Indlela yokujongana nobuvila? Ngubani ongazibuza yona lo mbuzo? Kubonakala ngathi yonke into iyilula - abasebenzi baseyilona lihle kakhulu lonyango. Emva koko, bonke abantu banemifanekiso eninzi kunye namazwi malunga nokusebenza nobuvila, abalobi banamhlanje babhala malunga nobuqili beencwadi, kwaye izazinzulu zonyaka ziqhuba uphando, zifunda uhlobo lokuvela kweli lizwe. Kwaye ngoku ikhona ... Abazali abadidekileyo bajikeleza iingqondo zeengqondo ngokufuna indlela yokujamelana nobudenge bobantwana, iinkosana zizama abantu abaphantsi, bafuna ukwandisa amandla abo okusebenza, amadoda ahlambalaza abafazi bawo ukuze aphume, kunye nabafazi bamadoda ngenxa yokungasebenzi. Kwaye, ngokobuninzi - banobuqili kakhulu ukusola.
Kodwa ngaba kunjalo? Yaye ukuba kunjalo, kutheni kunzima ukuphoqa wena okanye abahlobo bakho ukuba basebenze? Indlela yokukrazula ubuvila ngoncedo lwabasebenzi, ukuba usebenza ubuvila? Emva koko, kuvela isangqa esichukumisayo, kwaye uphume ngaphandle ngaphandle kokuqonda izizathu ezibalulekileyo zokubonakala kobuvila.
Okokuqala, kuyimfuneko ukucacisa ukuba bunjani ubuvila. Yonke isizwe sinokuqonda kwayo ubuvila. Ubuqhetseba baseRussia, umzekelo, behlala bephethe intsingiselo engebiyo, kwaye kuthiwa umntu onobuvila ubhekwa njengesithuko. Kwakhona kwimithombo eyahlukileyo le ngcamango ineentsingiselo ezahlukeneyo, umzekelo, ukungafuni ukusebenzela, ukukhethwa kwexesha lokungenzi lutho, ukuphazamiseka komsebenzi wokusebenza. Kodwa ukuba ungena kwi-essence, unokudibanisa zonke iingcamango kwisichazi esisodwa sobuvila-umnqweno wokwenza kuphela oko kukukholisa. Iingcali zengqondo zibiza ubuvila ukungabikho kokukhuthaza. Kule nkcazo, ifihla imfihlo yendlela yokulwa nokulwa nobutyebi. Ukuba uvumelekile ukuba wenze oko kukukholisa, ngoko kule ndawo ungayifumana impumelelo enkulu, guqula ubomi bakho kwiholide kwaye, ngokubanzi, umbuzo wokulwa nobuvila uya kuba yinto engathandekiyo. Kodwa oku kunokwenzeka kuphela kwiimeko apho kukho umnqweno wokwenza nantoni na.
Indlela yokunqoba ubuvila obangelwa ngumsebenzi ongaphezulu
Ukuphuma kwiphondo apho unqweneli ukwenza nantoni na, xa kungekho sikhuthazo nakwezenzo ezilula kunzima kakhulu. Oku kwenzekayo xa umntu enyanzelekile ukuba enze umsebenzi onzima ixesha elide. Kwimveliso engekho yendabuko, le meko ithathwa njengalathisi lwezinga eliphantsi kakhulu lamandla kwaye, ngoko ke, unyango lubandakanya ukubuyisela insime yamandla. Iingcebiso zeengqondo zeengqondo zile ndlela zifana - ukuphumla okude, kungekhona nje ngokomzimba, kodwa ngokomzwelo. Kubalulekile ukujongana nemibandela eyenza amava anzima kakhulu - ukutshintsha indawo yomsebenzi okanye uhlobo lomsebenzi, ukuseka ubudlelwane bomntu. Ukuba kwimeko yokunganakwa umzabalazo wobuvila kuya kuba kuphela ukuzama ukuziphoqa ukuba wenze into ethile, ngokukhawuleza okanye ekugqibeleni kuya kuphuma, umzimba uya kuphelisa ubutyebi bawo, obunokubangela isifo okanye ingxaki yengqondo.
