Ngaphambili, wawuziqhenya ngemeko yakho yomtshato, kwaye ngoku kwipasipoti yakho kuya kubakho itywina malunga nomtshato? Le asikho isizathu sokuwela phantsi kwengcinezelo! Emva komtshato, ubomi buqala nje. Kodwa, ngelishwa, akubona wonke umntu uyaqonda le nyaniso. Umfazi, ukuqhawula umtshato kumyeni wakhe yintlekele apho ithemba, amaphupha, ikusasa kunye nokholo kubulungisa. Nangona kunjalo, kukho nethuba lokulungisa isimo sakho sengqondo ebomini, okanye kunoko-ukujonga ngayo namanye amehlo. Yiyo esiya kuzama ukuyenza.
Ubomi emva kokuqhawula umyeni wakhe
Ngombuzo: "Indlela yokusinda umtshato umfazi? Ubunzima obunzima buhlala ngqo kwiimeko zobhinqa. Abameli bezesondo ezibuthathaka badla ukuthotywa ihlazo, ukunyanzela kunye nokubetha iminyaka. Kodwa xa iphelile ngomtshato osindisayo, uxinzelelo luqala emva komtshato, ukunganakwa nokungafuni ukuhlala. Le meko idinga ukulungiswa, kwaye ngokukhawuleza! Into yokuqala ekhunjulwayo yinyani yeyona nto eyenzeka kumadoda, emva kweenyanga ezintandathu emva kokuba umfazi aphinde aqonde emva kokuqhawula umtshato:
- malunga nonyaka kunye nesiqingatha emva kokuqhawulwa kwamadoda kufikeleleke ukuxinezeleka, kwaye abasetyhini kulo mzuzu sele bevuya kunye nenkululeko yabo, ngelixa abameli bezesondo eziqinileyo beziva bexhalabile kwaye bananto;
- ngokwezinye i-psychotherapists, indoda eyaya kwelinye ibhinqa, emva kweminyaka engama-3, iqala ukuzisola ngesenzo sakhe namaphupha okubuyela kumandulo;
- Kwiidolophu ezinkulu, phantse umntu wesithathu oqhawule umtshato naye uthabathe umfazi wakhe, kunye nendoda yesine iphupha lokwenza.
Ezi nkcukacha zimele zikhombise ingcamango. indlela yokusinda ukutshatyalaliswa kunye nokuqhawula umyeni wakhe. Kodwa ehleli kunye neengalo ezixutywe, emva kokuhlukana akukhuthazwa. Ngokukhawuleza ukuba amaxwebhu emva koqhawulo-mtshato afunyenwe, ipropati iyahlula, igama leentombi liphinda likhanye kwipasipoti, kwaye abantwana banokukhuselwa ngokukhuselekiswa yi-alimony, lixesha lokucinga ngawe.
Ngoko, masihlasele kwizenzo ezinjengokulibala indoda emva komtshato:
- Unomonde okwaneleyo kwaye uqaphele ukuba yonke into ithatha ixesha. Ngokukodwa ukwenzela ukulibala zonke izikhalazo nokulungisa iimvakalelo emphefumlweni.
- Hlela ukucoca jikelele kunye nokulahla konke okungenani kukukhumbuza ngomyeni oshonile. Nokuba ingaba ngumthi wakhe ozithandayo okanye usihlalo. Mhlawumbi ixesha elithile ngaphandle kwezinto eziqhelekileyo liya kuziva kungenanto, kodwa kungekudala kuya kudlula.
- Ungazivali. Abasetyhini abaninzi baqhawula umtshato kunye nomyeni wabo othandekayo ngokuziqhenycela, ukupheka kwisantya sabo sokunganakwa kunye neemvakalelo. Fumana intombi ekwazi ukukhala okanye ekuhleleni ngokubhaliweyo kwiblogi. Khumbula ukuba ngezinye iinyembezi kunceda ukuhlaziya nokuphucula.
- Ukuba ungazixinzelelekanga ixesha elide emva kokuqhawula umtshato, zama ukubeka ixesha lakho kwizinto ezahlukeneyo. Kwiimeko ezigqithiseleyo, zifumane isilwanyana esihle. Kuqinisekisiwe ukuba kukuphazamise iingcinga ezibuhlungu uze uthathe ixesha lakho lokukhululeka.
- Qaphela ukuzithemba kwakho. Mhlawumbi, akayiyo imeko ephambili emva kokuqhawula umtshato. Ukuqeshisa umgcini-mgcini ochwephesha oza kuthatha ikhabethe entsha kunye nomfanekiso omtsha. Ukuhlaziywa kwangaphandle kuya kuchaphazela ulawulo lwangaphakathi. Into ephambili ngexesha elifanayo lihlale lifuna ukuba ungowona mhle kakhulu kwaye ungenakunqandwa.
- Ziqaphele ukuba umtshato awuyikuphela kokuphila, kodwa ukuqala
into entsha kunye nenhle kuneyona ngaphambili. Esi sihlandlo sokunyamekela umsebenzi kunye nabantwana, ekugqibeleni, ukuba wenze into ophuphayo okanye oko indoda yangaphambili engakuvumeli ukuba uyenze. Qonda ukuba uyinkosi yobomi bakho kwaye ukhululekile ukwenza yonke into! Ngoku akukho zikhutshelo kuwe!
Kwaye ekugqibeleni, into ebalulekileyo. Xa ulungele ulwalamano olutsha, ungabayiki. Ukutshisa kuyishiya amacwecwe, kodwa kungekhona ngokubhekiselele kubomi bomntu. Ukhetho olutsha alufanelekanga ubuncinane into efana nale yangaphambili. Makube ngumntu ohluke ngokupheleleyo. Emva koko uza kuvula iphepha elitsha lencwadi ethi "Ubomi Bakho", ngokuqinisekileyo ibe yinto ehamba phambili.