"Iingcinga eziphazamisayo zidala izinto ezinkulu kwizinto ezincinci"
Umzekeliso weSweden
Injabulo yenye yezinye iimvakalelo esinokuzama ukuzifihla. Ingaba yinto enhle, omnye umbuzo. Masifunde ukuba iziphi iimpawu ezikunika zona xa uzama ukufihla amava akho, kunye nendlela yokuchonga oko omnye umntu akhathazekile ngako.
Izibonakaliso ezibonakalayo ukuba umntu ukhathazekile
Ngamanye amaxesha ukuziphatha, ukunyakaza kunye nentetho kunika umntu ngentloko - unokubona ngokukhawuleza ukuba ukhathazekile kakhulu:
- ukuthuthumela ngelizwi lakhe, intetho edidekile kunye nokunyamezela. Akunzima ukuqonda ukuba xa umntu exhalabisa, wenza konke ukujamelana naye. Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo ilizwi linika umdla;
- ukuthuthumela ngamadolo, iminwe okanye nokuba umzimba wonke. Ukuthuthumela kweengalo kubangelwa ukukhululwa kwe "hormone yokuxinzelela" emzimbeni, injongo yokuqala yokulungiselela umzimba ngokuzikhusela (ukukhuselwa) nokuqinisa imisebenzi yomzimba. Ukusuka kulolu hlobo, izihlunu ziqala ukuthuthumela;
- ukuhamba emva nangaphandle. Ixhwankqiso kaninzi ibangela umntu ukuba angene phantsi aze ahlawule ngeenxa zonke egumbini, kwaye achaze oku okufanayo "ama-hormone oxinzelelo". Ngokuqhelekileyo kubonakala ngathi uhamba ngokungahambisani nokuhamba. Ngamanye amaxesha umntu uyayeka kwaye, ezama ukujamelana naye, ubeka izandla, umzekelo, emva kwesihlalo;
- jonga. Ukuba umnxibelelwano uzama ngokukhawuleza ukukhusela umbono wakho, oku akuthethi ukuba uthetha. Ngokuqhelekileyo ukukhangela okubonakalayo kubonisa ukuba umntu ukhathazekile xa ethetha nawe.
Ukungcola iimpawu zokuba umntu ukhathazeke
Ngamanye amaxesha siyakwazi ukugcina iimvakalelo phantsi kolawulo. Kodwa iliso elinolwazi liya kubeka isigxina kwiimpawu ezithile. Umzekelo:
- ukukhusela kunye nokulibala iibinzana zangaphambili. Ukuzama ukufihla injabulo, sihlala silahlekelwa ngumtya weengxoxo kwaye ngamanye amaxesha asiyikhumbuli loo nto, kodwa ingcinga yaqala;
- xa umntu exhalabile kakhulu, ngokuqhelekileyo akhupha izinto ezithile. Nabani na ophendulela ipeni ezandleni zakhe, umntu ovutha ingqayi yeenwele ngomunwe, umntu uyamtyumza impumlo. Abantu abaninzi, bakhathazeka, baqala ukugaya izipikili zabo. Ukuba umnxibelelwano ukhawuleza iminwe yakhe - le nto ingenakugwetywa.
- abanye baqala ukubetha iminwe yabo etafileni. Lo mqondiso ongenamdla unobungqina kwaye unika umonakalo womnxibelelwano;
- ukuba ingilazi ngamanzi, indebe yeti okanye igrlasi yewayini phambi komnxibelelwano, uqaphele indlela umntu atywala ngayo. Kwimeko ekhululekile, mhlawumbi, indebe iya kukhutshwa ngokukhawuleza. Inwaba isenza siphuze rhoqo kunye ne-sips encinci, okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, i-volley, njengoko some emqaleni;
- Amehlo angabonakaliyo nawo umqondiso weva. Nangona kunjalo, oku kukhangeleka kukhululekile, kungekhona ukukholisa, kodwa njengokungathi kukho, kodwa ngexesha elifanayo kakhulu;
- ukutshaya rhoqo. Kwaye abo banqabile ukubamba ugwayi (udibanisa) ngamaxesha amava banokutsaliswa ngakumbi kwipakethi. Ukubhema kunceda ukufihla injabulo, ngokuchanekileyo, nezinye iimpawu. Jonga indlela umntu otshaya ngayo ukuqonda ukuba unenkxalabo. Umzekelo, ukuba i-lighter ayisebenziyo ngokukhawuleza, ikwazi ukuphosa iimvakalelo zayo, igxininise ingqalelo kulo mzuzwana. Ukukrakra, ukutshaya rhoqo kubonisa ubungqina bokuzama ukujamelana nokuvalelwa kwamava;
- Ukutshintsha kwemihla rhoqo, ngokukhawuleza, ukuhleka okungenangqiqo. Kukho inkcazelo esekelwe kakuhle ukuba kutheni umntu ehleka xa exhalabile. Uku kukhankanya kwe-muscle, ezo zonke zibonisa ngezindlela ezahlukeneyo (ngokuphindaphindiweyo ngohlobo lweentshukumo). Ngaphandle koko, ukuhleka kuyindlela yokukhusela yomzimba ukuxinezeleka;
- ukungakhathaleli. Ukuzama ukufihla injabulo, sinokuya kwelinye icala - singabi nantoni kwaye siyinto engathandekiyo;
- ulwalamano. Umntu unonya xa ekholelwa ukuba usemngciphekweni, kwaye ngoko, ukhathazekile.