Nangona abafazi banamhlanje bahlala bephumelele kakhulu kwimali kunamadoda amaninzi, bazama ukudala intsapho ukuba ibonakale njengomfazi, unina, inkosikazi. Nangona kunjalo, i-counter yokuqala yala majazana ayifanelekanga kwaye iyakwazi ukuva umbuzo - indlela yokutshata nendoda yamaphupha akhe.
Indlela yokutshata indoda elungileyo?
Ukutshata indoda elungileyo, ibhinqa lifuna ukumfumana kuqala. Iimpawu zangoku zifana nokuba i-criterion eyona nto igxininiso lwezemali lwabantu, kodwa igxininise kulo kuphela, abafazi bahlala bephosakele.
Ukuchonga umviwa omhle kumyeni unokuba kwiindawo ezininzi:
- ukhululekile kwaye akakho nakuphi na ubudlelwane (amadoda aneminyaka engama-40 ubudala kunye nabadala kufuneka babe nomtshato okanye ubuhlobo besikhathi eside - okuqhelekileyo);
- uyabahlonela abafazi kwaye ufanelwe inhlonipho;
- usebenza nzima kwaye uyasebenza.
Indlela yokutshata umntu ophumelelayo nobutyebi?
Ukuba injongo yowesifazane ngumntu ophumelelayo kunye nobutyebi, kufuneka aqale "ukuzingela" emva kokulungiselela ngokucophelela. Le ntokazi kufuneka ikhumbule ukuba abaviwa abanjalo bafuna kakhulu, ngoko kuya kufuneka banyamezele ukukhuphisana okukhulu.
Into yokuqala ekufuneka yenziwe kumtshakazi onokuphumelelayo womntu ophumelelayo kunye nobutyebi ukuzisa ukubonakala kwakhe ngokuhambelana nommandla wakhe. Kwaye kuthetha oku: ukuvisisana, ukulungiswa, ubuhle. Ibhinqa mayingenasiphako, isuka kwiintonga kunye nokuphela kweenwele. Eyona ndlela ifanele ibe yindlela yendodakazi.
Ukongezelela ekubonakalayo, kuyafuneka kwakhona ukuba usebenze kumxholo - kuphela abafazi abahlakaniphile baba ngabahlobo abahlala bephumelelayo. Akukho indawo yokufunda iilwimi zangaphandle, ukuba ube yingcali kunoma yiphina insimu, umzekelo, umyili wezinto ezilungileyo. Oku kuyimfuneko ukuze kungabi yindoda kuphela ithoyizi elincinci - elikufutshane naye kwaye ngokwaneleyo.
Omnye umgangatho obalulekileyo ubufazi. Naliphi na umntu ofuna ukuqinisekisa ubungqina bakhe, kwaye oku kuya kwenzeka kuphela kumfazi othandekayo nowesifazane.
Kwaye emva kwexesha lokulungiselela, umfazi kufuneka aqale ukukhangela umntu ofanelekileyo. Abathengi abanezityebi nabaphumelelayo banokufumaneka kwiimicimbi zoshishino - iintlanganiso, iintlanganiso, njl. Ukongezelela, kukho amathuba aphezulu ekuqhelaneni nendoda ecebileyo kwiiklabhu zezemidlalo eziphambili, kwimincintiswano e-polo, igalofu, ukugibela.
Ukuqalisa intlanganiso, iingcali zeengqondo zicetyiswa ukuba zihlangabezane nendoda ekhethiweyo rhoqo kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Kufuneka kuphela ukwenza oku ngokwemvelo: xa u tyelela ivenkile, ivenkile, i- gym , njl. Ewe, emva kokuba uqhelane lwenzeka, yonke into incike kuphela kwintombazana kunye nokukwazi kwakhe ukumnceda.
Ndingatshata njani indoda ethandekayo?
Ukudibana nendoda ethandekayo, abasetyhini baqala ukuphupha ngokuhlwaya kwentsapho yokuthula nabantwana. Nangona kunjalo, umntu uhlala engacingi ukuba uboshwe ngumtshato. Ukuze usatshatile othandekayo, ibhinqa kufuneka ikhethe iindlela ezifanelekileyo zokuziphatha.
Umthetho wokuqala wokuba ufuna ukuhlawula umtshakazi onokuthi ungayikufaka ingcinezelo kumntu, umphoqelele ukuba atshate okanye mhlawumbi uthembise. Ukuziphatha okunjalo kuqinisekisiwe ukuthusa umthandi, kuba amagama athi "Ndifuna ukutshata" ezwakala kuye ngokuthi "Ndifuna ukugcinwa." Kungcono kakhulu kuwo wonke amathuba ukuphinda: "Unomdla kwaye unomdla, ndivuyiswa kukuba sinobunye!"
Kubalulekile ukuba umfazi onxulumene nendoda ibaluleke kakhulu. Abameli bezesondo eziqinileyo abanqwenela ukukhalaza ngamantombazana, ngoko ke akuthandeki kwiintlanganiso nganye ukulayisha loo mntu ngeengxaki kunye neengxaki zabo. Umfazi ozithandayo kufuneka abe nethemba kwaye athokoze.
Eyona ndlela kunye nomgaqo omnye obaluleke kakhulu, okwenene kubo bonke abameli bezesondo ezifanelekileyo - umbala obalaseleyo. Akunandaba - ibhinqa elingatshatanga okanye utshatile, kufuneka ahlale ebonakala enhle. Kwaye le nkcukacha yangaphandle engaqhelekanga ayifuni - yanele ukuba ilungele kakuhle, i-slender, inambatho igqoke.