Yonke iminyaka yenguqu imvavanyo kubazali. Apho kunzima khona, ukuba eli xesha alipheli kwaye umntwana uhlala eveza amaxhala ngeendlela zokuziphatha ezingaqhelekanga. Omnye ufanele abhekane nezikhalazo eziqhubekayo zobudlova kwiimvuthu, ngelixa abanye bafumana ulwahlulo lwentshayelelo kunye nokuhlukana kwiqela. Yintoni abazali abayaziyo kunye nendlela yokunceda umntwana ukuba alungiselele kuluntu?
Ukususela ekugqithiseni ukuya kunzulu
Njengomthetho, siyavuya xa umntwana engabangane kunye noontanga kwaye akayi kuma. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, oku kulula ukwenza inkqubo yokukhulisa kwaye kwenza kube lula ukukhetha isikhungo semfundo. Ngelishwa, namhlanje kukho imeko ezininzi apho umntwana eziphatha ngokwahlukileyo kunokuba abazali nabahlali bafuna.
Ziziphi iimpazamo ezingabonwa ngabantu abadala?
- Ukunyaniseka okugqithisileyo . Phantse bonke abantwana baqala ukuhlalisana kwaye bafumana ulwimi oluqhelekileyo kunye neontanga zabo. Ingxaki yokuba neentloni zidla ngokufumaneka kwinkqubo yokungenelela kwabazali. Ngokomzekelo, i-crumb ihlala igula kwaye abazali bayenqaba ngamabomu kwi-kindergarten okanye musa ukumvumela ukuba ahambe kwiindawo eziqhelekileyo kwiipaki. Qaphela: ngamanye amaxesha sidibanisa iintloni kunye nesidingo sokuzimela ngasese. Ukuba umntwana wakho unako ukujongana nomntu omdala kwaye ucele into ethile, kodwa akafuni ukuthatha inxaxheba kwimidlalo yeqela (kunokuba udibanise okanye uqoke iipuzzle), ngoko akukho nto ibangela ukukhathazeka.
- Enye inketho ingxabano rhoqo. Kuloo nto umntwana engazange alwe nayo. Ingxabano yokugqibela ingaba yinto yokudabuka okanye isandi esikhulu. Ngenxa yoko, kulula ukuba abantwana bangayiqapheli kunokuba bangene kwiimeko ezingathandekiyo. Apha iingcambu zengxaki zihlala kwintsapho. Iintsana ezinjalo ziyanqikaza ukwabelana kwaye zihlala zilungelelanisa izihlazo kuphela ngenxa yokuba zisetyenziselwa ukuziphatha ekhaya. Abantu abadala bazinyamekela kakhulu umntwana okanye benze iimfuno eziphezulu. I-crumb igxotha nje into engalunganga, eqokelelwa ekhaya.
- Ukunyanzelisa ngenxa yezizathu . Umfana omncinci ngezinye iinkhathi akavelanga iingxaki ezingaphantsi kweengxaki zomntwana. Umthombo wokuqala wale ndlela uhlola imida yinto evumelekileyo. Ngethamsanqa, eli khetho lihlala lidibana. I-crumb izama nje ukuzama ukuyenza into enokuyenza, kwaye oko kuya kujeziswa. Isimo sesibini sibuyisela ukuhlambalaza. Omnye wamphosa umntwana wakho ngokungazi, waza wathatha u-ewe waza wabetha ngamandla akhe onke. Khangela apho umntwana onokubona khona indlela yokuziphatha. Iimeko ezibuhlungu kakhulu xa uxhatshazo luphawu lomntu kwaye kufuneka uncedo lweengcali.
- Ukungathintana . Kukho uluhlu lwabantwana abakunzima kakhulu ukuqhagamshelana nehlabathi langaphandle. Abazali ukususela ekuqaleni bajonga ukuziphatha okungagqibekanga: kwasebuntwaneni abantwana abanjalo abavuthise iipenki zabo kwaye abavumi ukubukeka kumama wabo; Izingane ezigunyazayo zifuna indlela ekhethekileyo, kuba abavumeli ukuba baphumelele kwilizwe labo kwaye bahlala becinga ukuba baphindele emuva. Kodwa umntwana onjalo ngehlabathi elingaphakathi ngamanye amaxesha unengqiqo, unelungelo ngakumbi kunomntwana oqhelekileyo. Umsebenzi wakho ngoncedo lwesazi sengqondo kukufumana indlela
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