Ukuziqonda ngokwayo yiyo yonke into ebonwa ngumntu kwaye ivakalelwa kwindawo ethile. Ukuqala kokukhankanywa kwakhe kwavela kumaxesha amandulo, kwaye kwakubonwa nje ngaphandle komphefumlo womntu.
Ingqiqo enjengomntu ngamnye, umbandela osuke uwanike wona igama, yinqanaba eliphezulu le-psyche yabantu elilodwa kuphela. Yakhiwe phantsi kwefuthe elicacileyo lobuntu, indlela yokuphila , uluntu kwaye luyinxalenye yolwazi lwabantu. Kule nqaku siza kuchaza indlela le ndlela ephakamileyo yokubonakalisa ukunyaniseka kwabantu kubonakala ngayo kwaye njani.
Ukuqonda komntu ngamnye kunye nesakhiwo sayo
Ukuqonda komntu, ingcamango yombono wakhe kunye noluntu luyimvelaphi. Ngamanye amaqhwenga, ukuhanjiswa kweembono kukuzaliseka kwezinto eziphathekayo, zombini kunye noluntu. Ngaloo ndlela, umntu wenza iingcamango zakhe kungekuphela kwimiba yakhe, kodwa nakwindlela yokujonga imiyalezo.
Isakhiwo somntu ngamnye ngumqoqo weengcamango, iimvakalelo, iingcamango, iinjongo, amasiko kunye nezithethe ezenza ngokwenene ukuba umntu uzibonele yena ngokwakhe, enze iinjongo zakhe zenzululwazi, zonqulo kunye nezobugcisa. Wonke umntu ngummeli wobuzwe bakhe, abantu, indawo yokuhlala, ngoko, ukuqonda kwakhe kuhlanganiswe ngokungahambi kakuhle kunye nolwazi lwabantu bonke.
Ekuphuhlisweni komntu ngamnye, amacandelo amabini ahlukeneyo.
- Iyokuqala-yokuqala, okanye inqanaba eliphambili , lenziwa phantsi kwefuthe kuluntu, iingcamango nolwazi. Iinjongo eziphambili zokwakhiwa kwayo ngumsebenzi wemfundo yendalo yangaphandle, imfundo kunye nokuqonda komntu omtsha.
- Inqanaba lesibini - "ukudala" kwaye "lisebenza" , likhuthaza ukuzakhela. Ngeli thuba umntu uguqula yena, ulungele ihlabathi lakhe, ubonakalise ingqondo kwaye, ekugqibeleni, unciphisa izinto ezilungele yena. Iinjongo eziphambili zophuhliso lwoluhlobo lomntu ngamnye luyizizathu, iinjongo kunye nokholo, kwaye izinto eziphambili zibhekwa njengengcinga kunye nokuthanda komntu.
Xa kukho into echaphazelayo, umphumo awukho nje umbono othile owenziwe kwaye ugcinwe kwimemori yethu, kodwa kubangela "isiqhwithi" semvakalelo. Ngoko ke, inqanaba lesibini lophuhliso kwisakhiwo somntu ngamnye unokuthiwa yinto engqiqweni, kodwa kunokufuna uphando ngokunyanisekileyo, apho umntu ehlala khona.