Phantse wonke umntu unesimo esinzima, abaninzi banokwesaba okukhulu okungavumeleki ukuba baphile ngokuqhelekileyo, kodwa ngenxa yokuzixabisa. Kwaye inxalenye ebaluleke kakhulu kukuba kunzima kakhulu ukuqaphela le ngxaki, kunqabile ukuba ngubani oqonda ukuba khona kwayo. Ngenxa yoko, umntu uchitha amandla amaninzi kumava angenangqiqo, anokuya kwizinto ezinobulumko ngakumbi.
Ingqiqo yokuzixabisa ngokwengqondo
Kumele ukuba udibene nabantu abanenkxalabo malunga nokubonakala kwabo emehlweni abo. Bakulungele ukwenza nantoni na ukuba bajonge "inhlonipho". Enyanisweni, iimvakalelo zokuzixabisa zibonisa ukugqithiseka okanye ukunyaniseka, abantu baziphethe ngokuzingca kwaye baqhayisa, babonisa ukuziqhenya, bahlala bekhononda ngobomi, baxhalabele ukungaphumeleli kwabo, abazi indlela yokulawula iminqweno yabo, bahlala befumana ukulungelelanisa ubuthathaka babo. Ngamanye amaxesha kunokubonakala ngathi ukuzixabisa kuthetha ukuzithemba , kodwa iingqondo zisiqinisekisa ukuba le yinto echasene nayo. Ukungakhuselekanga kwabo akuvumeli ukuba abantu baphendule ngokwaneleyo oko kwenzekayo, bacinga ukuba umntu uhlala efuna ukubacaphukisa, aphule amalungelo abo, nangayiphi na ingozi. Ngako oko, abantu abanjalo banokudangala kwihlabathi "elibi" okanye bazame nzima ukuzibiza ngeendleko zabo.
Ukujongana nombono wokuzibaluleka kokubaluleka akulula, kodwa umphumo uya kuhlawula yonke imizamo. Ekubeni ukungabikho kwalesi sizathu kuya kusenza sikwazi ukujonga izinto ngokukhawuleza, ukukhulula amandla amaninzi ayesetyenziswa ukulwa neentshaba ezicingayo. Kwaye ukuze ufumane ukubaluleka kokunikezela ngokukhawuleza, phawula ngokwakho, kungekhona kwabanye abantu, ulungise utshintsho lwezenzo zakho, kwaye ungaxeleli indlela yokuhlala.