Kwihlabathi lanamhlanje, ukuthanda izinto ezininzi kunokoqobo. Nangona kunjalo, xa le mvakalelo iba nzima kwaye umntu ovela kwizinto eziqhelekileyo eziphathekayo ezenza isithixo, kuyafaneleka ukucinga ukuba oku kuqhelekileyo. Sincoma ukuba sithole ukuba ngubani umntwana.
Kuthetha ukuthini umntwana?
Akuyena wonke umntu owaziyo ngentsingiselo yegama lomntwana. Ivela kwisiPutukezi esithi "i-feitic", ekuguqukiseni ithetha "ukusetyenziswa kweKatolika". Phakathi kwezinto ezinjalo - iintlobo zabangcwele, ubuhla bemilingo kunye nezinye izinto zobuxoki. Emva kwexesha elithile, izinto eziqhelekileyo ezibonakalayo zaqala ukubizwa ngokuba yili gama - iziqithi zomthi, amatye, iimbiza, iiflethi, iintsiba kunye neenhlamvu.
Kamva, eli gama lisekho "fetiche" nelithi "fetich" lwaziwa ngesiFrentshi, isiNgesi kunye nezinye iilwimi zaseYurophu. Ngoku ngesiFrentshi lithetha "isithixo, i-talisman". U-Comte wandisa kakhulu kwaye wababiza ngokuba ngumbono onobuqhetseba kubantu bokuqala kwimpahla yezinto eziphathekayo kunye nenkolo yokuqala. Kwaye ngoku abaninzi abanosululwazi babhekisela kwingcamango yobufestile njengenkcubeko yezilwanyana, iziganeko zendalo kunye nezityalo.
Fetishism kwifilosofi
Ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukubeleka kuqhutyelwa ngamalungu esondo esomeleleyo. Nangona kunjalo, kukho iimeko xa abafazi bekhanga kwizinto. Ukuqonda ukuba umntu unenkxalabo, kubalulekile ukwazi izibonakaliso zobuntwa:
- Akunjalo ngokuvakalayo okuqhelekileyo okuphazamisa ukulala ngokwesondo. Umzekelo unokuhlala ulala ngokwesimo esinye kwaye emva kokusela utywala.
- Umntu ojongene nokuxhomekeka okunjalo akakwazi ukuzama ezinye iindlela zokwanelisayo, kuba umnxibelelwano sele usemkhwa wokudibanisa naziphi na izithethe. Ngenxa yesi sifo, abafestile abakwazi ukunyamekela ngokupheleleyo ngesondo.
- Izigulane zinokwenza zonke iintlobo zezenzo ezinxulumene nezinto ezingapheliyo, ezihambelana neengcamango ezingenanto .
- Emva kwithuba elithile, indima yento yokudumisa iya kuba yinto ebaluleke kakhulu, kwaye ubukho bayo bubunzima bokufumana ukwaneliseka.
- Inomdla kumdlalo odlala indima.
Ubuntwa - ingqondo
Isazi sengqondo esaziwayo sase-Austrian sisifo sika-Sigmund Freud fetishism saqala ukuhlola ngo-1927. Ngokombono wakhe, uyaphambukela kwisikhokelo sokuqala sesondo. Uyaqiniseka ukuba umntwana uyisiphumo sezenzakalo ezithile ezibuhlungu ezinokuthi zenzeke ebuntwaneni, kwaye zifumene ngokwazo. Le meko inokuphuhliswa kwiimeko xa umntu engaqapheli ubunikazi bakhe, okanye ukhetha inxaxheba yezesondo ezingalunganga.
Abo baphethwe ngumntwana ekugqibeleni babe nobudlelwane nomama wabo osondeleyo kwiintsholongwane. UBawo, kwaye ngokubanzi abantu abanjalo babonwa njengengafanelekanga ingqalelo. NgokukaFreud, kunokubekho esinye isizathu sokuqala kwesifo-ukunyanzelwa komntwana ukusuka kwicala lomntu wasemzini - unina. I-psychoanalyst yathi i-fetishism ayinakubizwa ngokuba yindlela yokuphambuka ekuziphatheni okuqhelekileyo.
