Xa umntwana ebonakala endlwini, onke amalungu entsapho azama ukuzondla ngenyameko, uthando kunye nokuqwalasela. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka ukuba umntwana ngokukhawuleza uqala ukukhala kwaye ngamanye amaxesha abazali abakwazi ukuqonda isizathu sokulila okunjalo. Kubonakala ngathi umntwana ulungele kakuhle, unondliwe, unxibe, uxoxe naye, kwaye abazali banokudideka, indlela yokunceda ukuzola umntwana.
Umntwana osandul 'ukuzalwa usoloko ekhala: njani ukuqonda oko akufunayo?
Ngokuqhelekileyo abazali bayazibuza ukuba kutheni umntwana ehlala ekhala ngenxa yesizathu esicacileyo. Nangona kunjalo, oku kukuphela kokujonga, akukho zibonakaliso ezibonakalayo, ezibonakalisa ukungahambi kakuhle komntwana. Ingane yomntwana ayiyi kulila kungekho sizathu. Uhlala enesizathu salokhu. Kungokuthi ngamanye amaxesha abazali abazange baqonde ngokukhawuleza iimpawu ezivela kumntwana.
Ekubeni umntwana osanda kuzalwa akakwazi ukuthetha, akakwazi ukuxelela abazali bakhe ngeminqweno, iimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo ngaphandle kokuqala ukukhala. Ukumemeza kuyindlela yokunxibelelana, ithuba lokubonisa ukuba into ejongene nayo akunjalo. Kwaye izizathu zokukhala okunjalo zihlukile:
- Ngokuqhelekileyo umntwana uqala ukukhala xa elambile. Ukulila okunjalo kudla ngokuhambisana nokubuyiselwa ubuso, inkunzi iqala ukuthatha izibambiso zayo kwaye ikhale ngokukhawuleza, ifuna ukudla;
- Amava omntwana ahlaziyekile ngelixa edibanisa emanzi. Ngosizo lokukhala, uyazisa abazali bakhe ukuba lixesha lokuba atshintshe iimpahla zakhe. Kwaye ukukhala okunjalo kunokuba nayiphi na imini yomhla, xa umntwana engabonakali kakhulu, ebonisa ngale ndlela imeko yakhe;
- Izambatho ezingenakuthenwa nazo zingaba zizathu zokukhala, ezibangela ukuvakalelwa. Abazali bafanele bajonge iingubo zentsana ngokusondeleyo, mhlawumbi, kwindawo ethile kwakukho i-fold fold over the clothes or rubbing the button. Kule meko, ukukhala kuyeka ngokukhawuleza, njengoko umzuzu osisondezayo upheliswa;
- Umntwana ukhathele ukulala ngento enye. Uninzi lwexesha, umntwana omncinane uchitha ixesha elifanayo-elele phantsi. Akumangalisi ukuba ukuxoka okuqhubekayo kunokubandezeleka, ingakumbi xa kunomdla kakhulu. Ingane inokubiza abazali bayo, ikhala encinane, ibe ikhathalele ingqalelo yabo kwaye ifune ukutshintsha kwindawo yabo. Kule meko, abantwana bathanda kakhulu xa bembethe iipenki, ngoko bazola ngokukhawuleza;
- Iqondo lokushisa elingenakulungiswa kwigumbi linokubangela ukucaphukisa umntwana. Inokutshisa okanye, ngokuthe ngqo, kubanda kakhulu. Ukuba ushushu, uqala ukuphazamisa aze azame ukuphuma kwiingubo zakhe, ngokunyanzela ukuhambisa izandla kunye nemilenze. Ukuba unqabile, ngokokuqala umntwana uyakhala ngokukhawuleza, kwaye emva koko, ngokukhawuleza kunye nexesha elide, ngamanye amaxesha kunye ne-hiccup;
- Ukukhala ngexesha lokondla kubonisa ukuba umntwana unengxaki zezempilo. Mhlawumbi, indlebe yakhe iyabuhlungu kwaye ngexesha lokusondeza, ukugwinya kwandisa intlungu. Ngenxa yokudibanisa kwamanzi, umntwana naye kunzima ukuyidla, kuba impumlo iyavalwa. Ukukhala kwesi sikhulu, umntwana angakhwaza. Umama unako ukusondeza i-aspirator snot kwaye uqhubeke esondla;
- Ukukhala emva kokondla kubonisa ukuba umntwana uphazamiseka yi-colic. Kumele kukhunjulwe ukuba emva kokutya kuyimfuneko ukugcina umntwana kwikholam ukwenzela ukuba iigesi zibaleke;
- Ukuqhawulwa, njengesizathu sokunganeliseki komntwana, kuqhelekileyo kubantwana abasesondlo sokufakelwa. Ngenxa yokucaphukisa ngokweqile i-anus, umntwana unokukhala ngokukratshi nangokuzwakalayo;
- Umntwana ukhatywe yendalo kwaye ufuna ukulala, uqala ukukhawuleza aze aphendule ncinane utshintsho olwenzeka kuyo;
- inkunzi ifuna ukuthetha nabazali bayo. Kule meko, ukukhala kusebenza njengombonakaliso kulolu hlobo lwanxibelelwano.
