Kukho abafazi abathi emva kokuba bafunde ngokungcatsha kweqabane, balungele ukwenza nantoni na ukumbuyisela kwintsapho. Abaninzi basebenzisa imilingo, evumela ukutshabalalisa ubudlelwane phakathi kwendoda kunye nenkosikazi. Ukuze i- rite isebenze, kufuneka ulandele iziphakamiso ezithile. Okokuqala, ukufunda isalathisi kwinyanga edlulayo, kuba zonke iinkcubeko ezenziwa ngeli xesha zijoliswe ekunciphiseni, oko kukuthi, ukunciphisa ukukhanga kumbambano. Okwesibini, kufuneka ukholelwe kwisenzo somlingo, kuba, ngaphandle koko, akukho nto iya kuvela.
Indlela yokulahla indoda yomyeni wakhe ngonaphakade - icebo
Ngendlela elula kwaye isebenzayo, uya kufuna iimpahla zomlingane, okufuneka uhlambe ngokuzandla ngezandla zakho, kunye namanzi asele kufuneka uhlambe iinyawo zakho. Emva koko, kuyimfuneko ukuyiphalaza engabonakaliyo kwisitrato phantsi komthi wesifazane, umzekelo, i-aspen okanye i-apula. Emva koko, kufundwa iqhinga, indlela yokulahla inkosikazi yomyeni wakhe:
Ndiya kuvuka, ntsikelelo, ndiya kuphuma, ndiwele, ndluke endlwini yam, kuzo zonke iingcango, ukusuka emnyango wokugqibela ukuya kwesango nakuwo wonke amasango ukuya kulwandle oluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka, ndiya kuvuya ngokubanzi. Kukho abazalwana abalishumi elinambini, bonke abafazi abalishumi elinambini. Ndiya kubiza, ndiza kubiza amagama abo: enye i-melancholy, eyesibili iyomile, umfazi wesithathu ungumlingane onentliziyo, owesine uyintloko, inesihlanu iyintlungu, isithandathu ngumnqweno, isithandathu sihlushwa, sesibhozo simile, isithoba sibuthongo, isishumi silala, Ilishumi elinanye iyigazi elitshisayo, yeshumi elinesibini luthando olunzulu. O, nina bafazi abalishumi elinambini abafazi, mayeke ukuba ikhoboka likaThixo (igama) libe yinto yam inqabileyo, ingqondo yam ibuhlungu, ilizwi eligqithiseleyo liyanqotshwa, lithandeka ngoku, ngonaphakade naphakade. Wena, bafazi, uzive uhlungu ngenxa yakhe, ngenxa yakhe, kum, umkhonzi kaThixo (igama), waphoswa, waphoswa, wamemeza ngelizwi elikhulu, wayengenakuphila ngaphandle kwam, okwesibini, kungekhona usuku lokuhamba, kungekho busuku obuya kudlula: inyanga icacile, okanye ilanga libomvu. Ekuseni ndiza kukhanyisa encinane, ingqondo yam yayiza kuthatha igama lam, libuhlungu, liphoswe, likhwaza ngelizwi elibi. Maye omnye intombazana ubonakale njengengqungquthela eyoyikisayo kuye, njengewashi lomlilo, njenge-tadpole, kwaye ndiza kuba kusasa elitshisayo ngamanzi, kwaye ndilambile kakhulu ngokutya. Yibani, onke amazwi am, onamandla, enamandla, enamandla. E gameni likaBawo noNyana kunye noMoya oyiNgcwele. Ngoku kunye naphakade naphakade. Amen. "
Indlela yokulahla indoda yomyeni wakhe ngonaphakade - isithethe
Ukuze wenze isiko, kufuneka usebenzise ikhandlela yombala obomvu, kuba lo mbala ubonisa ukupholisa kweengqondo. Ebusuku, khanyisa ikhandlela yonke yedwa kwaye ubhale igama lomlingane kunye nomlingani kwiphepha lephepha. Ukusebenzisa isisi, nqunqa iphepha ukwenzela ukuba amagama ahlulwe. Emva koko, ngokutshintshile ukutshisa amakhishithi ekhandlela iphepha uze uwabeke kwiinqanawa ezahlukeneyo. Kubalulekile ukuba emva kokusika inxalenye ngamagama akuzange kuthintane. Ngethuba lokutshisa, kuyimfuneko ukutsho loo njongo:
"Yibani ikhandlela elibomvu, utshise, utshise, bathande ukuxhaswa ngonaphakade. Uthabatha yonke inzondo kunye nothando lwakho . Ukutshisa, ukutshisa, ukutshisa, kuze kube nini nanini uqhawule umtshato. "
Phinda amagama uze iphepha libe ngumlotha kwaye umlilo awuyi kuphuma. Emva koko, umlotha kufuneka uthathwe ngezandla ezahlukeneyo, phuma ngaphandle uphinde ugxotha umoya kumacala.
Isalathisi kwipini ukuze ulahle inkosikazi
Kubalulekile ukuthenga ipini entsha kwaye uyifake kwiingubo zomlingane, uthi kuye:
"Intambo entsha, ipini elibukhali, wena kunye nekhoboka likaThixo (igama) kuyo yonke indawo, uyigcina, ngoko ungayikhohlwa. Ukususela ekungcatshweni kwamakhoboka, ukuthembeka kwakhe kumkhonzi kaThixo (igama lakhe) londoloza. Kwangathi umkhonzi kaThixo (igama) angabuya kwindlovukazi yakhe kanye, aze aphendukele kum yonke intliziyo yakhe nomphefumlo. Uya kukulibala ukuvuya kwakhe kunye novuyo lokungcatsha, akayi kububona kwakhona ukuphikisana kwakhe, kwaye yonke into ibonakala iyamlibala. Ilizwi lam linamandla, ukuthanda kuyomelele. Yiba njalo. "
Ngenxa yepini, umyeni, xa edibana namanye amabhinqa, uya kuziva akanakonwaba kwaye ngokukhawuleza uza kubuya ekhaya.