Inendima yomama ebomini bomntwana kunzima kakhulu ukugqithisa. Emva kwakho konke, unina ngumntu ongokoqobo, umfazi othe wabeletha waza wakhulela, kwaye waba ngumhlobo olungcono kakhulu wobomi. Umama uhlala apho, unokuthembela kuye kumzuzu onzima, akalokothi athengise. Kodwa ukuqonda kwale nto kuza, njengommiselo, sele sele ukhulile, xa umntu sele esenabantwana bakhe.
Kanti ke, nawuphi na umfazi okhulelwe nje uyazi indlela yokuba ngumama wakhe ongcono kwihlabathi, kunye noko umama akwenzele ukwenzela ukufumana uthando kunye nentlonipho yakhe.
Yintoni okumelwe ibe ngumama omuhle?
Ukwazi indlela yokuba ngumama omhle, uza ngokwalo. Siziva nje indlela yokuziphatha ngayo nosana, into afuna ukuyiva kuthi ngenye ixesha. Kodwa kunjalo, nayiphi na ibhinqa ibanjwe ngokungathandabuzekiyo, ngokukodwa kwimeko enzulu kwaye ebalulekileyo njengokukhuliswa kwabantwana.
Yingakho kubalulekile ukuzimisela ngokwakho imigaqo ethile ebalulekileyo kufuneka uhlale unamathela kuyo, ukuze ukwazi ukufeza indima yakho njengomama kwintsapho ngaphandle kokucinga nokudumala.
- Ukunyamekela umntwana kufuneka aqale ngaphambi kokuba azalwe. Thetha naye, funda ngokuvakalayo, kucula iingoma kwaye, ngokubaluleke kakhulu, hlakulela uthando lwangaphakathi kuye, oluncinane nolunqwenelekayo!
- Akufanele umthande kuphela, kodwa uhloniphe umntwana wakho njengomntu. Oku kunzima kwabanye oomama, kodwa kunyanzelekile. Abantwana baziziva kakuhle kakuhle ukuba baphathwa njani, kwaye ukunakekelwa ngokugqithiseleyo ngexesha liqala ukulilinganisela. Kunoko, kunika umntwana wakho inkululeko ethile ukuze afunde ukuba ngumdala.
- Ukukhusela umntwana ngokuchanekileyo, ukumfundisa indlela yokwenza ngayo, kwaye kungenjalo, ngezinye iinkhathi sizama ukugweba. Mhlawulise umntwana ngokuchanekileyo, uqine, kodwa ulungele ngexesha elifanayo. Konke ungacingi, ukuba intsana ihlazekile okanye, ngaphezu kwayo, ingathandwa. Chaza ukuba wenza into embi, kodwa awuzange uyeke ukumthanda. Kwakhona uyazi indlela yokucela umntwana ukuba axolelwe xa kuyimfuneko.
- Ngaphandle kokungaqiniseki! Zama ukuhlala ulungelelanise iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokuphuhlisa iziganeko (ezi zichaphazela impilo kunye nophuhliso
bantwana). Ukuba uyayazi into enokuthi yenzeke kwixesha elizayo, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuba nokholo, kwaye oku kubaluleke kakhulu. - Xoxa nomntwana wakho rhoqo ngangokunokwenzeka. Nangona ulayishiwe ngomsebenzi, zama ukufumana ixesha lokunxibelelana, okuyimfuneko kumntwana ngamnye! Musa ukugxotha imibuzo ye-pokachki yakho encinci, musa ukuyihoxisa iingxoxo zakhe nezicelo. Uqhagamshelwano olupheleleyo luyintloko kubo bonke ubuhlobo obuhle.
Naliphi na umfazi onokujamelana nendima yomama ekukhulisweni kwabantwana. Emva koko, ukuba ngumama omhle, njengommiselo, akunzima. Uthando, inhlonipho nokukhathalela-kwaye yonke into iya kuvela!