"Ngaba uthanda umfana? Ngoko ungalindeli imozulu elwandle, kufuneka ube nesibindi uze wazi ngokwakho! "- isiluleko esinjalo sizaliswe ngesikhokelo ekuguquleni ubomi bakhe. Kubonakala kuyinyaniso: ithandiwe, isondela, iyanqotshwa kwaye yashiya iqela nge-trophy. Kwaye akunzima, mhlawumbi, ukuthetha into ethile, kodwa ngokunqoba kunokuba neengxaki, kubalulekile ukucinga ngento ethile. Ngoko unokwenza njani ukuba ukhange ingqalelo yomntu ongaqhelekanga ukwenza ukuba umntu omaziyo ayenze ngempumelelo, yintoni endiyenzayo ukuba ndiyenzele oku?
Iindlela zokutsala ingqalelo yomntu
- Yintoni enye enye intombazana enokuyityelela ingqalelo kwindoda, ukuba ingaboni? Ngoko ke, jonga umfana othandayo, ukwenzela ukuba akwazi ukubona umdla wakho, into eyona nto kukuba ayizange ibe yinyameko. Xa ebona ukubukeka ebusweni bakhe, into encinci kwaye ikhupha amehlo, kodwa ukujonga kwakhona. Kutheni ungajongi kwiso? Iingcali zengqondo zithi ngamanye amaninzi, amadoda athambekele ekujonge ixesha elide emehlweni njengento yokuzonwabisa, kodwa ngobusuku obubodwa. Ukuba umphumo onjalo awunqwenelekayo, ngoko kulungele ukugcinwa ngaphezulu.
- Ukulungiswa kwesithuba. Khangela indlela engcono ngayo nayiphi na ingubo ejongene namantombazana abuyele ngqo kunye nentloko ephakamileyo. Ukuba awunayo idatha engokwemvelo, kufuneka uhlaziye ekhaya phambi kwesibuko, okanye bhetele ungenza isigqibo somdaniso. Kwaye ixesha liya kuchitha kakuhle, kwaye umva wakho uya kulungisa kwaye uzuze ubabalo.
- Ngokutsho kweengxelo zeengqondo zeengqondo, inxalenye enkulu yeengcamango kwintlanganiso yokuqala iqulethwe yimpawu zomzimba kunye nokubonakala. Ngoko ke, ukutsala ingqalelo yomntu oyithandayo, unokuyikopisha impawu yakhe, umzekelo, uhlale phantsi kuye okanye ubeke intloko yakhe kwicala elifanayo. Into ephambili ayiyi kuba yinkomo, akunakwenzeka ukuba umntu uya kuvuya xa uqala ukumxelisa. Kodwa ukuxelisa okungekho mboniso kuya kucaca kumntu odibanisa naye ukuba naye "ngokulinganayo."
- Ingqangi yokuqala yayenziwa, waxabisa ukubonakala kwakho okumangalisayo kwaye wathetha nawe. Ukugqwesa, into ephambili ayiyikuphazamisa yonke into. Indawo yesibini ebaluleke kakhulu yokwenza uluvo malunga nomntu yindlela yokuthetha. Ngoko ke sifunda ukuthetha nomntu ngokuchanekileyo. Naliphi iliso elakhiwa ngumfana, unokukhubekiswa nanoma yiyiphi na, nangamazwi okuhlekisa. Ngako oko, kwintlanganiso yokuqala kukulungele ukukhusela kwakhe ukugculela kunye nenkohlakalo, kwaye kungaphantsi kokugxekisa umdibaniselwano. Kwakhona, ungaphenduli imibuzo yakhe kwi-monosyllables, uya kugqiba ekubeni akayithandi. Kodwa kwakhona ukubetha enye into embi kakhulu - ekunikezelweni kwendoda kuyo yonke into yokunciphisa ebomini bakhe, naye, akunjalo. Khumbula, iingxaki zakho zinomdla kuwe kuphela, mhlawumbi kubazali bakho.
- Ngendlela, malunga nomgama phakathi kwabanxibelelwano. Kucacile ukuba kwiklabhu enomculo omkhulu, ukuba awufuni, uya kufuneka ube kufuphi ukuze ukwazi ukuva. Kodwa kwezinye iimeko, kungcono ukuba ungangeni ngaphakathi kwindawo yangasese, uqala ukusuka kwi-1 ukuya kwi-3.5 m. Umgama ukusuka kwi-0.5 m ukuya kwi-1 m uhloselwe ukudibanisa nabahlobo kunye nabahlobo abanolwazi. Kodwa ukuba usondela ngokuthe ngqo kumnxibelelwano ngelixa uxoxisana kwaye ungaboni nayiphi na imiqondiso engamthokozisiyo kuyo, ngoko konke kulungile. Unokuqhubeka nokuhlambalaza, umzekelo, ukuthintela ingalo yakhe okanye ihlombe ukuba ubonise umdla wakhe.
- Intombazana inokuyityelela njani umfana, ukuba akayithandanga, akazithembi? Kucacile ukuba kule nto akukho nto iya kuvela kuyo. Ngoko ke, sifana ne heroine yefilimu endala kwaye sithi: "Ndiyona nto inqabileyo kwaye inomdla." Kwaye ke, ukuqonda kwakho ngeziganeko zakutshanje, ukukwazi kwakho ukubamba ingxoxo kwaye wenze kube mnandi, kubalulekile. Ngoko ke, asiyikuqwalasela kuphela ukuyila kwethu kwangaphandle, kodwa kunye nomxholo wangaphakathi.
Ukuba awuzange ulawule ukutsala ingqalelo yomntu owakuthandayo, ungadikibali. Akunjalo ukuba loo nto ikhona kuwe, mhlawumbi, intliziyo yakhe sele isetyenziswe, okanye ayiyena nje indoda yakho - oku kwenzekayo.