Ungamyeka njani ukuthanda indoda esatshatileyo?

Ukususela kubuntwaneni, siphupha inkosana kwihashe elimhlophe. Ungowona mhle kunabo bonke, uthembeke, unomusa, uyinyanisekileyo, uthembekile, uthembekile ... Kodwa akusiyo yonke loo golide ekhangela. Ubomi awunakulinganisekanga kwaye kaninzi luba neengxaki ezingalindelekanga kwaye akusoloko zimnandi. Yikuphi ukudumala okulindele xa kuvela ukuba into esithandwayo isele isele, unomfazi, mhlawumbi nabantwana ... kwaye siyaqonda ukuba akunakwenzeka, akulungile, kodwa awukwazi ukuyalela intliziyo yakho. Yaye ungathini na? Ungamyeka ukuthanda indoda esitshatileyo xa kungekho nto inokutshatyalalisa intsapho yakhe?

Intliziyo, intliziyo enhle ... Kukho abantu abaninzi banesidima kwaye bafanelekile emhlabeni, kodwa hayi, ngandlela-thile wakhetha yena, watshata ... kwaye kubonakala ukuba nguye ungoyena uninzi kakhulu, kwaye kungcono ukuba ungalokothi udibane ... Ukhala, udabukile, kunye naye angenakufuna ukubona abanye, nguye yedwa owathatha zonke iingcamango zakhe neemvakalelo zakhe ... Nendawo yonke, ngokuqinisekileyo, kucetyiswa ukuba umlahle ngaphandle kwentloko yakhe ... Kodwa ukuba ungamyeka njani uthando kwaye umkhohlwe umntu xa ephantsi koomphefumlo wakhe kusekho ithemba lokuba uya kuba kunye kunye uya kuba yedwa kuye. Ewe, uyaqonda ukuba kukho amathuba ambalwa kakhulu, okanye akukho nanye, kodwa izithembiso ezithandekayo ukuba uya kuqhawula, kodwa kuphela xa umfazi ephilile, abantwana baya kukhula, njl. Kwaye ixesha liqhubeka kwaye akukho nto iguquka. Ngexesha elithile uqaphela ukuba yonke into ifikelele ekupheleni kobudlelwane obungenalo ikamva, kuba akukho nto iya kuguqula.

"Ndifuna ukuyeka uthando"

Ukuthatha isinyathelo sokuqala ekuqhekezeni ubudlelwane kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba uthathe onke amandla okuthanda ukuba abe ngumbindi kwaye ujonge ngenyameko imeko. Khawucinge nje ukuba ngokukhawuleza, kunye nesimo esiyimpumelelo kakhulu kuwe, uhlala esahlukana kwaye uya kuba ngumntu wakho kuphela. Kodwa ngaba ungamthemba? Emva kwakho konke, ngoku ungumfazi wakhe osemthethweni, njengokuba wayekho, intombazana eyayikukhohlisa nawe. Ngaba awuyi kuphinda uvakashele ingcamango yendlela efanayo? Emva koko, ukuba umntu utshintshile kanye, yintoni eyimvimbela ekutshintsheni okwesibini? Mhlawumbi ngoku iimvakalelo zakho zinamandla kakhulu ngenxa yokuba kungezakho kwaye mhlawumbi awudingi "uhlobo lonwabo" olo hlobo?

Umbono wokuthi bonke abantu isithembu kwaye benomfazi, baya kutshintsha kwaye abayi kushiya impazamo yabo iphosakele. Kwenzeka ukuba umntu uyawa thandana, njengoko athethayo, okwenene kwaye ushiya intsapho yakudala. Kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo ukuxhamla kwixesha langaphambili akunakunqunyulwa ngokupheleleyo, ingakumbi ukuba kukho abantwana emtshatweni kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba uya kuthethwa kunye nomfazi wakhe wangaphambili. Ngaba uya kukhululeka ngolwalamano olunjalo, ngaba unokuthiwa bayonwabile? Uninzi cishe akunjalo. Kule meko, ukuphuma ngaphandle kwothando kuyimfuneko, nokuba ngaba kunokwenzeka ukudibanisa isithuba nayo. Ubunzima babanye abuyinto engcono kakhulu yentsapho evuya.

Kodwa kunokwenzeka ukuba ubukho bakho emva kobubomi bakho obuthandayo buya kumthobela ngokupheleleyo. Cinga, ngaba bona ngokwabo, kulungile kuye? Kukho abafazi ababini abayifunayo ngokwenene, kodwa into yokuba yena wedwa uyakhohlisa ngaphandle kokuphela, kanti enye ihlupheke kulo - kuye, kholwa kwam, izinto ezincinci zobomi. Kodwa into edabukisayo kukuba awuyi kuba nexesha lokukhangela emva, indlela intsha iya kudlula ngayo, ubuhle buya kudlulayo kwaye mhlawumbi awuyi kuyidinga konke, kuba, uthini "ukhozi" luthintela ukuba athole umntu omncinci? Yaye uya kuhlala uhlala wedwa ebomini bakho bonke ... Akulona lithuba elilungileyo, akunjalo?

Kubalulekile ukuqeda ubudlelwane obungonwabi. Akumangalisi ukuba bathi awukwazi ukwakha uvuyo kwintlalo yomntu. Emva koko konke zonke iintombazana zifanelwe! Ngoko ke, nisela isilwanyana esincinci, cingisisa kwaye ufunde amagama okuhlambalaza kwaye ekugqibeleni umxelele ngokuthe ngqo malunga nento ofuna ukuyenza. Ngaphandle kwesizathu esiphezulu, ungaphenduli iifowuni zakhe, ungaze uhlangane naye, ungathathi izipho zakhe, ulahle yonke into emkhumbuzayo ngaye - umxoshe ebomini bakho kanye kunye! Kwaye ngoku, xa kunokwenzeka, qhelana namanye amadoda, nokuba ngaba ababaziyo abayi ku nya nzeliswa nantoni na, baqaphele ukutsala kwakho kumntu wesini olwahlukileyo kwaye ekugqibeleni uya kudibana nothando lwakho lokwenene. Phambili ukuhlangabezana nentlalo yakho!