Sasiyakholelwa ukuba inkcazelo yothando ayinakwenzeka ukunikela. Enyanisweni, ekuthandeni-oku akunakwenzeka, kuba sikhatywe yimvakalelo emininzi yokuba sinokukwazi ukuyiqonda. Kodwa izazinzulu ezinzulu, ezichaphazelekayo ngokungaqiniseki, zaqala ukudala imibono yothando kumawaka angama-24 edlulileyo. Eyokuqala yayinguPlato.
Uthando lukaPlato
Inkolelo yothando lukaPlato isetyenziswe kwiingxoxo "Umthendeleko". Isiseko sothando ngoPlato-umnqweno wobuhle. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, i-idealist uPlato akaphiki into ebalulekileyo yothando - oku kokubili ukulangazelela ubuhle, kunye nokuqonda kokungaphantsi kwayo.
Wayekholelwa ukuba oku kuya kuchazwa ngumvelaphi wethu. Imiphefumlo yethu yazisa kunye nothando kwihlabathi elihle, elungileyo, kwaye imizwa yasemhlabeni ayikwazi ngokupheleleyo ukuzalisa umdlalo wasezulwini, ufana nokufana kwayo. Ngoko, ngokutsho kwePlato, uthando luyingozi kwaye luhle. Zonke izinto ezilungileyo ezithandwayo, zivela kwimvelaphi engaqhelekanga, zonke izinto ezimbi.
Esi sikhundla sePlato sisoloko sibizwa ngokuba yimfundiso yothando. Ukuze kutyhilwa intsingiselo yekota, kubalulekile ukucaphula "kwiNkundla" yakhe:
"... ukunyuka ngenxa yeyona nto enhle kakhulu ukuya phezulu - ukusuka emzimbeni omnye omuhle ukuya kubini, ukusuka kwizinto ezimbini ukuya kwiindawo zonke, kwaye emva koko uvela emzimbeni amahle ukuya kumasiko amnandi ...".
Wayeqinisekile ukuba xa simthanda ngokwenene, siphume ngaphezu kwezenzo zethu.
Iingcamango zeFrud
Inkolelo kaSigmund Freud malunga nothando ngokuqhelekileyo isekelwe kumava abantwana, okokuba, nangona ikhutshiwe, inokuchaphazela ukuziphatha kwethu ngazo zonke iindlela. Bathi (iinkumbulo zabantwana) - zinzulu kwiingqondo zabantu bonke, ukusuka apho zikhokelela kwaye zikhokelela kwiintlobo ezahlukeneyo zokubonakalisa.
Okokuqala, uFrud wadala, ngokuqhelekileyo, "isichazizwi" sokutshintsha iimfuno zakuqala zobuntwana kunye nabantu abadala. Oko kukuthi, wanikezela inkcazo nenjongo yemisebenzi yethu emininzi yabantu abadala.
UFrud uqala ingcamango yakhe yothando ngophando lweengqondo kunye nokuba ukususela ebuntwaneni sonke sivaliwe kwizinto esizithandayo. Umntwana oneminyaka engama-2 ubudala uthanda ukuthumela iimfuno zakhe xa ethanda, kodwa ke unyanzelekile ukuba azijwayezele ebhodweni. Umntwana kwiminyaka emine uthanda ukukhulaza,
Ngako oko, umntwana uyasetyenziselwa oko ukuba ufuna ukugcina uthando lomama, abazali bakhe, kufuneka anikezele oko akuthandayo. Kwaye inamandla okuba nompembelelo wale miba ephosakeleyo kwizinto ezikhunjulwayo ezinqwenelekayo, abantu abadala abangazikhumbuliyo, kuxhomekeke ekubeni buhle kangakanani ubomi bomntu. Ngoko ke, abanye bakhula baba ngumntu oqolileyo ngokwengqondo, abanye bafuna indlela yokwenza abantwana babo banqwenela bonke ubomi babo.