Kubonakala ngathi uthando luvakalelo oludibanisa abantu ababini. Kodwa kutheni kukho iingcamango ezinjalo njengengqondo yabasetyhini kunye nabasetyhini ngothando? Ewe, amadoda namabhinqa ahluke kakhulu ekuqaleni ukuba le nyaniso inika abalobi abaninzi isihloko ngokucinga.
Umzekelo, enye yeencwadi, "Amadoda aseMars, abafazi-abavela eVenus" aqulethe iingxabano ukuba abameli beesondo ezahlukeneyo bahambelane ngokuthe ngqo kummi, njengabemi beeplanethi ezahlukeneyo. Ngamanye amazwi, i-psychology yendoda ethandwayo iyahluke kakhulu kumfazi ofumana iimvakalelo ezifanayo. Yaye ngokuqinisekileyo ihluke kwizinto ezilindelekileyo, ezenza ngengqondo ixhobisa abafazi besilisa. Kutheni kutheni kukholelwa ukuba ukuba ezi zilindelekileyo azilungelelwanga, ngaba akukho nto ikhona phakathi kweentlanga?
Ngoko, amadoda abonisa njani uthando lwabo? Masiqwalasele ngakumbi.
Ukubonakaliswa kothando kumadoda
Ngelishwa, kunabameli abambalwa besigxina esomeleleyo sobuntu kwihlabathi abaye banenkalipho yokuvakalisa ngokucacileyo iimvakalelo zabo, nangona kunjalo, ukulungelelanisa intombazana abathandayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo amabhinqa, ngenxa ye-intuition yabo nakwezinye iindawo kumava, bayaqonda ukuba umntu uyabathanda ngenxa yemibonakalo ethile.
Ngoko yintoni i-psychology yomntu onothando? Ewe, qaphela. Ekubeni intombazana evusa imvakalelo yothando, amadoda ayatshintsha ngokucacileyo. Khangela ngakumbi - baba neentloni, ngamanye amaxesha benoyiko lokubheka into yabo yokubonga. Kwaye konke kungakhathaliseki ukuba ngokwemvelo kunjalo, umzekelo, iibhokisi zeengxoxo kunye nabahlaziyi.
Ukongezelela, phawula ingqalelo - ukuthetha nentombi yakho, indoda ihlala immbamba ixesha elide kumbono wakhe, ebonakalayo kwimbono yesithandana yothando ngumqondiso omkhulu.
Nangona kunjalo, musa ukudibanisa uthando ebomini lomntu onothando oluqhelekileyo. Uvakalelwa umnqweno ongeke uxhaswe yimvakalelo yothando, abameli besigqeba esomeleleyo sobuntu ngokuchasene nabo banokuthi bangabonakali. Oku kunokuthi, umzekelo, indawo apho umntu ehleli khona. Ukuhlala esihlalweni, uyawa, imilenze ibanzi ngokubanzi. Ukongezelela, le ndoda ihlala ihlasela indawo ebizwa ngokuba yendawo, njengokungathi ixinzezele intombazana. Ngomnqweno akukho nto iphosakeleyo, kodwa uzidibanise, ubiza ngokuba ngumthando, awuyikuxabisa.
Abantu baqonda njani uthando?
Mhlawumbi, phakathi kwamantombazana ngoku akukho mntu ongaboni ifilimu yaseMerika "Umtshakazi obalekeleyo". Nangona kunjalo, bambalwa abantu benza izigqibo ezifanelekileyo kuyo. Kodwa kukho ngokoqobo ifundiswa umyalelo wokunqoba kwabantu, kunye nokucatshulwa ngokupheleleyo kwengqondo yengqondo yabantu. I-heroine eyona nto ihlala icinga ukuba umntu ufuna ntoni, kwaye ngokoqobo yaba yinto efanelekileyo. Kwakungekho nababethi beenqwelo-moya abazange bakwazi ukuwa naye.
Kukho ibinzana elithetha ukuba indoda ithanda ibhinqa kungekhona ngenxa yokuba isondele, kodwa indlela eziva ngayo ecaleni kwayo. Emva kokufumana ibhinqa, emnqobile ngendlela yakhe, le ndoda iyancipha. Uxolo, ububele (oko bakuqonda ngendlela yabo), ukwaneliseka ngokwesini - ezi zizinto eziphambili zeengqondo zesintu ngothando. Kwaye abafazi abazizilumko bayaziqonda ngokuthe tye kwaye bayazixabisa, ngaphandle kokuziqhayisa okanye ukuthetha kwabo "baba" ngokungacetywanga ngothando kunye nendlela yokubonisa ngayo.
Ukuphosa kwimiboniso yothando kumadoda
Nangona kunjalo, oku kuziphatha, ukuzola kunye nobumnene, kuvela kubantu abazithemba. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abasetyhini banokujamelana nokubonakaliswa okubonakalayo kobukhwele, kunye neengxaki zokuhlala kunye neengcebiso.
Ukuba nomona kudala kubangelwa kukungakhuselekanga okukhulu, ingqondo yokungabi phantsi. Nomona
Kodwa ukugxotha kunye nemiyalelo eqhubekayo ingaba sizathu sokuba ukhethiweyo wakho ungumdlali ongenamandla okanye uqokelele ubuhlobo bakhe bokuqala bokuhluleka. Kule meko, ukuba zonke ezinye iinkalo zokuhlala zihambisana nawe, kufuneka uziphathe ngokucokisekileyo. Kancinci uhlakulele intembelo kwindoda yakho ukuba uhluke ngokupheleleyo "kumntu" wangaphambili, nokuba nguwe, nguye oyedwa, kwaye ngubani owaziyo, mhlawumbi uya kuba ngumntu ohamba phambili!