- kaninzi umntwana unokusabela ngokukhala ngenxa yemozulu yenguqu. Akunabantu abadala kuphela, kodwa nabantwana banomdla. Kufuneka uhlawule ingqalelo ngakumbi kwintsana ukwenzela ukunciphisa ubunzima bakhe.
Yintoni endiyenzayo xa umntwana ekhala ixesha elide?
Ngokuhamba kwexesha, abazali baqala ukuqonda amandla ezwi, isiqu, imeko apho umntwana ekhala khona. Kwaye sele sele beqonda ngokucacileyo oko umntwana akufunayo ngoku ngoku. Ukucalulwa okunjalo kumntwana ukukhala kubazali kwenzeka kuphela ngexesha abaye bafumana amava kwaye bayazi ukuba kwaye umntwana wabo wakhala nini naxa. Kule meko, kulula ngabo ukuba bancede ngokukhawuleza ukuhlangabezana neemfuno zomntwana.
Ngamanye amaxesha kubonakala kubazali ukuba umntwana uyakhala kungekho sizathu. Mhlawumbi oku kubangelwa ubukho benkqubo ye-nerveous elula. Ukuba umntwana unomdla ngokukhawuleza aze ahlasele ngokusingqongileyo, kufuneka ukuba achithe ixesha elininzi ngangokunokwenzeka emoyeni, ukuba angabandakanyi umculo ophezulu okanye iTV phambi kwakhe, ukuba angathethi kumathoni aphakamileyo, ukunciphisa inani leetayipi eziphezulu kakhulu ezinokunyusa ukwanda komntwana . Okokuthi, umsebenzi ophezulu wabazali ukususa izinto ezinomsindo.
Kungakhathaliseki isizathu sokukhala umntwana, kukho imigaqo ethile yokuziphatha ebalulekileyo ukugcina:
- ukuba umntwana uqale ukukhala, kufuneka usabele ngokukhawuleza kuwo: yenyuka, ubambe kwi-handles, pat ekhanda;
- phelisa imbangela yokulila: ukuba umntwana ufuna ukutya, wondla; ukuba kushushu, ke umoya emoyeni; xa uzama ukutsala ingqalelo - mxelela ingxelo okanye ucule ingoma;
- Abazali ngokwabo kufuneka bahlale bezolile, kuba imeko yexhala kwintsapho iya kuqinisa ukuxhatshazwa komntwana.
Ukuba umntwana akakwazi ukuzincama ixesha elide kwaye onke amanyathelo athatyathwe awancedi, unokuqhagamshelana nengcali yezengqondo oza kunceda ukuqhagamshelana nomntwana kwaye unike ithemba kubazali ngamakhono abo. Okanye, xa kunokwenzeka ukuba ukhubaze ngokomzimba, biza ugqirha.
Abazali banokuva ukuba abafuni ngokukhawuleza