Umbuzo wembangela ukuba indoda ingayifuni umfazi kwisimo sengqondo ngokuqhelekileyo. Abasetyhini abaninzi baqhelana nomvakalelo xa ufuna uthando nothando, kodwa umyeni akaphuthumi ukukholisa intanda yakhe. Ngokukodwa esi sihloko sivame ukuxoxwa phakathi kwabafazi ngexesha lokukhulelwa nangemva kokubeleka.
Kutheni umyeni wakhe engafuni umfazi okhulelwe?
Ukukhulelwa lixesha elihle kumfazi ngamnye. Ngeli xesha le nto ibhinqa ibhinqa, kodwa ngelo xesha imoya yakhe iyatshintsha. Udinga ukunakekelwa ngakumbi kunye nomdla, kwaye kufuneka afune ukuwamkela indoda yakhe, nangona eguqulela iifom zakhe. Kule nkalo, kubaninzi abafazi ngexesha lokukhulelwa, umbuzo weso sizathu sokuba umyeni uyeke ukufuna umfazi uhlala efanelekileyo.
Nangona kunjalo, loo ndoda nayo ivakalelwa iimvakalelo ezithile kunye neemvakalelo. Kungekudala uza kufuneka abe nguyise, oko kuthetha ukuba ngokumalunga nokuzaliswa, kubalulekile ukusebenzela ngaphezulu ukubonelela intsapho. Ukukhathala ngokugqithiseleyo emsebenzini kungaba isizathu sokuba indoda ingathandi ukwenza uthando nomfazi wakhe. Kanti phakathi kwamadoda, kuninzi uloyiko lokwenzakalisa umfazi wakho okanye umntwana ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo.
Kwiengqondo, unokufumana iingcebiso ezininzi zokuba kutheni umyeni engafuni umfazi ngexesha lokukhulelwa. Awunakukhathazeka ngale nto kwaye uzenzele ukuqikelela. Kuphela kufuneka uxoxe nomlingane wakho kwaye ufumene isizathu esibalulekileyo sokungabikho kwesifiso sesini.
Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba ubuhlobo obusondeleyo phakathi nokukhulelwa akubanga imbandezelo, kwaye nangona kunjalo kuya kunceda. Emva kwakho konke, ukuba unyoko wakho ujabule kuwo, umntwana uya kuziva efanelekileyo. Nangona kunjalo, oku kusebenza kuphela ukuba akukho zichaso zonyango.
Izizathu zokuba indoda ingathandi umfazi emva kokubeleka
Emva kokubeleka, izibini zifumana ukuhla kwezenzo zesondo. Oku kwenzeka ngenxa yokuba uninzi lwengqalelo luhlawulwa kumntwana.
Xa ulutsha lusapho luhlala nabazali babo, umntwana usegumbini labo, kwaye abanakho indawo yokuthatha umhlalaphantsi, oku kunokuchaphazela ukuhamba kunye nobude besondo.
Ukuzaliswa kwintsapho ngumcimbi omangalisayo ebomini bomtshato, nangona kukho ubunzima kunye neengxaki. Iingcali zengqondo zincoma ngeli xesha ukuba zinyamekele kwaye zihloniphe iimvakalelo zeqabane. Kukho nawuphi na, musa ukufihlekisa izikhalazo zakho, kodwa xubusha kunye neqabane lakho elithandayo.