Abasetyhini namadoda bahluke kakhulu. Ezi ntlukwano zingabonwa nje kuphela kubalingiswa, kodwa nakwiindlela zokuziphatha zabathandi. Ngoko, umfana ngokukhawuleza unokuqikelela, ukuba uziva uzive. Kodwa amantombazana kulo mbandela kunzima kunzima, kuba akunqabile ukuba indoda ibonise iimpawu zothando lwakhe. Abameli bezesondo eziqinileyo baya kuzama ukugcina amandla omlinganiso , ukuqina nokuqina kwiimeko.
Uyazi njani ukuba umntu otshatileyo uyakuthanda?
Ukuziphatha komntu othandanayo onomfazi kufana nemikhwa yomntu okhululekileyo. Ukuze uqiniseke ukuba ubukho okanye ukungabikho kwemvakalelo yakhe, kufuneka uqaphele oku kulandelayo: indlela yokunxibelelana, ukubonakala kwakhe, ixesha elingakanani ezama ukunika, nokuba wenza izipho ngaphandle kwesizathu.
Misela ukuba uthanda umntu otshatileyo kulula, kuba kwiimeko ezininzi, uhlalutyo olwaneleyo loqhagamshelwano. Imiqondiso elandelayo iya kubonisa ukuba khona kwemizwa:
- Indoda iphulaphula ngenyameko kuwo onke amazwi omlingane wakhe. Uzama ukumqonda.
- Jonga ngokukhawuleza kwezihloko zengxoxo. Ukuba unxibelelwano luphelelweyo kuphela kwimihla ngemihla, akukho mvakalelo . Indoda ethandwayo iya kuthetha malunga nosapho, abahlobo kunye nezihlobo. Ngona zifihlakele kakhulu.
- Indoda ayivalelanga nje iingxaki, kodwa izama ukuyixazulula.
Ukuqonda ukuba umntu otshatileyo uyakuthanda bobabini ngesimo sakhe sengqondo ngokubhekiselele kumfazi kunye nokubonakala. Indoda ethandwayo ayisoze avumele ukuba avele ebusweni bakhe bethando ngendlela engathandekiyo. Ngomhla, ufuna ukubeka izinto ezintsha okanye iimpahla zakhe ezingcono. Ukungafani kulo mzekelo kunokuba ngabantu abanamahloni abangalandeli ukubonakala kwabo.
Indoda esitshatileyo iziphatha njani?
- Uzama ukunikela ixesha elininzi ngangokunokwenzeka kwintanda yakhe, nokuba yingozi kwintsapho. Ngexesha elifanayo, unokubingelela ukubuka ibhola okanye ukuhamba ngokuloba okanye ukuloba.
- Indoda inikeza izipho, yenza into emangalisa ngaphandle kwesizathu, izama ukubonelela ngempawu.
- Uyayinyamekela, esaba ukukhubekisa ngegama elibi.
- Xa iintlanganiso zizama ukuchukumisa, zibiza umnxeba.
- Indoda esitshatileyo ithi uyayithanda, ngoxa imbono yakhe inyanisekileyo, iyinyameko kwaye inomusa.