Ookhokho bethu bebazi ukuba iimfihlelo zothando zitsho. Ukususela kwixesha elidlulileyo, umzabalazo wokulungileyo nokubi uqhutywa kwihlabathi. Omnye wasebenzisa kunye nokusebenzisa umlingo ngeenjongo ezilungileyo, kunye nomntu onokuziphindezela ngaboni, njl. Ngamanye amaxesha, ngamaxhoba ezo zinto ezithandwayo, nangomnye umntu kunye nomsebenzi wobomi bonke, abantu abaqhelekileyo baba ngabantu abaqhelekileyo.
Abesifazane baye bahlala bekhwankqisa indoda ababeyithandayo, abanye bayayenza ngoku, nangona kunjalo ingaqhelekanga. Ukuze uvuselele iimvakalelo zomntu kumntu, engaqondi ukuba akunakunyanzela umntu ukuba amthande, abafazi, kwiimeko ezininzi bangayiqondi ngokupheleleyo ukubaluleka kwesi sinyathelo, basebenzise izintelezi zemilingo.
Kodwa, njengoko kuyaziwa, uthando olunjalo oluzithandela-oluyinyanzeliso oluvela kwimpumelelo ye-charmed aluphelelanga ngempumelelo. Makhe sizame ukuqonda ukuba yintoni esi sizathu sokutshatyalaliswa kwemilingo kunye nokuba kuyimfuneko ukuthatha ukwenzela ukuba uqonde indlela yokususa isipeliso sothando.
Iimpawu zothando zitsho
Umonakalo onamandla ungabonwa yizimpawu ezilandelayo:
- Indoda inomdla, ukuba kaninzi ukuphikisana kungekho sizathu. Kwaye ngexesha elifanayo, emva kwengxoxo eqhubekayo kwiitoni eziphakamileyo, umonakalo uqala ukuqonda intsapho yakhe njengeentshaba ezimbi kakhulu, abachasayo abanomdla wokufumana uvuyo lwakhe.
- Iimpawu zesipeliso sothando nazo zibonakaliswa kwisifiso esinqwenelekayo sexhoba lokuthatha umhlalaphantsi, ukuziphatha okungavumelekanga. Umntu uyazihlambalazela iimfuno zakhe, amaphupha, abantu abazungezile ngenxa yokuzalisekisa iinjongo zobungqingili zowesifazane oqwengayo.
- Ukungabi nokuzithiba kwiingcamango. Umntu uboleka iimvakalelo, iimfuno kunye neemvakalelo ekulawuleni komnye umntu.
- Umnqweno ongenakulinganisela ukuhlala usondele kumxholo wokutshisa.
- Ukulahlekelwa kwexhoba loqhinga lokuzixabisa. Ukuguqulwa kwelinye ikhoboka lokuqhawula.
- Ixhoba linokukhathala, ukunciphisa amandla okusebenza, ubuthathaka obusasazeka kuwo wonke umzimba.
- Umnqweno wokuhlala ulwalamano olusondeleyo kuphela kwowesifazane owamtshitshisa.
Iimiphumo zothando zihlala zibeka ingozi. Emva koko, oku kungokwendlela ethile i-zombification yomntu, ukutshatyalaliswa kobuntu bakhe, ukuthembeka. Umntu otyunyiweyo, umzekelo, indoda yakho, njengoko kunjalo, imbopha ngemicu engabonakaliyo yengqondo kuye. Ukuchaphazela, ngoko, kwi-bio-field kunye namandla akhe.
Indlela yokukrazula ukupaka ngothando?
Ukuba isipelingi senziwa ngomlingo omhlophe, ngoko unokususwa ngoncedo lwemithandazo. Ukuze ulahle ukuxhomekeka okunjalo komnye umntu, kuyimfuneko ukuxhoma, ngokukodwa okanye ngokupheleleyo, ubudlelwane bamandla kunye nomntu onqabileyo. Kungcono ukunxibelelana nomntu onolwazi owenza umlingo omhlophe. Wena ngokwenene, ukuba awuyiyo i-stomatologist, ungakhweleli uqobo ubeke uphawu, xa inyolo ibuhlungu. Akudingeki ukuba uthembele iifoto ze-lapwing, ezibekwa kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo. Emva koko, nasiphi na isithethe sinokuthi buthathaka insima yakho yamandla, enokuphazamiseka ngaphandle. Ngenxa yoko, ngokuthanda imicimbi yemilingo, kufuneka uqhagamshelane neengcali. Kumele enze i-lapel kwi-rival, ukusuka kumntu onxibelelwano olunamandla.
Ngenxa yesiko, akuyi kuba yinto enqwenelekayo ukuthatha isithombe somfazi oqhawulayo kunye nesithombe sexhoba lakho lendoda. Yaye kuxhomekeke kukuphi i-lapel ekhethiweyo, unokufuna ezinye izinto ezithile (umzekelo, isisi, iingubo, njl.).
Ukuba awuyena umsekeli wanobuphi umlingo, kodwa uhambelana nemibono yonqulo, ngoko kuya kuba yinto engafanelekanga ukuya kumfundisi. Buza umbono wakhe ngale nto.
Ngoko, naluphi na icebo lugqithiso lobundlobongela obunobundlobongela kwaye oku kuyingozi, kokubili kwixhoba lentengiso, kunye namalungu entsapho yakhe. Kufuneka kukhunjulwe ukuba ukususwa kwintengiso yothando kufuneka kwenziwe ngokukhawuleza emva kokubonakaliswa kwempawu zemilingo.