Umgangatho onjalo, njengokuzithemba, awunikelwa kubafazi besuka ekuzalweni, kufuneka ufundiswe kwaye "ukhule" ngokwabo ngokubhekiselele kubunzima bobubomi. Ukuze uqiniseke, kufuneka ufunde indlela yokuzithandayo, ukuzinyamezela nokuzifezekisa ngokwakho, ukwazi ukusebenzisa ingqondo nengqondo.
Abasetyhini babonwa njengabameli bezesondo ezibuthathaka, kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba bonke bayabakhuseleka kwaye bakhuselekanga. Indalo yendalo yindoda - ukukhusela isondo ebuthathaka - kaninzi ikhuphisana nomnqweno wokufezekisa ubungqina obuqinileyo, ngoko ke amadoda akhangwa ngabafazi abazizithemba. Iimvakalelo zokuzithemba zisoloko zenza ukuba inzondo ibe yintombi ebuthathaka. Abantu abaninzi bafuna ukuhamba ngobuso bekratshi ebusweni babo phantse nayiphi na imeko, kodwa abazi ukuba bangathembeka kangako, kodwa oku kuyimfuneko - umnqweno oqinileyo, amandla anelungelo lokuziphatha kunye nokuxhomekeka kwimoya ukuze kube namandla omoya, okhethwe ngabantu be- choleric ne-sanguine.
Ukuba unomnqweno wokuba ngumfazi othembekileyo, qalisa ukuzama ukutshintsha utshintsho olukhethiweyo. Khumbula ukuba "umsebenzi onzima kakhulu usebenza kuwe." Akudingeki ufunde kuphela ukubona okulungileyo kuzo zonke izibonakaliso ezijikelezayo, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo ubona ukubetha kwexesha elizayo.
Naliphina isiganeko sinokungenani ubuncwane bokuhle okanye inzuzo kuwe - funda ukugqamisa le nto kwaye uyisebenzise, ukuba "uzinamathele" kumacala angalunganga - uya kulahlekelwa yimali yokuzithemba kwaye ingozi ibe yintlanzi. Naluphi na ubunzima kunye nokujika okubukhali kwi-destiny kufuneka uqikelele ngamehlo enkqonkqo, emva kokuba wonke umntu othembekileyo uyazi, ukuba "zonke iinguqu ezona zilungileyo".
Indlela yokuzithemba nokuphumelela?
Ukuphumelela kwishishini kuxhomekeke kwinqanaba lokuzithemba kwizenzo, ngenxa yokuba ungathandabuzeki kwaye uqaphele, ngokukodwa izenzo zakho zichanekile ngokuchanekileyo. Ukucamngca kwexesha elide kwaye "ukulinganisa" kuveliswa kuphela "ngamanyathelo athathekayo" angalunganga, kwaye kungekhona ngokuzimelela, ezenzelwe izenzo. Emva kwakho konke, ngelixa "ulinganisa amaxesha asixhenxe", umntu unalo ixesha lokubamba, uzame, ukubuyisela okanye ukuphindaphinda kwaye sele uvele u "gqoka".
Abantu abanokuzithemba banelisekile kwaye abanakuze babe nomona, abakwazi nje ukucinga ukuba "Ndifuna izicathulo ezinjengeye" okanye "isikhwama sakhe siphezulu kunami", kuphela "Ndikhethile izicathulo ezintle kakhulu" zizelwe entlokweni yam okanye "Ndifumene isikhwama esiphumelele kakhulu izicathulo zam obomvu. " Ewe, akulula ukutshintsha iingcamango zakho, kodwa ufunde ukuqonda oko unakho, kwaye usebenzise kangako, kwaye ungakhange ukhangele "nomlomo ovulekile" nomona onomona.
Xa senze isigqibo - ndifuna ukuzithemba, fundisa indlela yokwakha ngokufanelekileyo amagama kunye nezivakalisi, oko kukuthi. Kubalulekile ukuvakalisa iingcamango zakho ngendlela yokuba abantu bangayiva, kodwa baphulaphule amazwi akho. Ngoko, umzekelo, umntu othembekileyo akaze aqale ingxabano kunye negama elithi "Wena", uchaza isikhundla sakhe ngegama elithi "I". Zama ukuqalisa ingxoxo yasekhaya nomyeni wakhe malunga naluphi uhlobo lomzila omele ulubone ngalobu busuku, kungekhona ngegama elithi "usuvele ufumene imoto yakho yokuloba"
Ukulahleka imeko efanayo kumsebenzi. Musa ukuthetha nabo osebenza nabo ngelizwi "kodwa andiphulaphuli", uthi "Ndikuxelela ngako" okanye "kwindlela yam, namhlanje usebenze kakubi", njl njl. Kakade, musa ukulibala ngokuthotyelwa, ukuba unquma ukuba yintombi "yensimbi," ungagxumi phezu kwentloko yomphathi. Kodwa ukuba umgomo wakho ukuhlala kwisihlalo esiholayo, senze ngokuqinile, kodwa ngokuthe ngcembe kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, ulawulo lwakho luya kuqonda imisebenzi yakho.
Ukuba unemiqondiso ye-phlegmatic okanye i-melancholic kwaye ucinge ngendlela yokwenza uxolo kunye nokuzithemba, yenza yonke into ekhulelwe ngendlela eqhelekileyo, ungafuneki "ukuqhubeka" nomntu, kodwa ufunde ukuxabisa nokuthanda yonke into oyenzayo.