Amanye amancinci athobekile kangangokuthi asweleki isibindi nokuba ameme into yokububula kwawo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, unokuthatha le meko ngokwakho. Kodwa, indlela yokuziphatha ngokuthe ngqo kunye nomntu onamahloni, kwaye uphumelele ubudlelwane into ethile ngaphezu kohlobo nje? Siza kuthetha ngale nto ngokubanzi.
Ndingathanda njani umntu othobekileyo?
Abantu abathobekileyo bayamangalisa kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ungeke uqikelele into engqondweni yabo. Mhlawumbi uthanda naye, kodwa ngoku, kwakhona, akayi kukwazi ukuthetha. Kwaye, ukuba uyaphawula ukuba umthandi wakho uyamxabisa, uhlazeka okanye ubalekele indawo yakho-ngokuqinisekileyo, oku kungaba ngumqondiso ocacileyo ukuba umfana akayena nje unamahloni nje, nangona ubudala bakhe, kodwa nangokuthandana nawe . Kodwa kukho konke ukuphazamiseka kwindondo, kwaye apha kubonakaliswa kwinto yokuba ukuziphatha okunjalo kunokuthetha nje ngokungabikho kwezakhono zokuxhumana .
Ngoko, yintoni omele uyenze xa umntu ehlambulukileyo, indlela yokuthetha naye kwaye ngokubanzi, oko akuvelayo kuwe-siya kuzama ukuphendula oku ngoncedo lwezi ziphakamiso ezilandelayo:
- Ngaba uhlala ekhangele kuwe? - Awukwazi ukwenza nantoni na, kuba sele unomdla kumntu oselula.
- Ukuba igama lakho entlanganisweni lisoloko lenza ukumomotheka ngokuzibandakanya - oku kuluphawu olucacileyo lokuba uyamthanda umntu othobekileyo kakhulu kummandla wakho.
- Njalo bamkele ukunikezelwa ngoncedo kubantu abanjalo - ngokwenene ekusebenzeni kwabo bantu banomdla kakhulu abahlala bekulungele ukunceda.
- Into enesihawu, abantu banamahloni
intlonipho ekhethekileyo.
Indlela yokukhohlisa umntu othobekileyo?
- Yenza kucace kumntu othobekileyo ukuba ungacingi nje ukuba ngabahlobo nje.
- Mcele uncedo. Makhe eze endlwini yakho, kwaye ngelo xesha uthenge ibhotile yewayini.
- Ungalokothi ugobe intonga. Musa ukunyamezela.
Khumbula, into ebaluleke kakhulu ekujonganeni nabantu abanjalo kukuba ube nomonde, kwaye ukuba uthando luqine kakhulu, yenza izinto ezimbalwa ezithandekayo.