Ukuthintela ukucetyiswa ukulungiselela okungenani kanye ngeveki yobudenge. Yintoni oya kuyenza, akunandaba, into ephambili kukuba zonke izenzo zenze uvuyo kunye nokuphumula. Akunangqiqo ukulungiselela usuku lobuvila kubantwana bakho. Okokuqala, baya kuphumla kwaye banokukwazi ukusebenza, kwaye okwesibini, uza kubona uhlobo lomsebenzi wakho omthandayo. Ngendlela, uSuku lukaLenin kumazwe amaninzi liholide yonyaka, kwaye unyaka wonke ufumana ukuthandwa okwandayo. EPoland, bahlabelela ingoma ehloniphekileyo yeli holide, apho inkondlo zabantwana zentlanzi zisebenza njengombhalo.
Indlela yokunqoba uvila lwabantwana
Indlela yokubonakala kobuvila ingabonwa ngokucacileyo kumzekelo wabantwana. Kwiminyaka ethile, abantwana baqala ukubonisa ukuzimela. Ngeentsuku ekupheleni, abazali bava nje: "mna mna!". Kodwa ngelo xesha abantwana abakwazi ukwenza yonke into ngokwabo oko bawenzayo. Ngelishwa, uninzi lwabazali abanalo ixesha elaneleyo, umonde namandla okumelana nemizamo yomntwana ukwenza nayiphi na inyathelo ngokuzimela. Ngaphezu koko, ngokuqhelekileyo abazali benza impazamo enkulu kwaye, endaweni yokukhuthaza, baxelele abantwana ukuba benze umsebenzi owenziwe kakubi. Kubonakala ngathi le ndlela yokuziphatha yabazali kufanele ivuse umntwana ukuba azame ukwenza konke ngcono. Kodwa, ke, oku kubangela ukuba abantwana balahlekelwe ngumdla kunoma yimuphi umsebenzi onxulumene nokunceda abazali babo. Lo ngumnqweno oqhelekileyo wokuphepha omnye ukothuka. Kwaye abazali banokuzibuza ukuba kutheni abantwana babo bevila. Kodwa yonke into ilungelelaniswa - kufuneka uqale ngokudumisa izenzo zengane, kwaye uya kuqonda indlela yokunqoba ubuvila. Ngokomzekelo, intombi yam ayiyikuhlamba izitya. Ukuziphatha okuqhelekileyo kwabazali kukugxeka nokuphoqa yonke into ukuba ibuyiselwe. Kodwa kuphela le ngxaki ayicombululi, kodwa ke kufuneka ufunge ngoba izitya azihlambulukanga nhlobo. Kwaye ukuba umntwana unesizathu sokuphucula ukusebenza kwebhizinisi elitsha kuye, okokuqala, kubalulekile ukuvuma isigqibo sokunceda ekhaya. Emva koko simele sidumise isenzo ngokwayo. Kwaye emva kokuvunywa, unako ukunyamekela ukuba izitya azihlambulukanga kakuhle, unokufuneka uphinde uphinde usebenze kunye, kodwa wenze ukuba kube mnandi
Ngamanye amaxesha abazali bajamelana nolunye uhlobo lobuvila kubantwana. Umzekelo, uvila ukufunda. Kodwa isizathu sihlala sisifanayo - umntwana akanomdla. Oku kuya kunceda umnqweno wabantwana ukuba babe njengabazali babo. Qala uqale ukufunda ndawonye. Emva koko umntwana uya kuba nomdla kwaye aqale ukuzama ukufunda ngokuzimela. Kuyafana nokusebenza kwemigodi kunye nobuchule - kubalulekile ukuba abazali baqale ukwenza into, kwaye abantwana, abanomdla, bazama ukwenza into ethile.
Ngamanye amaxesha kuyimfuneko ukulwa nobudenge ngoncedo lwamandla okuthanda, kodwa ukuba ukungathandi ukwenza izinto kubangelwa ukuphelelwa ngumonde, ngokukhawuleza okanye ubuvila buza kuphumelela. Kwaye ukuba umsebenzi uletha ugqozi kwaye uzive ukhululekileyo wamandla, ke kukho ukukhuthazwa ngokwaneleyo, kwaye unokuqhubeka usebenza ngokuphepha. Into ephambili kuyo yonke into ukuhambelana ne-golden mean - ukulinganisa ukusebenza kunye nokumodareyitha ukuphumla.