Xa uneminyaka engama-6 ukuya kwimi-7 umntwana uqala ixesha elitsha nelinzima ekufundeni kwakhe ubomi. Ewe, ekuqaleni abantwana bajonge phambili kwixesha apho beqala ukuwela umda wesikolo. Nangona kunjalo, njengoko abazali baqaphela emva koko, umntwana unokufumana ubunzima bobabini kunye nemisebenzi yoqeqesho kunye nobudlelwane eklasini. Kwaye kunamandla oomama nootata ukuncedisa umntwana wakho othandekayo ukuba isikolo asiyiyo isohlwayo. Yingakho siza kukuxelela oko kuthatha ukuba ukwazi abazali bokuqala ukulungiselela umntwana wakho ubunzima obunxulumene nesikolo.
Iingcebiso kubazali bezabelo zokuqala zangaphambili
Ukunika umntwana kwiklasi yokuqala, abazali kufuneka baqonde ukuba abantwana banzima kakhulu. Abalimi bokuqala bajamelana nokukhathazeka okukhulu kwengqondo. Emva kwayo yonke into, ubomi babo bunokutshintshwa kweenguqu ezinkulu: utitshala ubonakala owenza iimfuno ezithile, ukuhlanganiswa kunye kunye nomsebenzi omtsha ongekho rhoqo. Akumangalisi ukuba i-crumb iyakhathala ngokukhawuleza. Ukongeza, ekhaya, umntwana kufuneka enze umsebenzi wesikolo. Yaye ukuba ngaba abazali bafuna ukususela kwimpembelelo yomntwana, ukufundwa kubonwa njengomsebenzi onzima. Ukuze ugweme oku kwaye uncede umntwana, qwalasela ingcebiso yesazi sengqondo kubazali be-graders yokuqala:
- Akufanelekanga kuphela abantwana ukuba balungele isikolo, kodwa abazali kufuneka balungiselele ukuba umntwana uya esikolweni. Emva kokuba unqume ukuthumela umntwana wakho esikolweni, ungayeki kwaye ungathandabuzeki.
- Yenza umgcini-mbini ishedyuli ecacileyo yosuku kwaye ulandele. Emva kwesikolo, kunika umntwana iiyure ezimbalwa kwimidlalo yakhe, ngokukhethekileyo emoyeni omtsha. Emva koko wenze umsebenzi wesikolo, ungayihlehlisi ngokuhlwa, xa ukugxininiswa kunye nokuqonda kwento entsha kunciphisa. Ixesha elifanelekileyo leeklasi liyi-16-17 iiyure.
- Nika umntwana ukuba abonise ukuzimela kwakhe, kodwa soloko usondele. Ezi zincomo kubazali be-graders yokuqala ziza kuthetha ukuba xa wenza umsebenzi wesikolo, awukwazi ukwenza izifundo kumntwana okanye ukuma naye, njengoko besithi, ngaphezu komphefumlo wakho. Mvumele ukuba asombulule iingxaki ngokwakhe. Kodwa xa uphendulela kuwe uncedo, qi niseka ukuba uncedise i-crumb. Yiba nomonde kwaye uzinze!
Iingcebiso kubazali ngokulungelelaniswa kwabadlali bokuqala
Ukuze anqobe ixesha lokuzilungelelanisa, abazali kufuneka benze indawo efanelekileyo ekhaya. Ukwenza oku:
- Thumela umntwana esikolweni kwaye udibana nomoya omhle. Ngentsasa, qiniseka ukondla umntwana ngesidlo sasekuseni uze unqwenele ngosuku olulungileyo. Musa ukufunda i-notation nhlobo. Kwaye xa umbuyisi wokuqala ebuyela, musa ukubuza okokuqala malunga nokuhlola nokuziphatha. Makhe aphumle aze aphumle.
- Musa ukufuna kakhulu kumntwana. Umgcini wakho wokuqala angasenakufumana into ethile ngokukhawuleza. Ungalindelanga iziphumo ezivela kuye, njengengxaki yomntwana. Musa ukumemeza, ungamgxululi ngenxa yeempazamo kunye nokungaphumeleli. Kumele asebenzise inxaxheba yakhe entsha njengomfundi. Kamva uya kuyifumana.
- Nika njalo unika inkxaso yakho. Qinisekisa ukuba udumise umgcini-mhlaba wokuqala kwimpumelelo. Mamela amabali akhe ngezifundo, ubudlelwane kunye nabafundi ofunda nabo. Uncedo lokuqokelela iphothifoliyo, lungisa iifomati zesikolo.
- Qinisekisa ukuba umntwana akanalo i-overloads - enye yeengcebiso ezibalulekileyo kubazali be-graders yokuqala. Ukugqithisa okusisigxina kuya kubangela iingxaki zempilo kunye nokuhlaselwa esikolweni. Kungcono ukulinda ngelixa iindidi okanye amacandelo. Qiniseka ukuba umphumle umntwana emva ko "suku lomsebenzi", kodwa kungekho phambi kwekhompyutheni okanye kumabonwakude, kodwa ngeemidlalo okanye kwisitalato. Ukuba umntwana ufuna ukulala, mnike ithuba.
- Ukuba awuhambisani nabantwana ofunda nabo, cwangcisa iqela labantwana ekhaya. Ukumema lonke iklasi kummandla wabo wendawo, umntwana uya kuziva ekhululekile kwaye uya kuba nako ukuzibonakalisa ngokuphangaleleyo.
- "Mfundisi ulungile!" Ukuba umntwana unesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo kumfundisi wakhe, abazali kufuneka babambe ingxoxo phambi kwamaqela amathathu (umzali, umfundi kunye notitshala) kwaye bafumene ubuhlobo kwifomu echanekileyo. Emva koko, umntwana uya kufuneka asebenze nalo mntu iminyaka emithathu!
Siyathemba ukuba iingcebiso ezingenhla kubazali be-graders yokuqala ziya kunceda unqobe uxinzelelo lomntwana, kwaye uya kuvuya ukuya esikolweni sakhe.