Phakathi kwabantu ababini ininzi inokwenzeka: kwaye loo nto inokuphosakela, kunye nentombazana. Konke oku kwenza ubudlelwane buninzi. Ekupheleni, mhlawumbi, kuya kubakho ukuqhuma. Kubalulekile ukwenza into.
Nantsi kanye imibuzo emininzi kwaye, mhlawumbi, iimpendulo eziliqela. Okokuqala, kuya kufuneka ukuba uphendule: Ngaba lo mntu wenza isono? Okanye mhlawumbi ucasulwa nguwe?
Ukuba uphula umthetho (u-guy ukopela, u-naham, akazange azalisekise isithembiso, njl.), Ngoko kulungele ukubheka ngokukhawuleza ukuba uyayibona. Mhlawumbi ucinga ukuba "le yimithetho yomdlalo," njengoko ingoma ithi. Kukho iincwadi ezininzi ezincinci, apho abantu baxelelwa malunga namantombazana enkohliso, kwaye abafana bayifunde, bakholelwa baze benze ngokucetyiswa ngababhali abalisa.
Ukuba umntu uyayazi ityala, ngoko akufanelekile ukuhlwaya, wonke umntu unelungelo lokwenza iphutha.
Unokuhlwaya njani umntu onothando xa wayethushe intombazana kwaye akayiqondi?
- Kungaba ngcono ukuba ubazise ukuba abakwenzi oko. Ukulinganisa isimo sengqondo, kodwa khumbula: izinto ezininzi abantu abazibona bexhatshazwa ngaphezu kwamantombazana, kwaye baninzi - ngokuchaseneyo. Ukuba loo ndoda ngokwakhe waya kumhlobo wakhe ngosuku lokuzalwa, kwaye intombazana ayizange ilukise, ngoko kufuneka ihambe ngaphandle kwayo ngaphandle kwayo. Kwaye futhi ukuba ungayilumkisi. Yaye xa ecaphukile, yidlala umdla: "Ngaba ukhubekile? Kodwa kutheni ?? Emva kwakho konke, wena ngokwakho uhlala wenza oku! "Hayi ukuthetha ngokuqinisekileyo:" Hayi! Ngoku uqonda oko ndivakalelwayo ... "
- Ngokuqhelekileyo, amantombazana akhetha isixhobo sokuphindezela ngenxa yomona aze aqhubise umthandayo, ngoko uqala ukuba nomona. Nantsi into ephambili akuyikuyidlula kwaye yenze yonke into, ngaphandle kokungcola malunga nentlonelo nomnye.
- Amadoda akafuni ukubona umfazi ongonwabi ecaleni kwawo, ngoko umfanekiso wexhoba (ukunganakwa, ukuzaliswa kabuhlungu kunye nentukuthelo yeso, njl njl.), Okwesikhashana ixesha, kunokunceda umgwebi ukuba amkele impazamo yakhe kwaye amenze ahlupheke ityala lesazela.
- Ukuba le ngcebiso ingenakunceda, indlela enhle yokuziphindezela kumntu ongenakunxaxha ingaba yinto engapheliyo. Musa ukuphendula ifowuni, ungaphenduli umyalezo, ungahambi kumnxeba nonke. Kodwa ngexesha elifanayo, ngokuphindaphindiweyo esidlangalaleni kwaye, njengokuba kunjalo, akubi kakubi entliziyweni, uzibonakalisa njengowesifazane oqhakazileyo.
- Ewe, phi na ukuya ngaphandle kwendlela eqhelekileyo yokuxhaphaza abantu? Iinyembezi, ezininzi kunye neziqhelo, ukulila i-sobs ngeke kushiye ukungabikho nto. Kwaye nangona ungayiqondi icala lakho, ngoko nje umnqweno ongaboni ukumbona kwentombazana (engelula ukunyamezela) iya kumphoqa loo mfana ukuba abuyisele indawo yakhe ethandekayo nangayiphi na indlela.
Yaye ukuba wayecaphukisa ngenjongo? Ngoko, intombazana ayithandi kakhulu kuye, kwaye endaweni yokucingela indlela yokuhlwaya umntu othandekayo, kungcono ukuba ucinge ngokungahambi kunye naye ade aphelise ubomi?