngokubhekiselele kwisini esingenamandla. Tshela umntu ozayo ukuba abafana kufuneka bahlale bekhusela amantombazana baze baphathe ngokuhlonipha. Imfundo yentsholongwane yamantombazana isekelwe ekubunjweni kweempawu zomama nomfazi ozayo. Amantombazana ayavuya ukudlala umdlalo "umama-ntombi", ezama iindima zabantu abadala.
Imfundo yesondo kwintsapho iya kuba yinxalenye yentuthuko ebanzi yomntwana, enokubumba ubuntu obuvumelanayo kuyo.