Fetishism - unqulo
Kwakwamukelwa ukuba ahlukanise ukuzalwa komntwana. Kuqondwa njengento yonqulo yonqulo yezinto ezingenanto, ezinokuthi zithatyathwe kwiipropati ezahlukeneyo eziye zithandwa nakwezinye izizwe zakudala. Le ntsebenzo iyenzeka kwiintsuku zethu. Umzekelo unqulo lwezinto ezinqabileyo kwiBuddhism kunye nokunqula iBlack Stone kwi-Islam.
Kwihlabathi lanamhlanje kukho ezininzi iintshukumo ngeendlela zeengqungquthela ezahlukeneyo kunye neziqhelo. Izinto ezinjalo zidla ngokubakho kwiimpawu zomlingo kunye nokukwazi ukuzisa inhlanhla kumntu, ukukhusela kwiintlungu. Le talisman yenzelwe ukukhusela umnini wayo ekungonwabiseni. Ngokuqhelekileyo umxholo wokubonga unokuba yinxalenye yento enkulu-ilitye ephuma entabeni ehloniphekileyo, isiqwenga somthi ongcwele okanye umzobo wesilwanyana esingcwele.
Fetishism kunye neTotemism
Ookhokho bethu babesazi oko babibiza ngokuba ngumntwana, besenza izinto ezahlukeneyo baze bakholelwe ngamandla abo angaphezu kwamandla. Esi sifundo esikhethekileyo sinokuthi yonke into edibaniswe nesiganeko esibalulekileyo ebomini bomntu okanye nje esichukumisa ingcamango yakhe. Ukubonakaliswa kwe-fetish kungabonwa ngokudumisa:
- ngamatye aqhelekileyo;
- iqela lomthi;
- iinxalenye zomzimba wezilwanyana;
- imifanekiso yamatye, isinyithi kunye nemithi.
Ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka ukuba into ekhethiweyo ingasetyenziselwa njengomntwana. Ukuba umniniyo unenhlanhla, kwakukholelwa ukuba le ngongoma inikwe igunya lomlingo . Ukuba kuyimfuneko, inokuthi ithathe indawo enye. Ezinye izizwana zazinokwenza isiko, ngokwemiqathango eyayiyimfuneko yobomi, kokubili ukubonga nokujezisa. Ukukhulelwa kwaba yiindawo zezinto ezininzi. Kungaba yintonga engumthi okanye umzobo kunye nesilwanyana esihloniphekileyo.
Yintoni umntwana ebusini?
Into enjengokuzalwa kwesondo ayikho into engavamile. Ngokuqhelekileyo kubancedisi be-Fetishism into evuyayo kukuba:
- zangaphantsi zabesifazane;
- izicathulo eziphezulu;
- ubomvu;
- iiglavu;
- izinto zangasese zangasese.
Into yokubonga iyimeko ebalulekileyo yokuvuselela ngokwesondo, kungekhona umnqweno oqhelekileyo wokwenza ubomi bezesondo ezahlukeneyo. Abaninzi abalandeli besikhokelo sokubamba okanye baqwalasela umntwana baze bafikelele. Ngaloo ndlela isatifiketi sezesondo okanye isenzo senzeke okanye kwenzeke nanoma yimuphi umnikazi wento enikwe, ngaphandle kokuxhomekeka kwiimpawu zakhe.
Kuthetha ukuthini umtsalane?
Ngamanye amaxesha abantu abasondeleyo kunye nomntu ngokwakhe akayi kucacile xa uthakazelwano lwento nayiphi na into kunokuthiwa yinto eqhelekileyo, kwaye xa i-pathology efuna uncedo lugqirha. Abaninzi bethu banokukhangela izinto ezithile kwaye banefuthe elikhuthazayo. Nangona kunjalo, i-pathology ingabizwa ngokuba yimeko apho umntu engenomdla kwiimpawu zakhe zeqabane, kodwa ukhanga kuphela iimpahla zakhe okanye ezinye izinto. Oko kukuthi, into yokubanjwa ngabantu abanjalo inkulu kwaye inomdla othile.
