Akukho mntu wesifazane ngokuzithandela ufuna ukuba nobuhlobo nomntu onomfazi. Abasetyhini abaninzi bayazi ukuba ubuhlobo obunjalo abuyi kubakho nantoni na entle, kuphela kwintlungu, inzondo nokudumala. Okokuthi, olu hlobo lolwalamano lunokuthiwa lithemba. Kunqabile ukuba umntu ushiye intsapho yakhe, aze atshate inkosikazi. Kodwa, ukuba njani, ukuba kunjalo, ulwalamano olunjalo. Umfazi, ekugqibeleni, uqondayo, ukuba intando yakhe ayiyi kuphosa umlingane kwaye ilungiselela ubomi kunye nabafazi. Ingcamango yokuba olobuhlobo luya kuba njalo, aluhambelani nomfazi, uyaqonda ukuba akayiboni intsapho njengeendlebe zakhe. Yaye yonke inkazana ehlakaniphile iyinika impendulo, kutheni kuyimfuneko ukuba inxalenye yendoda esatshatileyo-ukutshatyalaliswa kwentsapho yabanye kunye nokungabikho komntu. Indlela yokwahlula umthandi otshatileyo, ngumbuzo oyintloko.
Indlela yokwenza inxaxheba kunye nomthandi otshatileyo-iingcebiso zengqondo yengqondo
- Ukunyaniseka nawe. Umfazi uqhubeka nobudlelwane nomtshato, nangona eyazi ngokungahambi kakuhle kwezenzo zakhe. Ngaba unokuziqhayisa ngobu buhlobo? Kufuneka uzibeke ezicathulweni zenye ibhinqa: ngaba kuya kuba mnandi ukwazi ngokungathembeki komntu othandekayo? Kubalulekile ukujamelana nenyaniso. Umfazi nje akanakunomdla kwindlela izenzo zakhe ezichaphazela ngayo ubomi bentsapho.
- Ukuphazamiseka kwimeko "efanelekileyo". Ukuze uqonde indlela yokwenza inxaxheba kunye nomyeni wakho othandekayo, kufuneka udanike. Emva koko, lo "mhle" ungude kumntu lowo umfazi wakhe ubona imihla ngemihla. Inkosikazi ayiyikucima impahla yakhe engcolileyo, ayiyikumemeza iisokisi ezazisasazeka kwiindlu, aziphikisi kwaye ayiphikisi. Xa edibana nendoda esatshatileyo, ibona indoda efanelekileyo phambi kwayo, kodwa ayiyazi into enjalo.
- Musa ukufuna izizathu. Iindwendwe ezininzi ziqinisekile ukuba umtshato womthandi waqala ukutshabalaliswa. Yanele! Awudingi
zikhohlise, kuba ukuba umtshato wawubhujiswe ngokutsha, ngoko yonke into yayingekadluli ixesha elide. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba indoda ithanda nje ukuba ibe neqabane kunye nenkosikazi . - Olunye uhlobo olufanelekileyo, oluya kuxela indlela yokwenza inxaxheba nomntu otshatileyo, kukuxhasa ngabahlobo. Udinga nje ukubiza abahlobo bakho abasondeleyo, ulungiselele intlanganiso kwaye uvule umphefumlo wakho kubo, xelela ngezinto ezikukhathazayo. Udinga ukwabelana nabo ngesigqibo sokuba uhlukane nomthandayo. Kubalulekile ukubhala inkxaso yabo. Ngoko kuya kunokwenzeka ukuba uzive unamandla, uzimisele ngakumbi kwaye ungathandabuzi izenzo zakho.