Ekubeni, kukho iimeko ezinokutshintsha ngokubanzi indlela yentsapho eqhelekileyo. Kwenzeka ukuba abazali bahambe kwesinye isixeko okanye ilizwe ukuze benze umsebenzi, kwaye banquma ukushiya umntwana phantsi kolawulo. Ngamanye amaxesha ubaba nomama abakwazi ukufundisa nokuxhasa umntwana ngenxa yezifo zengqondo okanye zomzimba, kunye nokufa. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, ugogo ugama ufuna ukunyamekela abazukulwana bakhe. Siza kukuxelela ukuba ugogo wakho unokuba ngumgcini kunye nawaphi amaxwebhu ayadingeka kule nto.
Ingaba ugogo angababhalisa?
Abagcini bomntwana oneminyaka engaphantsi kwe-14 ubudala bangaba ngabantu abadala kunye nabakwaziyo abangafunyanwa ngamalungelo omzali (ngokweSigabeni 146 seNkcazo yoLuntu yaseRashiya Federation). Ngaloo ndlela, ugogo unelungelo lokuba ngumgcini womntwana, nangona kunjalo, kukho izinto ezininzi eziza kuthathwa ingqalelo: umnqweno womntwana, isimo sengqondo sokugcinwa kwabazali bakhe, ukubonakaliswa komgcini wexesha elizayo kunye nomgangatho wempilo yakhe.
Ukubhaliswa kokugcinwa komntwana ngugogo
Ukubhalisa ukugcinwa kolawulo, kufuneka uqhagamshelane negunya lokugcinwa kwendawo kwaye ubhale isicelo sokuvumela ukugcinwa komntwana othile. Ngokuqhelekileyo, umgcini unokugcina okanye utyeshe (okanye ngokuzithandela). Inketho yokugqibela, oko kukuthi, ukugcinwa kwesikhashana komntwana ngu-ugogo, kwenziwa ngokuzithandela kunye nemvume yabazali bobabini. Ngokomzekelo, kuyimfuneko ukuba uhambo olude. Kule meko, uyise nonina kufuneka baqhagamshelane negunya lokugcina kwaye babhale isicelo sokugcinwa komntwana kumntu othile, oko kukuthi, ugogo ngethuba elithile.
Ukongeza, xa ubhalisa ukugcinwa kwengane kwesikhashana kunye nogogo, maxwebhu alandelayo mazingeniswe:
- ikopi yepasipoti yomfaki sicelo;
- yakhe yembali;
- isitifiketi sezempilo sempilo;
- isatifikethi somvuzo;
- isatifiketi esivela kwiNgqongqoshe yeMicimbi yangaphakathi malunga nerekhodi yolwaphulo-mthetho;
- Isiqinisekiso sokuqinisekisa ilungelo lomenzi wesicelo kwizindlu.
Ukongezelela, umzimba wokugcinwa uya kuhlolisisa iimeko eziphilayo, uhlolisise amaxwebhu angenisiwe, ngesiseko apho isiphelo siya kukhutshwa khona.
Ukugcinwa ngokupheleleyo komntwana ngu-ugogo kunokwenzeka ukuba umntwana ushiywa ngaphandle kokunakekelwa kwabazali, umzekelo, ukufa okanye ukuphepha kwabo ekuzalisekeni izibophelelo zabazali. Xa kungenakwenzeka, ugogo kufuneka afake isicelo enkundleni ngamabango kwaye aqinisekise ngokucacileyo ukungabikho koxanduva lwabazali ukuba umntwana aphume okanye anqande amalungelo abo omzali. Kwakhona, umfaki sicelo makangenise amaphepha afakwe apha ngasentla. Amabhunga okugcina aya kuhlola iindawo zokuhlala kunye neendawo zokuhlala, ingeniso kunye nemeko yempilo ihlolwe. Ngokwalolu datha, isigwebo sokugcinwa kukagogo phezu komntwana siya kufakwa enkundleni.