Isizathu sokufelwa
Akukho mntu oza kuthethana nento yokuba ukutshatyalaliswa nokungaqhelekanga zizinto ezihambelanayo. Nangona kunjalo, lo mpawu unengcambu. Phakathi kwezizathu zokubonakala komntwana:
- izifo zesini;
- ukukhathazeka ngokomzwelo nangomntu;
- umbutho wesinye okanye esinye isifundo kunye nokuvuswa kwezesondo ebuntwaneni;
- ukwesaba ulwalamano lwangempela ngokwesini kunye neqabane.
Kwixesha elizayo, umntu angasebenzisa umfanekiso kunye novumba lento, okanye uvakalelo olunzulu ukwenzela ukuphumeza umdla. Iimbangela zokufeshela kwanamhla azizange zifundwe. Phantse wonke umntu unokhuthazo oluthile apho angasabela ngokukhawuleza. Ngenxa yoko kunokugqitywa ukuba phantse bonke abantu bazalwa benesifo esithile sokuzalwa.
Ziziphi i intsana?
Kukho iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zesisu zobundlobongela:
- iimpahla zengubo;
- iinxalenye zomzimba womntu;
- izinto kunye nezilwanyana;
- iimpawu zokuziphatha, ukubonakala kunye neendleko.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, loo mntwana uba ngumntu onxulumene nesini esahlukileyo. Amaxesha amaninzi amathandekayo amakhwenkwe amadoda a:
- zangaphantsi;
- izitokisi;
- iimbombo;
- bras;
- izicathulo;
- yunifomu.
Ezi zintlobo ze-fetish zineenkwenkwezi zabo zihlala zigqoka iimpahla zesini esahlukileyo. Apha kukho ukutshintshiselwa kwesisu. Ehlabathini loMhlaba ophumayo, ubu fetishism buye baba yintlobo yeentlawulo, apho bathengisa khona ingubo engasayi kuhlamba. Yazi ukuba ngumntwana nobathandi beendawo ezithile zomzimba:
- i inwele;
- izilonda zentloko;
- iinyawo;
- iinyawo.
Ungaphila nomntwana ongumntwana?
Xa isibini esitshatileyo sine-fetishist, ngamanye amaxesha kuya kuba yinkathazo enzima kule mbhangqwana. Ngokuqhelekileyo ebomini bomntu siqu kulo mhlaba, kunokuvela ingxabano, ekugqibeleni ekukhokelela ekubambeni ubudlelwane. Ngokuqhelekileyo, uthando ngezinto kunye nezinto zibonakala kubantu. Isiqingatha sesibini sinokutshatyalaliswa ngabantwana abangabonakaliyo, phakathi kwezinto ezingabhaliweyo. Ukuba umntu ohlala nomntwana ongumntwana ongathandabuzekiyo akanakhathazeka kakhulu ngokuzalwa kwakhe, unokushiya njengoko kunjalo, kodwa ukuba imeko ibe yinkinga kubini, kubalulekile ukuphendukela kwi-sexologist okanye kwi-psychotherapist.
Indlela yokulahla umntwana?
Ukuba isibini sakho sibini sifanele sifunde ukuba yintoni umntwana, zama ukukrazula le ngxaki. Enye yezilwanyana zonyango oluchanekileyo ngonyango ophezulu. Le ndlela yindlela eqhelekileyo kune-psychotherapy of fetishism, kodwa ngoncedo lwayo iziphumo ezifunwayo zingafumaneka ngokukhawuleza. Apha, unyango lwe-fetish luvela kwindlela elandelayo-isigulane, esithandwa kwinto, sibonisa kwaye ngexesha elifanayo umzimba wayo uboniswe kumbane wamanzi. Okanye njengendlela yokukhetha, banike amayeza anokubangela isicarucu.