Abanye abesetyhini, emva kokufunda ngokungcatsha komyeni wakhe, balungele okungakumbi kunokuphindisela kuye baze bamenze ahlupheke. Kukho iindlela ezininzi ezahlukeneyo, umzekelo, ukwenza okufanayo, hamba uphile ngokuzonwabisa, kodwa abaninzi abafazi banquma ukubuyela kumlingo. Ungasebenzisa isiluleko esinamandla sokuhlwaya umyeni wakho ngenxa yokunyelisa. Izithethe zamandulo ziza kunceda ukuqonda oko bekucetywayo, kodwa abanalo uphawu olungonakalisayo. Umrhwebi uya kuziva unetyala, okungeke kumvumele ukuba aphile ngokuthula, ade afanele ukuxolelwa.
Khumbula ukuba umlingo uyisigramente, oku kuthetha ukuba akukho mntu uhlobo olungumhlobo omele ukuba uyazi ukuba wenza isithethe. Sebenzisa i-conspiracy kuphela xa uthembele ngokupheleleyo ukuba uyayidinga.
Indlela yokujezisa umntu ngokukhanyela umlingo - uceba isithunzi
Abantu abanamakhono bayalumkisa ukuba ukubamba izinto ezinjalo kungakhuselekanga, kuba umntu okhubekileyo unokucinga nokuthanda izinto ezimbi ebubini kwaye unqwenela izinto ezinzulu ezinokugqibeleni zibe yisiqalekiso esibulalayo. Ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukuziphindiselela, kufuneka uhlalise phantsi, ulinganise zonke iinkqubo kunye neengxaki, uze wenze isigqibo.
Kwimeko apho umnqweno wokuhlwaya umyeni wakhe awuhambanga, ngoko unokusebenzisa isithethe ngesithombe. Kubalulekile ukulungiselela isicatshulwa esisandul 'ukutsha, kuba sinamandla amaninzi. Kubalulekile ukuba ifoto isondele. Yiya ecaweni, athenge ikhandlela ezili-13 apho uze uye ngqo ekhaya. Kufuneka ukuba uqale umkhosi ngqo phakathi kobusuku. Zivale kwigumbi ukuze kungabikho mntu ophazamisayo, kwaye ukhanyise ikhandlela. Emva kwabo, faka isithombe somyeni ngomfanekiso phezulu. Qala ukucinga ngokungcatsha, kodwa nje ungayisebenzisi, kuba umsebenzi ukuyenza loo mntu ayenze into awayenzayo. Emva koko, kufuneka uphinda uphinde ulandelele umyeni wakho ukuba uhlasele umyeni wakho, kuba nguye lowo wesiseko, kodwa uvakale ngathi:
"Andifungi kuwe kwaye awuyi kutshabalalisa, uya kubetha - ndiza kuxolela am. Ndiyathumela ukulangazelela, njengombhobho okhokelayo kwithempelini lam. Uya kulila, ubandezeleke intlungu, uya kuzikhumbula rhoqo. Yonke intlungu ethunyelwe kum, makabuyele kuwe kwithuba elithile. Andifuni ukubandezeleka ngenxa yecala, njengoko ndiya kulila, andiyi kulila buhlungu. Amen! Amen! Amen! "
Amagama angabhalwa kwiphepha lephepha ukuze angalibali nto kwaye angazidibanisi. Emva koko, vala ikhandlela, kwaye ugobe i-cinder esele kwiphepha ngecebo kwaye uliphonse kwi-trash isitalato. Umfanekiso kufuneka uqotywe zibe ziincinci kwaye zihlakazwe emoyeni. Ukuba ungazi ukuba ungayilumkisa njani indoda yendoda yomlindi, sebenzisa lo mlingo, isithethe siza kubangela ukuba umoni ovelele zonke iintlungu azibangele yona.
Indlela yokujezisa umntu ngenxa yokunyaniseka kuyisithethe esisebenzayo
Ukuze isalathisi sisebenze, kubalulekile ukuqokelela amandla ambi, avela ngenxa yokuhlambalaza. Ukwenza oku, kuyimfuneko ukucinga ngokucokisekileyo malunga neemeko, ucinga ngendlela ukunyeliseka kwenzeka ngayo, kutheni wenza njalo, njl njl. Ingxaki kukuba ukuhlambalaza kufinyelela kwi-apogee yayo. Ukucinga ngokuphindiselela, kufuneka uqwalasele injongo onokuyilandela ekugqibeleni. Umzekelo, ukuba kukho umnqweno wokufakela umtshato , kufuneka ucinge ukuba oku kuphelile kwaye ubudlelwane buyabhujiswa. Kwimeko apho intsapho inenjongo yokutshabalalisa, ngoko amandla kufuneka aqondiswe ngomnqweno wokufundisa umfazi isifundo, ukuze angaphinda enze into enjalo.
Ukuhlwaya umntu owayengumyeni okanye wangoku nje ukuba ahlasele unokwenza ngengqondo, kuba ngexesha lomntu onomsindo umntu onamandla akhethekileyo. Khawucinge ngeentloko zakho, indlela indoda ehluphekayo ngayo ngenxa yento ayenzile, indlela ayeza ngayo ukuxolisa, njalonjalo. Emva koko, ufanele ufunde le njongo:
Phinda la magama uze uve utyinekile. Umoya ololo hlobo uza kuthetha ukuba unike amandla onke ngendlela efanelekileyo. Imiphumo yokuqala kufuneka ibonakale phakathi kweveki, ngaphandle koko iphinda iphinde ibuyele.
Ekugqibeleni, ndingathanda ukuthetha ukuba izifo zengqondo zincoma ukufunda ukuxolela, kuba intukuthelo inonakalisa umntu ngaphakathi.