Indlela yokuziphatha nomthandi?

Ingcamango "yomthandi" ineenkcazelo ezininzi. Ukuba usichaza intsingiselo yaleli gama ukusuka kwingcamango yothando, ke lo ngumntu osondeleyo, othandekayo.

Enye inkcazelo kusekelwe kubuhlobo obusondeleyo. Ukuze uchaneke ngakumbi, umthandana naye olala naye kwaye akanalo uxanduva lomntu omnye.

Ingcaciso yesithathu ifana neyokudlulileyo. Ukutshata, ubudlelwane kwicala luqaliswe kunye nomthandi okanye umthandi. Kwakhona, olu lwalamano luhlobo lwesondlo. Phakathi kobalingane, uthando alube lukhona. Olu lwalamano lunokusekelwe kwintando, ukukhwabanisa ngokwesondo, uvelwano.

Xoxa namhlanje indlela yokuziphatha kakuhle nomthandi.

Iintaka zonxweme

Abantu abangatshatileyo bathandanayo babesithiwa bathandekayo. Ukuba umthandi wakho ungumntu obizayo kwaye osondeleyo, uphupha ubomi obonwabileyo kunye, usapho olukhulu kwaye ucinge ngomtshato, ngoko kufuneka ugcine imithetho ethile ekusebenzelaneni nomntu:

• musa ukubeka uxinzelelo kuye. Iqhinga lomtshato kufuneka livela kumntu. Unokumzisela kuphela kule ndlela ngeendlela zonke, usebenzisa onke amaqhinga amabhinqa kunye namaqhinga;
• ku nya niseka. Uthande kwaye ujabule kwisithuba ngasinye esichithwa kunye. Musa ukuxhoma kwi sitampu kwipaspoti yakho. Xa ubonisa ngakumbi ukuzola, kunye nokungakhathaleli komtshato, ngokukhawuleza isiqingatha sakho siya kufuna ukukukhokelela kwisithsaba;
• ube ngumfazi. Musa ukulibala malunga nawe ngomzuzu. Zama ukuphelela kokubili nangaphandle nangokomoya. Yiya kwindawo yokuzivocavoca, jonga ukutya, mahlale ufana. Njengoko bethetha, emzimbeni ophilileyo - ngengqondo ephilileyo;
• kuphuhlise kwaye uhlale ehamba naye umdla. Yiba nethuba lokuzonwabisa, iiklasi zomphefumlo kunye neengqondo. Yiba nomdla kwizinto owaziyo okwamanje, zama ukuba "ukuhaha" ngaphambi kokuphila.

Enchanted, yandila

Abaninzi banomdla kumbuzo wokuziphatha njani nomthandi, otshatileyo. Ukutsho ukuba ukunyaniseka kuyintetho kwaye iphantsi ingenanto. Wonke umntu wenza oko akufunayo, le nto iyimfihlo kumntu wonke. Kwaye ngokufanelekileyo, wonke umntu uya kuvuzwa. Ukuba ufumana umntu "ecaleni", ojongene nokukhanga, ukukhanga, kubalulekile ukuyigcina kude. Awufuni ukutshabalalisa umtshato - kukukhetha kwakho. Ngoko kufuneka wenze yonke imizamo ukuqinisekisa ukuba umthandi akanalo ithuba 'lokudibana' ebomini bakho bentsapho.

Umthandi ufanele ukuziphatha njani kwimeko?

Okokuqala, kufuneka aneliswe yimeko apho ubudlelwane bakho bukhona khona. Ukuba ulindele ngakumbi, umzekelo, ukuba ushiye umyeni wakho, uya kuba nzima naye. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ngaphandle kokuba ungazicwangcisi ukwenza njalo kwikamva elizayo.

Okwesibini, indoda ayifanele ibangele inkxalabo kwindoda yakho. Akukho sms zantambama kunye neefowuni. Konke oku kufanele kwenzeke ngexesha elichanekileyo.

Okwesithathu, kufuneka ahlale ebhedeni aze anike izipho. Bobabini iqabane lifumana kulwalamano olunjalo, into abayifunayo: uyabelana ngesondo, uyayikhathalela kunye nomnqweno womnqweno wakhe. Yona yokugqibela yimbangela yokungcatsha kwabasetyhini. Akukho isondo esincinci sifuna amantombazana atshatiweyo, ingqalelo kunye nokuthandana, okungabikho ebomini bentsapho. Emva kwemizamo engaphumeleli yokongeza umnqweno olwalamano nomyeni wakhe, abaninzi abafazi bazama ukufumana oko bangenayo kwiingalo zomthandi. Isivunguvungu seemvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo eziyimfuneko ngamnye, ngamanye amaxesha ziyafumaneka kuphela kwicala. Kubuhlungu, kodwa kunjalo.

Ukungathembeki kobuhenyu yinto apho kwiimeko ezininzi kunomvuzo wokuhlawula. Yinyamekele intsapho kunye nothando, apho lenziwe khona.