Ngelishwa, ngokuqhelekileyo kuyo yonke intsapho kukho imeko xa abazali bexhalaba ukuba umntwana wabo onobuhle, othobekileyo kwaye othobelekileyo akaqhelekanga kuphela ngamazwi angcolileyo, kodwa uyawasebenzisa ngempumelelo. Enyanisweni, kwintsapho apho ulwimi olungcolileyo luyinxalenye yentetho encokolayo, le nyaniso ayiyi kuthusa. Kodwa nangoba bazali, ngokuba i-lexicon ye-taboo ngokwenene iphantsi kokuvinjelwa, inokuhlazeka. Yintoni enokuyenza, indlela yokululela umntwana ukuba afunge ngeqabane? Okona kubaluleke kakhulu - ungakhathazeki kwaye uzama ukutshisa le nto ngaphandle kwe-chadushka yakho oyintandokazi "ngesinyithi eshushu". Emzabalazweni wokuhlanzeka kweelwimi, abazali abanakuyenza ngaphandle kokupholisa kunye nobuqili, kodwa yintoni indlela yokukhetha ixhomekeke, kuqala kokuqala, ngexesha lomntwana.
Ulwimi olungcolileyo - ukusombulula iingxaki
- Inkwenkwe eneminyaka emibili okanye emithathu ayifaki ukuqonda intsingiselo yeziqalekiso athi, uphinda uphinda aphinde oko akuvile njengopholi. Yingakho indlela ebhetele yokulwa nolwimi olubi ngeli nqanaba kukunyanzelela. Akukho mzekelo kufuneka ugxininise ukusetyenziswa kakubi, uchaze intsingiselo yakhe okanye uyatshitshise umntwana kunye nesohlwayo esinzulu - konke oku kuya kubangela umphumo ochaseneyo, ngenxa yokuba isiqhamo esinqatshelwe, njengokuba uyazi, sinomnandi. Kungenzeka ukuba, kwiintsuku ezimbalwa "igama elibi" ngokwalo liza kupheleka kwisigama sesana.
- Umntwana oneminyaka emine ukuya kwi sixhenxe uqala ukusebenzisa umtya njengendlela yokutsala ingqalelo. Uvele esazi kakuhle ukuba la magama ayenzi, akakwazi ukuthetha, kodwa uyaqhubeka enza njalo. Kule minyaka, sele kunzima kakhulu ukucwenga umntwana ukuba afunge, kodwa umgaqo-mpu melelo wempumelelo, njengangaphambili, uxolo lwabazali. Kungcono ukuqala ngengxoxo eyimfihlo ngolwimi oluthile olucolileyo, mcele ukuba achaze intsingiselo yamagama awasebenzisayo ngokukhawuleza. Makhe azame ukwenza ukuba kutholakale kuye: uya kuxelela okanye ukudweba. Inokwenzeka ukuba, umntwana ngokwakhe akayiqondi into ayithethayo. Ngako oko, unako ukukopela - endaweni yegama elihlazo elinomsindo ofanayo kunye nesigqibo esivamile, njengokuthi ulungisa umntwana. Ukuba ukhetho olunjalo alukwazi, ke kuyimfuneko kwaye kulula ukuyichazela umntwana intsingiselo yeziqalekiso, ugxininisa ukuba la mazwi akhathaza kakhulu kwaye akunakutsho njalo.
- Ngeminyaka elinesibhozo okanye elishumi elinambini, amagama "abadala" abe ngumntwana inzame yokujoyina ihlabathi elidala, likhule emehlweni abo, lizuze intsapho yabo. Kule minyaka, abazali baya kuba nzima, kuba igunya labo ngeli xesha lithe gqwa. Kodwa nangona kule minyaka ungakwazi ukulwa nolwimi olungcolileyo: cacisa umntwana ukuba iziqalekiso emlonyeni wakhe zibukeka ziyiziphukuphuku kwaye ziyingane, loo nto inomdla kunye nentlonelo ibangelwa kuqala kunye nabathethekileyo ngabo bathetha kakuhle kwaye banokwenza ngokufanelekileyo, kungekhona lowo olwa. Ungakwazi kwakhona ukuvelisa inkqubo yezohlwayo: ngokuba onke amazwi afungayo umntwana uya kufuneka afunde inkondlo, kwaye xa kungalaleli-ukulahlekelwa yimali , ukuhamba okanye imidlalo yekhompyutha. Ukuba umatshini uba
Umntwana uthetha ukukhupha umsindo kunye nentukuthelo, ngokokuqala, abazali kufuneka babonise umntwana ukuba bayayiqonda imiva yakhe, intlungu yakhe, kodwa oku akumniki ilungelo lokufunga, kuba kukho ezinye iindlela zokubonisa iimvakalelo. - Kubantwana abaneminyaka elilishumi elinambini okanye elishumi elinesine, umatshini uyayeka ukuba yindlela yokunxibelelana. Umntwana sele sele eqonda ngokucacileyo intsingiselo yegama ngalinye kwaye uyisebenzise kuphela xa kuyimfuneko, uzama ukungawasebenzisi esikolweni nakwikhaya, usuke udlulela kwi- slang . Ukumisa intombazana ixhaswa kwaye inkolelo encinci iya kunceda kwinkampani yabahlobo: abazali kufuneka bamxelele (ngokuthe ngqo okanye ngokungathanga ngqo) ukuba, ngokweengcali zengqondo, kuphela abo abangenalo ithemba kubo kunye neengxaki zobomi ngokwesondo abayilwaphuliyo ngokungafanelekileyo ukusebenzisa ulwimi olungcolileyo.