Ngoku lixesha lokuziqhelanisa nabahlobo bakhe, kodwa indlela yokuziphatha ngayo, ngokokuba intlanganiso yokuqala kunye nolunye unxibelelwano luletha kuphela imizwa emihle. Mhlawumbi ufanele udlale, ngokuba ngale ndlela kukho ithuba lokukholisa bonke abafana, okanye kufuneka ugcine umgama?
Inxalenye ebalulekileyo yobomi
Kufuneka uqonde ukuba kubafana abaninzi, abahlobo babaluleke ngakumbi kunentombazana, ingakumbi kuba idibana nexesha elide. Kuye, udibaniswe kakhulu kwaye kulula ukukusho kuwe kunokuba umhlobo oye waba ngumhlobo naye ukususela ebuntwaneni. Ngoko ukuba uyathanda umfana, zama ukukhetha ukuziphatha okufanelekileyo kwaye ufumane ulwimi olufanayo nabahlobo bakhe, njengoko uluvo lwabo luya kuthatha ininzi.
Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba nithandane nabangani bakho?
Le meko ingenangqiqo kwaye isiphumo sokudlala ngothando sinokuhluka. Ukuba awuyikuyidlula, ukululalana ngothando kubangela ukuba umthandi abe nomona ofanelekileyo, oko kukuthi, uya kubona ukuba uyabathanda abahlobo bakhe, oko kuthetha ukuba wenze ukhetho olufanelekileyo. Ngokwenene, ngokugqithiseleyo ukudlala ngothando ngeke kuqondwe, ngoko ungathathi kwaye ulungele ukuthandana nomfana wakho. Kodwa ngakolunye uhlangothi, lo msebenzi ungabangela ukusabela okuhlukileyo ngokupheleleyo. Othandekayo uya kucinga ukuba ukuba unokwenyuka nabangane bakhe emehlweni akhe, ngoko wenzani ngexesha lokungabikho kwakhe kwaye ingaba uphela ngokudlala ngothando? Ngoko ke, kukulungele ukubeka bucala i-coquetry yakho eceleni kwaye uzama ukwakha unxibelelwano nabahlobo bakho ngaphandle kokudlala ngothando. Abahlobo bomfana bafanele bahloniphe kwaye bakuxabise, kwaye bangabathandani neendlebe.
Ufanele uziphathe njani?
Kubalulekile ukukhetha isicwangciso sokuziphatha esifanelekileyo, ukuze intanda yakho inqabiseke kuwe kwaye iqinisekiswe ngokuchaneka kwesigqibo sakhe.
- Gcina umgama . Amantombazana amaninzi ukusuka kwiminithi yokuqala yoqhelwano azama ukwenza yonke into kwinkampani yomfana ukuba abe "yakhe ebhodini." Ukusuka ngaphandle kuya kubonakala kuyinqaba kwaye kuyamangalisa, kwaye uza kufumana iziphumo ezichasene ngokupheleleyo.
- Musa ukuphikisana nabani na . Amantombazana amaninzi ngesizathu esithile anokuqiniseka ukuba nayiphi na ingxabano apho baya kuthatha inxaxheba kubahlobo bakhe, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuthatha icala. Kodwa kungcono ukuba ungavavanyi isithuba kwaye ungenzi umgca kunye nabani na, kuba umsebenzi wakho kukuba ngabahlobo, kwaye ungaxabani.
- Yiba nguwe . Nayiphi na umdlalo kuluntu uhlala uphawula kwaye kungekudala okanye kamva uya kukhankanywa ukuba uyinyumba. Ngoko ke, hlala ngokwakho, kuphela ngale ndlela, unokunyaniseka uze ubonise zonke iinkalo zakho ezintle. Ukuba awuyithandi le nkampani, kungcono ukushiya ngokuzithobayo nangokuzithobayo, kwaye ungaxeleli wonk 'ubani ukuba bangubani kwaye ucinga ntoni ngabo. Akuyimfuneko ukunxibelelana nabahlobo bakhe xa bengakuthandi nonke, kodwa isizathu kufuneka sibe nenjongo.
- Ungabi nomona ngabahlobo bakhe . Ukuba uhamba ukuhamba kwinkampani kunye nabahlobo bakhe, gcina ukhumbula ukuba akabophekanga ukuba achithe nawe ngaso sonke ixesha. Ewe, uya kuthatha ingqalelo ukuba uyayilandela, kodwa akadingeki ukuba abe "kwi-leash" nokuba. Ngako oko, umona wakho uya kulungelekanga kwaye uninzi kakhulu, ukhokelela kwisityholo, kwaye akusikho ixesha lokuzonwabisa.
- Okokuqala ngqondweni . Khumbula, awuyi kuba nelithuba lesibini lokuzibonakalisa, ngoko ungalokothi ubonise "fi" yakho kakhulu. Umzekelo, awuyithandi indawo oya kuyo okanye umculo owamkelwa ngabahlobo bakhe. Uya kuba sembonakalweni nje kwemizuzu embalwa, ke yonke into iya kuthethwa ngayo kwiimeko eziqhelekileyo, kwaye unokuthi ungene kuyo, okanye ungenayo.
Abahlobo bomntu okhethiweyo emva kwentlanganiso kufuneka baqonde ukuba awuyi kuphulaphula inkampani yabo nayiphi na indlela kwaye ungayonakalisi ukunxibelelana . Kufuneka ube yinto yokuhlobisa le "hangout". Ewe, okokuqala oko akusebenzi, kodwa inyathelo lokuqala lokuhlangabezana nomgomo lwenziwa.