Indlela yokuphinda uwele ngothando nomyeni wakhe?

Imvakalelo yesi sibini ihamba ngezigaba ezahlukeneyo zophuhliso, iilingo ezininzi. "Iibhitrifti esiswini" kwaye ukugqabhuka emadolweni kudlula ngokukhawuleza, kwaye ubudlelwane buba nzima kakhulu. Abaninzi abafazi abatshatileyo baqinisekisa ukuba abazange bazive uthando kumlingane wabo ixesha elide, kodwa ningakhathazeki, kuba kukho iindlela ezivakalayo zokuwa nomyeni kwakhona.

Ngokwenzululwazi, kuphela inani elincinci labantu abagcinwe ukugcina iimvakalelo zabo emtshatweni, ukujamelana nokucaphuka, inzondo kunye nezinye iimvakalelo ezingenakwenzeka ezivela kumanqanaba athile olwalamano. Iingcali zengqondo zithi kukho iindlela ezininzi eziphumelelayo nezibonakalisiweyo ezinokubuyisela uvelwano kwisiqingatha sesibini kunye nokutshisa ilangabi lentshisekelo kulwalamano.

Ndingayithanda njani indoda yakhe kwakhona?

Ubudlelwane ngumsebenzi oqhubekayo kuwe, oya kulondoloza iimvakalelo aze abuyisele uthando. Njengoko uyazi, indoda ifuna ukubona emva kwayo ibhinqa elizilungele kakuhle, elinobugcisa kunye nezoqoqosho apho, ngokuthelekisana namanye amantombazana, kuya kuvela.

Iimfihlelo, indlela yokuzithanda ngokwakho kwakhona:

1. Into yokuqala omele uyenze ibonakala. Abaninzi abasetyhini, besatshatile, bayeka ukuzinyamekela, kuba bakholelwa ukuba intanda ayithandi. Le yiphutha elikhulu, kuba amadoda anjengamehlo, ngoko ingxaki kukuba iqabane liyaneliswa yilokho elikubonayo. Sebenzisa ixesha nemali, kodwa qha ga mshelana nophando lwezakhono oza kunceda ukuguqula ikhadi. Musa ukuhamba ngeenxa yokugqoka iingubo kunye neengubo zokugqoka. Umyeni wakhe makabe nomona kunokuba abonise ukungakhathaleli.
2. Isiphakamiso esiqinisekisiweyo malunga nendlela yokuthanda umyeni ngakumbi - qala ukubandakanyeka kwesizathu esifanayo. Kuboniswa ukuba ukusebenza ngokubambisana kunceda ukudibanisa kunye nokujonga omnye nomnye ngendlela entsha. Kubalulekile ukuba ishishini lihle, kwaye lalinomdla kubo bobabini abalingani.
3. Kubantu, ubulili bobudlelwane bubaluleke kakhulu, ngoko ke ukuba ufuna ukubuyisela inzala endala, ngoko ulwahlula isondo, uthenge iimpahla zangaphantsi ezenzululweyo kwaye uzame ukufaka iingxaki.
4. Ukufumanisa ukuba ungaphinda uthandane nomyeni, kukufanelekile ukunika isiluleko esinjalo- zama ukunika ixesha lokuphumla kunye neqabane lakho. Sichitha ixesha kuphela, umzekelo, uye kwiibhayisikobho, uhambo, ulungiselele isidlo sothando, njl njl. UMthetho kwimeko entsha, oko kukuthi, tyelela iindawo eziza kubonisa.

Xoxa nomlingane wakho, makakutshele ngeminqweno yakho kunye neenjongo, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba amadoda azive inkxaso yowesifazane wakho othandekayo, ngoko qi niseka ukuba ufunde ukuphulaphula nokuqonda umlingane wakho.

Njani ukuwela ngothando nomyeni wangaphambili?

Ukuba emva kokuqhawula umtshato nomlingane iimvakalelo azizange zidlule kwaye kukho ukuqaphela ukuba ufuna ukubuyisela umntu, ngoko kufuneka uphuhlise isicwangciso senzo. Injongo ephambili kukuqinisekisa umthandi wangaphambili ukuba walahlekelwa ngumfazi ofanelekileyo. Ukongezelela, ibhinqa kufuneka ikwazi oko umntu ayithandayo kwaye oko kungenjalo, ngoko-ke yenza umsebenzi. Iingcali zengqondo kukho naziphi na iziphi iziphakamiso ezingavumelekanga ukuba zivumelane nendima yenkosikazi, kuba ulwalamano olunjalo alukwazi ukuqhubeka. Olunye ucebisa olusebenzayo, olwenzayo kumntu okhoyo kunye nomntu owayengumlingane - umbonise ukuba uyathandwa ngamalungu esini esahlukileyo. Amadoda angabanqobileyo kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo bayafuna ukufumana umvuzo oyintloko. Into ephambili ayinakuyidlula, kuba imeko inokuthi, ngokuchaseneyo, yenza ngokunyanisekileyo. Zama ukuqalisa ulwalamano olutsha, njengokungathi awuzange ube kunye ngaphambili. Oku kuyintloko kwimpumelelo.