Ngaba unqume ukuthengisa okanye ukutshintshana indlu okanye indlu, kodwa kwinkqubo yokubhalisa ukuthengiselana, ubhekane nengxaki yokukhipha umntwana omncinane kwindlu? Oku kwenzeka rhoqo, kwaye kule nqaku siza kukuxelela ukuba umnini unako ukumisela umntwana kunye noko kuthatha ukuthatha umntwana ngaphandle kwendlu okanye indlu nokuba ngaba umnini unako ukubhala umntwana.
Ndingayifumana njani umntwana omncinci ngaphandle kwendlu?
Enye yeemeko ezinzima kakhulu kwimeko apho kufuneka ukuba ubhale umntwana omncinci kwizindlu ezizimeleyo okanye kamasipala. Ukuba lo ngumntwana womnini wezindlu, ngoko, enyanisweni, ungumnini-co-ownership of estate, ekubeni ngalinye ilungu lentsapho, inxalenye ethile yepropati iyabelwe. Kwaye oku kuthetha ukuba ungathengisa indlu (indlu) kuphela kwiimeko ezichazwe ngokucacileyo:
- Emva kwemvume yabasemagunyeni bokugcinwa kwendawo.
- Ngokuvumelana kwabazali bobabini (abagcini okanye abazali abavayo).
Kubonakala ngathi kunzima? Kodwa ebomini ngokwenene kunzima kakhulu ukuzalisekisa le miqathango. Emva koko, abahlali bomntwana bahlala kunye kunye okanye ubuncinci bahlala belamano. Kwenzeka ukuba ubaba (okanye unina) wengane akabonanga ukususela ekuzalweni kwakhe, akanalo ulwazi malunga (kunye) nokuba kuphi na kwaye akunakwenzeka ukuba uqhagamshelane nomzali wesibini. Umthetho unikezela ubuninzi beempazamo xa imvume yomzali wesibini ingafunwa:
- xa kuthengwa kwamalungelo omzali kayise okanye umama ;
- xa ebonwa engekho;
- xa uyise engekho ekuzalweni komntwana (ebhalwe kumagama kamama);
- xa kwenzeka ukufa komnye wabazali.
Kwakhona kuyimfuneko ukufaka isicelo kumphathi wokugcinwa (ibhunga lolawulo).
Ngelishwa, ibhodi yamatrasti ayinalo i-algorithm enye yezenzo, ichazwe ngokucacileyo ngurhulumente nemithetho. Iimeko ezisemgangathweni zabasebenzi bee-arhenteti arhente kukukhuselwa kwamalungelo epropati yomntwana kwaye, ngokukodwa, ukulondolozwa kwelungelo lakhe kwizindlu. Oku kuthetha ukuba ukukhutshwa komntwana oyifunayo ukuqinisekisa ukuba unokubhaliswa kwangoko kwidilesi eyahlukileyo, ngokubonelela ngeemeko zokuhlala ezifanelekileyo. Oko kukuthi, ungabhala umntwana wakho ngaphandle kwendlu yakudala emva kokuba uthenge enye entsha (okanye unokufumana indawo apho ungabhalisa umntwana ngaphandle kokuphula amalungelo akhe ezindlu). Hayi, ngokusetyenzisweni, xa ulungiselela ukuthengiswa kwendawo yokuhlala ukuqinisekisa ukuba oku akunakwenzeka njalo. Kwakhona, abaphathi bamagcino bazokuvumela ukuba ubhale umntwana xa uthengisa indlu entsha, eyongezelelekileyo okanye ebiza kakhulu (kula maxesha iindleko zesabelo somntwana ziya kuba phezulu kunezindlu zangaphambili). Ngokomthetho, xa kugqiba ukuthengiselana kwithengi kunye nokuthengiswa kwezindlu zangaphandle, amalungelo omhlaba womntwana akufanele aphulwe, oko kukuthi, indleko yesabelo kwindlu entsha ayikwazi ukuba ngaphantsi kweyokuqala. Kwiimeko apho intsapho iphoqelelwa ukuba idlulele kwixabiso elincinci, elidala okanye elincinci, amalungelo omntwana ahlala ephulwa, oko kuthetha ukuba abaphathi bamagada abayi kukhupha imvume yokukhutshwa komntwana. Kodwa nangona kule meko kukho indlela yokuphuma-ukufumana imvume, isabelo somntwana kwikamva elizayo kufuneka linyuswe. Ngokomzekelo, kwintsapho yabantu abathathu (abazali ababini kunye nebhokhwe), oku kwenziwa kanje: indlu entsha ayikhutshwanga kathathu, kodwa kubini-omnye wabazali nomntwana. Ngaloo ndlela, iindleko zesabelo esitsha (isiqingatha) kwihostela ziya kuba ziphakamileyo kuneyona yangaphambili (enye yesithathu).
Njengoko ubona, ukukhipha umntwana kwifestile eyabhaliswe ngasese akuyona into elula njengoko kubonakala ngathi ukujonga kuqala, ngoko ke ukuba ucwangcisa ukuthengwa kweentengo zendawo yokuhlala, qaphela inkqubo phambi kwangaphambili.
Ndingamfumana njani umntwana ngaphandle kwendlu?
Ukukhutshwa kwindlu yokuhlala yomntwana omdala, kufuneka imvume yakhe. Ukuba umntwana wenqaba ukunika, fumana
Kukho nawuphi na, qaphela kwaye unganqikazi ukongezelela ukuhlolisisa onke amaxwebhu. Emva kwakho konke, ukuba uthengela indawo apho umntwana ongaphandle angabhaliswa khona, ekugqibeleni abazali bakhe banokukhawuleza ngokukhawuleza ukusemthethweni kokuthengiselana kwaye bakunciphise ilungelo lepropathi enkundleni. Kwaye kulo mzekelo, umyalelo uya kuba soloko uhlala kwicala lomntwana, kungekhona umthengi omdala.