Iingxowa zesikolo sele ziphelile ukuba ziyimfuneko elula-le ndlela yokuzibonakalisa . Kwizikolo ezininzi, uhlobo oluqinileyo lweengubo lugxininisa kakhulu - umgca omhlophe kunye nomnyama omnyama, okanye into efana nohlobo, kwaye lo bunzima bulahla abantu abatsha ithuba lokuba baziveze ngeengubo. Oku kuyimfuneko kubantwana abaselula, njengoko befuna kuphela, bezama imifanekiso, bathetha. Ngako oko, isikhwama sibe yinto engabonakalisa ngayo, ubanike umfanekiso wesimo sokuqala, kuba abantwana abaninzi abaselula banokulahlekelwa yintsimi, ukulahlekelwa ubuso bakho, phakathi kwamawaka afanayo.
Ngoko, makhe sibone ukuba yeyiphi na iifolo zesikolo ezifashiniweyo.
Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukuthetha ukuba abatsha bakhetha iikhwama zesikolo, bezama ukufumana isikhwama esingazibonakalisa ubuncinane kwihlabathi labo elingaphakathi. Oko kukuthi, abaninzi abaselula abasayi kubaphulaphula iimeko zokukhwela iifowuni zeeklasi, kwaye ukhethe oko bakuthandayo. Kodwa ke akuyi kuba yinto engafanelekiyo ukuqonda ukuba ziphi iibhegi zamantombazana amantombazana amantombazana akhethayo kwaye kutheni.
Inkqutyana, umlinganisi kunye nefashoni
Ngoko, kuninzi kuxhomekeka, ngokuqinisekileyo, kwimeko yeselula. Ukususela ngoku kukho amaninzi amaninzi, ngoko ke ukuba umntwana wakho ungowomnye wabo, uya kuthatha isikhwama ngokwemiqathango yakhe. Ngokomzekelo, isikhwama esikolweni esinefestile ye- vanilla yeshumi iya kuba yibhegi ephethe umfanekiso weflegi yaseBrithani, kwaye intombazana yaseGoth ngokuqinisekileyo iya kukhetha isikhwama esimnyama kunye neengqayi okanye iimpawu zegama elidumileyo. Okokuthi, ukuba yeyiphi na yamacandelo aphembelela isitala seengubo, ukuziphatha, njl, i-subculture, njengokuba kunjalo, imilo yomlinganiso kunye nokukhetha.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, umfana osemncinci oya kuba yinto engathandanga ngokupheleleyo umbala ukuba ukhetho lwakhe lukhethwa, le nkathi ayifanelekanga. Ngokomgaqo, kunokukholisa, kuba ebusheni, wonke umntu uzimisele ukuvukela into evumelekileyo kwaye ithandwa ngumntu wonke. Ngoko, ebusheni, xa bekhetha isikhwama esikolweni, iintombazana azifaneki zikhokelwa ziimfashini.
Iindlela eziqhelekileyo kunye neengcebiso
Kodwa kunokwenzeka ukulandelelana nokuthambekela ngokubanzi okuhlanganisa onke amantombazana asetsheni. Inkqubo yombala, ngokuqinisekileyo, ininzi ehlukeneyo kwaye akunakwenzeka ukuvelisa umbala ogqithiseleyo. Kodwa kunokutsho ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba amantombazana amantombazana asetsheni anqwenela izikhwabanini phezu kwegxalaba, kunokuba iifokethi zihamba ngokufutshane. Olu khetho lunokucaciswa ngokulungelelanisa. Ngokubanzi, ngeendlela, ngokuqhelekileyo ukhetho lwabafana abasemagqatsheni lunokucaciswa ngokulula, kuba kudala loo nto ayithethi nje indlela iimpahla eziphathekayo (okanye izinto eziphathekayo) zikhangeleka, kodwa nokuba zikhululekile kangakanani ukugqoka.
Kwakhona unako ukunika iingcebiso kubazali xa uthengela iikhwama zeentombazana eziselula.
Umgaqo obaluleke kakhulu kukuphulaphula iminqweno yomntwana wakho kwaye ungayifaki into ayithandayo. Kodwa kuyimfuneko ukuthumela umntwana kwindlela efanelekileyo, oko kukuthi, ukuba intombazana ikhetha isikhwama esincinci esincinci ukuba iincwadi zezifundo zingenayo, kufuneka ngokuqinisekileyo ithunyelwe kwenye inketho. I-Plus - kufuneka uhlawule ingqalelo nje kuphela kwembonakalo yesikhwama, kodwa nakwizinga eliphezulu.
Ekugqibeleni, kunokuthiwa akukho zikhwama zesikolo zentsha ezenzayo. Kunoko, kunjalo, kunjalo, kodwa amantombazana anokukhetha oko bakufunayo. Kodwa, kwirekhodi ungongeza ukuba ngonyaka wesikolo ka-2013-2014, iifashthi zibhekwa njengezinto ezilula zokubheja, kunye nebala elibomvu.
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