Ungakulibala njani umntu omthandayo?

Mhlawumbi, ngamnye wethu wajamelana neengxaki ezinjalo, umntu othile ngamava akhe amnandi, kunye nomnye umntu, ethuthuzela umngane "ongazange asebenze." Nangona kunjalo, ngasinye sicinga malunga nendlela yokulibala umntu omthandayo, kungekhona ukuphupha ebusuku nokuba ungabambeli emlanjeni. Kucacile ukuba ngokukhawuleza ukhohlwe intanda yakho, kungakhathaliseki ukuba uzama kangakanani, ayiyi kusebenza, kuthatha ixesha kwaye ngakumbi, bhetele. Kodwa unako ukukhawulezisa inkqubo ngokusebenzisa ixesha ngokufanelekileyo njengoko kunokwenzeka. Makhe sijonge iindlela zokumkhohlwa umhlobo wakho ngonaphakade.

Inyathelo 1

Into yokuqala okufuneka uyenze ukulibala umhlobo wakho ukuqonda ngokucacileyo ngokusemandleni ukuba sele sele esecaleni kwimeko yakho ebomini. Kwaye akukho mqondo ekubuyeni. Musa ukuhamba ngeenxa zonke ebomini bakho. Kwaye ekubeni sagqiba ukulibala, ngoko simele senze ngokukhawuleza, asifanele sibe nesithakazelo ebomini bamandulo, ukubiza kunye nokucwangcisa ama-scandals. Mane ususe inombolo yefowuni uze unqande abahlobo bakho ukuba bakuxelele ngobomi bakhe, awunomdla kuyo ngoku. Enyanisweni, ukuphendula umbuzo wokuba umlibale umhlobo wakhe, u-psychologists unike icebiso lokubiza abantu abangaphambili. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha, kwaye kuphela xa ufuna ukudayela inombolo yakhe kakhulu. Umnqweno ongabonakaliyo unokukhokelela ekudakaleni, ngoko ke kufuneka ufonele, kodwa kuphela ukuze uxoxe ngendlela enobubele. Ukuba awuziveki ezinjalo, uze ukhohlwe inombolo yakhe yefowuni, idilesi ye-imeyile kunye nabanye oonxibelelwano.

Isinyathelo 2

Iingcebiso kwanoma yiphina i-psychologist, ukulibala umthandayo, kuya kuba neqhosha elilandelayo: "Musa ukugcina imizwa kuwe." Oku kuthetha ukuba udinga ukufumana umphulaphuli onombulelo kwaye ufumane ibhandi elungileyo, ukuxelela ukuba bubuhlungu kangakanani njalo njalo. Ukuba umphulaphuli akafunyanwanga, okanye ukuba awuyi kuphosa imvakalelo ngesizathu esithile, zama ukunika enye indlela. Ngokomzekelo, ngaba uvakalelwa ngumsindo kwixesha langaphambili? Gcoba iifoto zakhe kwiimfashane, udonsa amathoyizi amancinci aboniswe kubo, udibanisa, uphonsa izinto zakhe ebhaleni (kuphela kubadluli-abahambeliyo), nantoni na.

Isinyathelo 3

Awazi ukuba ungakhohlwa msinya umhlobo wakho? I-Psychology isicebisa ukuba sicinge malunga nokuba kulungile kangakanani, ukudibanisa zonke izinto ezilungileyo nezimbi. Khumbula ukuba ubugcisa obudala: sihlula ishidi kwisiqingatha kwaye sibhala kwikholamu enye kunye neyezinye, iifom. Ngokuqhelekileyo le ndlela inceda, ukuba ungayikhohlwa intanda yakho, ngoko ufanele udideke kuyo. Umfazi okhubekileyo ufumanisa iimpazamo ezininzi ekupheleni kokugcwalisa itafile, ummangaliso unikezwa, njengoko esaphila nale nkosi.

Isinyathelo 4

Ungazama njani ukulibala umhlobo? Kwaye nayiphi na indlela, nqama sele, ekugqibeleni, zama ukuqhubela phambili kwimemori yakho. Ukuhlala nje, ebomini kukho konke okulungileyo konke okulungileyo, kwaye kwakunjalo, kwaye, kwaye kuya kuba. Musa ukuxhoma kwixesha elidlulileyo. Ewe, ukuze iingcamango ezingadingekanga zingakhanjethi, gcwalisa usuku lwakho ngezenzo ukuya kumda. Oku akuthethi ukuba kuyimfuneko ukuba uguquke ube ngumsebenzi onobuchule, uhamba epakini (iivenkile), iintlanganiso kunye nabahlobo, amakilasi enempilo (kwisangqa sokusika nokuthunga, ukubunjwa kwiplastiki, nayiphi na into yokuzonwabisa). Kwaye emva komhla oxakekileyo, akukho zizathu ezibuhlungu aziyi kuba nexesha lokuhlala engqondweni yakho, umzimba uzakufuna ngokuphuthuma ukuphumla kwaye akukho madrama othando ngeli xesha akayi kuba nomdla.

Isinyathelo 5

Ngokuvame ukuhlukana nothando lwakho, asikwazi ukuqonda ixesha elide ukuba kusekho indawo yokuvuya. Ukujamelana nokuphelelwa yithemba, funda, imihla ngemihla ukuba uqaphele izinto ezincinci ezenze ukhatheke. Akunandaba nokuba kuya kuba yintoni, ikhofi ecocekileyo kunye nekhekhe, izonambitha kwi-cafe epholile, i-kitten yamehlo amangalisayo, ijonge iflyfly okanye ingxelo engeniswe ngempumelelo. Ulonwaba kukuba, kwaye kulezi zinto ezincinci. Njalo ubusuku khumbula into eyenzekayo kumhla. Ngoko uza kuphinda usetyenzise ukumemeza ihlabathi, kwaye uya kubuyela kuwe.