Umtshato uyinyathelo, ngokungathandabuzeki, uxanduva, kwaye intombazana iphosa ngomtshato omhle kunye nomyeni omhle. Yaye xa bacinga ngokuhle, iintombazana zihlushwa ngumbuzo othi, "Ndingaphila iminyaka emininzi?" Kuyinto enqwenelekayo ukushiya indlu kwengubo yomtshato.
Kukho neemeko xa umfana kunye nentombazana bedibana iminyaka emininzi kwaye bafuna ukutshata, kuba iibini zithandabuza umbuzo "uneminyaka engakanani ongatshata nayo? Ngoko, uneminyaka emingakanani ongayifaka kwiofisi yokubhalisa?
Zingaphi iminyaka zingatshata ngokomthetho?
Masiqale, mhlawumbi, kunye neRashiya - ungaphi iminyaka ngemithetho onokutshata eRashiya? I-Family Code Code isungula iminyaka engumtshato (inani leminyaka emva kokuba umntu angatshata) iminyaka eyi-18. Kodwa ukuba kukho izizathu ezifanelekileyo, banokutshata (kodwa abanyanzelekile) abaneminyaka elishumi elinesithandathu ubudala. Ukongezelela, ukuba kukho iimeko ezikhethekileyo ezichazwe yimithetho yeRussian Federation, umtshato ungagqitywa ngaphambi kokuba uneminyaka elishumi elinesibhozo.
Kwaye ndineminyaka emininzi e-Ukraine? Kuze kube kutshanje, kwavunyelwa ukutshata ukusuka kwiminyaka elishumi elinesixhenxe, kodwa i-Family Code yase-Ukraine ngo-Apreli 2012 yamkela izilungiso zokukhulisa umtshato oneminyaka engatshatanga. Ngoku unjalo, njengaseRashiya, iminyaka eyi-18 ubudala. Kodwa ilungelo lomtshato lingafunyanwa yintombazana (okanye inkwenkwe) iminyaka eyi-16 ngesigqibo senkundla xa kwenzeka ukuba umtshato udibana neminqweno yesibini esinqwenela ukutshata. Ngaphambili, ubuncinane obudala bomtshato buyiminyaka eyi-14. Ukuphakanyiswa kwenkathi yokutshata kwachazwa ngababhali balo mthetho njengenzame yokwenza isizukulwana esincinane sibe nesimo sengqondo esinoxanduva kunye nenkqubela phambili kwiziko lentsapho.
Lilixesha lokutshata?
Mhlawumbi abaninzi banqwenela intombazana bashada emva kweentloko zabo, befunda ukuba balinde umhla weshumi elinesibhozo, njengoko kungekho zizathu ezikhethekileyo neentlonelo. Kwaye ke, oomama abadala bayazama ukubaduduza, besithi akukho ndawo yokukhawuleza, usenayo ixesha lokuthatha ubomi obukhulu bentsapho kunye nepuni enkulu. Ezi zimbini izizukulwana zinenyaniso yazo, kodwa mhlawumbi kubalulekile kungekudala iminyaka ongatshata ngayo ngomthetho, kwaye xa ufuna ukukwenza. Emva koko, ubudala abubalulekanga, kwenzeka ukuba inenekazi eneminyaka engama-30 iziphatha ngendlela encinci, ingazi ngokupheleleyo umthwalo omele uwathathe ngokutshata. Kwaye kukho iimeko xa intombazana eneminyaka eyi-16 kunye ne-baby-sitter, kwaye ihlangabezana nezoqoqosho, kwaye iyonwabile. Yonke into incike kumntu, ngamnye wethu uneminyaka ubudala xa ixesha lokutshata, lihluke.
Kodwa njani ke ukufumanisa iminyaka yobudala bakho, ukuba umbuzo othi "iminyaka emininzi abafazi batshatileyo" ayiphakamisi isigqubuthelo semfihlo? Yaye ngubani owakutshilo ukuba kufuneka ucele omnye umntu umbono? Kukho ukubandlulula phakathi kwabesifazane "Andizange nditshatile ngaphambi kokuba ndibe neminyaka engama-30, ngoko ke akukho namnye ufanelekile", yingakho amantombazana agijimela kwi-ofisi ye-registry, ezama ukufikelela kwixesha elibuhlungu.
Ukuba imbono yabanye nayo ayikwazi ukuba ngumcebisi kwimiba yomtshato, ngoko ke ithemba lokugqibela loogqirha. Bathi ixesha elihle lokuzalwa komntwana wokuqala uneminyaka engama-23-25 ubudala. Ngoko, kufuneka uzame ukufika khona ngeendlela zonke? Nangona abantwana abafuni, nangona loo mntu ikhona, akafuni ukudlala indima yomntu othandekayo? Kubonakala ngathi kumbuzo, xa kufike ixesha lokutshata, kwaye amayeza ayinamandla.
Kwaye sinokuthetha ngantoni na? Intsapho ayikho imifanekiso, iimvakalelo, iiminqweno kunye nokuzibophelela kwabantu ababini abagqiba ukuphila ubomi obude kunye kunye. Akunandaba nokuba ngaba bantu baneminyaka engakanani - 16 okanye 89.