Abazali bomyeni

Phantse wonke ummeli wesini esilungileyo, egqoke intambo yokubandakanya eminwe yakhe, unyanzelekile ukuba angathethanga kuphela nomyeni osandul 'ukwenziwa, kodwa kunye nazo zonke izihlobo zakhe. Ngokuqinisekileyo, abantu abalulekileyo kubomi bomyeni ngabazali bakhe. Kwaye ukufudumala ubudlelwane phakathi kwezihlobo ezitshatileyo, ukomelela intsapho ngokwayo.

Ukuseka ubudlelwane obuhle kunye noninazala kunye noninazala ngumcimbi obalulekileyo kumfazi osandul 'ukwenziwa. Akubona wonke ummeli wesini esilungileyo ukulungele ukuthetha ukuba yena noninazala bahlobo oluhle. Le meko iyinqabile kakhulu. Kodwa ngamnye umfazi kufuneka afunde indlela yokugcina unxibelelwano olufudumele kunye nobungane nabazali bomyeni wakhe. Kule nqaku siza kukuxelela indlela yokuhambelana nomama-mkhwenkwe kunye nokuseka ubudlelwane obuhle naye.

Iimfihlelo zobudlelwane obuhle phakathi komkhwekazi nomalokazana:

1. Intsapho encinane kufuneka iphile ngokwahlukileyo kubazali bomyeni. Lo ngumgaqo obaluleke kakhulu apho kukho ezininzi iingxabano eziphathelele. Ukuba phantsi kophahla olulodwa kunye nokwabelana ngekhitshini, uninazala (okanye umkhwekazi) kunye nomalokazana kamva bafumene izizathu ezininzi zeengxaki kunye neengxabano. Kwaye, ngokuphindaphindiweyo ubudlelwane bomyeni wakhe nomama-mkhwenkwe bakhelwe ngendlela enokuthi indoda inganyuki kule mpikiswano kwaye ayikhuseli umfazi wayo. Esi sizathu sokungavumelani phakathi kwabatshatileyo, nto leyo, engakhothi kuyo nayiphi na into enhle. Ngenxa yoko, iingcali zengqondo zicebisa ukuba bangahlali nabazali bomyeni wakhe. Ukuba awufuni ukuphulaphula iingcebiso kunye nomyalelo womamazala wakho, zama ukungawusebenzisi ekhaya kunye nabantwana. Ukubeka emagxeni omnakekeli wabantakwabo okanye malunga nantoni na enye, wena, nangayiphi na imeko, uya kuhlala uphulaphule umbono wakhe. Nangona ucinga ngendlela eyahlukileyo, akunakwenzeka ukuba uya kukwazi ukukholisa umkhwe wakho. Kule meko, iingxabano zize zenzeke nomamakazi omhle kakhulu.
2. Sivule abazali bakho kwindwendwe . Ukuba kunzima ukuba ukhumbule, qalisa igrafu kwishedyuli yakho yemihla ngemihla, eya kukwazisa xa ufanele ubizele izihlobo zakho.
3. Musa ukukhawulelana unxibelelwano phakathi komamazala nomntwana. Abantwana, njengomthetho, kufuneka bathethe noomkhulu babo, kwaye abafuni ukucinga ngokubaluleka kokuxabana nokuxabana phakathi kwabantu abadala. Ukutyelela rhoqo abazali bomyeni kunye nabantwana, unika ubuhlobo obuhle nabo.
4. Zama ukuqinisekisa ukuba abazali bakho nabazali bakho bafumana ulwimi olufanayo. Xa abazali bomyeni kunye nomfazi behlangana, kukho izizathu ezininzi zokutya iintsapho, ezinokuba nempembelelo emihle ebunyeni bentsapho.

Kubuhlungu, kodwa kwiimeko ezingama-90%, ezo ntsapho eziphoqelelwe ukuba ziphile nabazali bomyeni wazo azikwazi ukuphepha iingxabano. Ezinyangeni ezimbalwa emva komtshato abaninzi abafazi baya kwiingcamango zokuthi umkhwekazi uyamzonda umkhwekazi wakhe kwaye uyamthoba. Ngoko okanye akunjalo, kunzima ukuchaza. Kodwa nangona kunjalo, umalokazana kufuneka ukutshintsha isimo sabo sengqondo kumamazala kamasipala kunye neemeko ukwenzela ukuba zenze izinto ezinqabileyo zingabonakali.

Ekubeni kunzima ukuhlala kunye noninazala, kufuneka uqale ucinge ngeendlela ongakhetha kuzo ukuhamba ngokukhawuleza. Oku akudingeki ukuba abe neentloni ukuthetha nomyeni wakhe, ngoko ingxaki iza kusombulula ngokukhawuleza. Kwenzeka ukuba ulwalamano phakathi kwezihlobo luvutha kakhulu kangangokuba umkhwenkwezana ukhawuleza ukukhalaza kubahlobo bakhe ukuba umkhwe wakhe umxoshe. Ngokwemvelo, akufanele uvumele le nto, kuba ubudlelwane, obuye bonakaliswa ngaphambili, kwiimeko ezininzi abuyi kubuyiselwa. Ngoko ke, kungcono ukulandela ubulumko bendoda nokuthanda iintsapho ekude.